Holistic Counselling with Zeynep

03/08/2026

03/08/2026

25/07/2022

There’s a lot of buzz around “The Mother Wound” but equally as important to that is

The Father Wound.

Being a women’s Counsellor, I specialise in helping women heal their family wounds by breaking inherited beliefs, cycles, behaviours and patterns.

Many of the women I work with carry some type of a parental wound.

A dis-attachment, or sever in their relationship with a parent.

The Father Wound can create issues around attachment and development in both boys and girls.

Having a father who was:

-Absent psychologically or physically
-Strict or overbearing
-Passive in his role
-Deceased
And many other factors

All contribute to a rupture in what is a healthy child-parent relationship.

Having a complicated relationship, or no relationship at all can create profound impact on an individual’s self-esteem and other relationships far into the future.

In a study conducted by Kostos and Flynn(2012), children who had paternal absenteeism was at a great risk of substance abuse, school mis-conduct and antisocial behaviour.

Of the 15% of one-parent families in Australia in June 2021, 79.8% of those were led by single mothers, making father absenteeism rampant. But fatherlessness doesn’t just have to mean having an absent dad.

As U.K.-based psychologist Mari Kovanen explains, there is also pain in not having a “good enough” father, and such pain could lead to low confidence, anxiety, depression, anger and rage, too rigid boundaries, too loose boundaries, and having relationships with emotionally unavailable partners.

Whatever your scenario entailed, there are steps you can take to begin healing the father wound.

I’m Zeynep and my passion is all things families. Family discords, family conduct, family units and systems are all areas of expertise I can help you solve individually. And by doing so, I help you break free from the chains of inherited family behaviours, beliefs, cycles and unhealthy patterns.

If you would like to explore your family wound and seek counselling for this, send me a DM for. 1:1 session towards a healthier happier you!

22/07/2022

Toxic family members are the main source of a poor quality of life.

The reality of living with a toxic family member is the binding, life long ordeal of having them present in your life.

Some toxic family members come in the form of:

-Toxic mothers & fathers
-Toxic siblings
-Toxic grandparents
-Toxic Aunts/Uncles
-Toxic Cousins

Although you have the option to place limits and boundaries around how often you allow them into your life, some family members are there for the long haul.
(I.e children)

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18/07/2022

Broken homes aren’t just the definition of divorced families.

Broken homes are also dysfunctional toxic households that churn out broken people into society.

An unhappy family member will seek comfort, belonging and happiness in the realms outside of their home.

Through pursuits such as:

-Friends (not all friends are good influence)
-A place to “hang out”
-Drug or alcohol abuse as escapism
-Overworking to avoid going home
Etc etc

If you came from a broken home or family system, it’s likely that you re unfamiliar with what a safe family home feels like.

So how do you achieve creating a safe family sanctuary for yourself and your family?

-Quality therapy
-Marriage counselling if your relationship is the cause of family discords
-Family or group therapy
-Self development to kickstart your self-awareness box
-Reflecting on your role in the family dynamic and ONLY on your role

Breaking modelled behaviour is hard, but very rewarding in the long term as you see the fruits of your labour in real time.

What are some ways you’re breaking cycles in your own family home? I would love to know.

I’m Zeynep and I’m a women’s counsellor specialising in helping women break patterns, beliefs and cycles of behaviour inherited from their family upbringing. I help you break free from the chains of your childhood trauma and thrive towards becoming a happier, emotionally healthier version of yourself you were created to be. DM me today for a 1:1 session, I would love to work with you!