13/08/2026
Sometimes the hardest moments are not being told bad news…
Sometimes the hardest moments are being told that things are uncertain….
“We don’t know what will happen”
“We don’t know if this will work”
Sometimes, you will be asked to make, or to help make, a decision where the outcomes seem vague or abstract
“With option 1, the treatment can be very successful but some people get severe side effects; with option 2, the treatment may not work as well but it is also easier to tolerate…”
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⭐️The first important point is⭐️
“When a decision is hard, it is because neither option is better than the other overall. Hard choices are hard, not because of us or our ignorance, but because there is no best option”
How to make hard choices - Ruth Chang
https://lnkd.in/eSg82W9V
So, how can we try to navigate uncertainty when making decisions?
💫 Your loved one is your guiding star 💫
- if they can be involved, even just a little bit, their healthcare team should time conversations so they can be at their best with the most energy and focus possible
- If they can’t be involved,
💫their wishes
💫their preferences
💫the person they are
💫what has been important to them
will be your guide
🌱What would they have wanted?
🌱What have they said previously about similar situations?
🌱Do you have anything written down?
When neither option is better than the other, making a hard choice through uncertainty is an opportunity to express who your loved one is…
💫 Who will they be in these difficult moments?
💫 How do we best honour the person they are?
⭐️⭐️⭐️ This is the second in a short series of posts I’m going to write for people supporting someone they love through serious illness — some of the things I wish families were told sooner ⭐️⭐️⭐️
First post here: https://l1nk.dev/pdwp9og
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Hi, 👋🏻 I’m Katie Weatherstone, a UK-trained Palliative Medicine Consultant.
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