Dr Claire Mayers

21/10/2026

20/10/2026

Not just attention. People with ADHD face a 70 percent higher risk of death from any cause — and a 90 percent higher risk from su***de. A major review found that ADHD medication may reduce the risk.
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15/10/2026

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14/10/2026

This is big

14/10/2026

Yes, it's odd.⁠
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But many childhood trauma survivors go into their heads when triggered and try to understand why an abusive person is being abusive. ⠀⁠
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Why did they say it like that?⠀⁠
Am I being selfish here when they promised?⠀⁠
Did I not read that they were in a bad mood?⠀⁠
WTF? Why does it always go like this?⠀⁠
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For example, growing up with an abusive alcoholic mother, I experienced a consistent ⠀⁠
confusing pattern: ⠀⁠
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1) On a Sunday, she agreed to take me to get something for school or Boy Scouts on Tuesday. ⠀⁠
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2) Monday, she drank heavily - all day. ⠀⁠
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3) Tuesday - experienced a severe hangover.⠀⁠
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4) Tuesday - Raged at me about why I was asking to go to the place we discussed on Sunday.⠀⁠
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(why did she have to "do everything"? Can't I just leave her alone? Why don't I go ask someone else)⠀⁠
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5) Being triggered to deep shame, a twelve-year-old me has confusing racing thoughts about whether she is right about me and why I wasn't being more sensitive and resourceful. Why did I suck so much? ⠀⁠
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The confusion protected me from the reality that she was alcoholic and abusive, which would have been too much - too painful - she was still the only home base I had. ⠀⁠
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Sound familiar? ⠀⁠
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We grow up and find similar people who can confuse us with their reactions, and what's not good about it is the confusion prevents us from making the DECISION that the person is abusive and not good for us. ⠀⁠
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That wasn't an option growing up, but it's an option now. ⠀⁠
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Do you still protect yourself from the reality that the person is abusive? What would you feel if you decided that was the case? ⠀⁠
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We trade the confusion for a different type of discomfort, but one that helps us value and protect ourselves instead of swimming is all that triggering, shaming, and confusing mess.⠀⁠
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I wouldn't have been confused if I got help about the person's confusing, contradicting, and abusive behavior. ⠀⁠
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What do you think?

13/10/2026