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19/10/2026

Ok with not knowing??

There is a change happening. Over time, probably with access to current technologies, people want to “know” the answers when in uncertainty.

It could be medical or relational, or legal or interpersonal or or finding the “best” whatever or whom ever, or even “where do I know that actor from”. It’s all a not-knowing that immediately wants to convert to a knowing.

On the surface it’s pretty innocent. A quick check on Google, or asking AI bots. And then we get our hit of “knowing”, of relief, of reassurance.

And this pattern reinforces a deeper need at a deeper level. The need to banish uncertainty. The need to feel in control. The need to optimise and maximise everything. This of course generates anxiety over time. It is a huge feeder pattern.

Part of the human condition is not knowing. And to some degree, having trust in genuine human expertise in relevant areas. Are we losing that in order to feel like we can know it all ourselves?

To whatever degree is sensible, we need to be accepting of not knowing. We can not know and we can go on living well. We can do this in small and non-important ways. Imagine the early 90s and what we would do then if we didn’t know. Maybe that was better.

18/10/2026

Could you be under-stimulated?

Sometimes when we don’t feel right, there’s an urge to escape or rest. And that may be exactly what we need.

We also need to assess whether our stimulation tank might be needing a refill as well. There are a few different types of stimulation that we might think about:

My people: am I getting enough the “right kind of people” fuel?

My senses: am I getting enough of the right things to see, hear, smell, touch, and taste? And the right vibes or energy?

My brain: am I learning something, or having access to the right kind of ideas or creativity or challenge?

My feelings: am I getting access to the feelings I like, whether it’s peace, joy, excitement, love or other feelings?

Yes we may well be overstimulated. But maybe we are actually under-stimulated in terms of the things we really need. Anything strike you that you’d like to factor in??

13/10/2026

Appreciation needed??

Many people feel like they don’t receive enough overt appreciation in relationships, families and workplaces.

We can’t really ask for appreciation. So what CAN we do? Working within our locus of control is key.

We can have a general discussion about the importance of mutual appreciation and of verbalising it specifically. We can mention that everybody benefits from a general increase.

We can also begin being the one to voice appreciation. Just to give it, To be a part of the solution.

And most important of all, we can begin to be internally verbally appreciative. Of everything. Of events, of beauty, of nature, of positive exchanges, delays, people and of course ourselves.

No matter what’s going on, there is an aspect to appreciate. Enjoy finding it today!

12/10/2026

Can’t stop the thought loop?

Most thought loops are about worries or problems, both present and future. They can also be about past actions or confusions.

One way to exit the loop is to focus on our locus of control: identifying the parts of the situation that we can action in some way.

We can ask:
What can I do about this?
What parts are in my control?
What have I done in the past?
Who else could help with this?
What’s the first step?

If we help our mind stay on our lane of action then over time the system learns to go there a little faster.

And: there’s always something we can do, even if it’s changing our attitude, belief or approach to the situation. There’s power in that.

11/10/2026

Take your time today.

Urgency is a big stimulant. It can feel good, important, energising and productive. And it has a cost.

The cost is pressure. The cost is nervous system stress. The cost is overstimulation. The cost is flawed decision making. The cost is being out of sync with others who don’t feel urgent.

If it feel urgent on the inside, consciously slow down breathing, talking and action.

Slowing it down signals safety to the nervous system. The mind can follow the body just as the body can follow the mind.

The mantra is take your time. Enjoy.

06/10/2026

Days of awe:

Remember to check in with nature and other forms of beauty. We all need a little awe in the day.

Awe comes when we stop, notice, really look and see the show nature and the environment puts on for us.

The sky and the sunrise and the sunsets and the trees and the sea and the animals and the plants: yes, full of awe goodies if we notice.

And can you find the awe in urban landscapes, in city scenes, within traffic, in a concrete moment?

Awe can be found everywhere and anywhere. We need to look and we need to take a moment to see beyond the obvious.

Collect multiple awe moments for prizes of increased peace and joy.

05/10/2026

What would you advise a close friend??

Think of something you’ve had trouble moving forward on or have inner conflict with.

If your close and beloved friend had this issue, how would you advise them if you were completely honest?

Doing a one-step-removed advice session often provides us with exactly what we need to hear, even if we don’t want to hear it!

So, what are the pieces of wisdom you’d choose??

04/10/2026

Feelings first, fixing later!

If we are pi**ed off about something or upset or sad, generally we just want to say that first.

And saying it isn’t enough. The listener needs to validate by saying something like “yes, that is really upsetting/annoying/messed up” and somehow “joining” in the emotional content.

Even if we’re talking to ourselves it’s ok to validate the feelings first; in fact research suggests that emotional naming and validation reduces the pain sensation.

Once we feel heard (by ourselves as well as others) we can work out if any action needs to be taken.

Just don’t skip the first step. Hear those emotions. Feelings first!

29/09/2026

Create some space:

Take as many pauses as possible. Wait before responding or replying.

Do one thing at a time. No “multi tasking”, which is really just one thing at a time in small fractured pieces.

Go on walks without a phone or noise-maker.

Sit in silence for a bit and just stare at something pleasant.

Take the long way. The quiet way. The slow way. On purpose.

There’s no rush. It all works out.

28/09/2026

What do you need today?

Check in on yourself. Ask what you really need. Is it a need or a want?

Can you give yourself what you need? Can someone else help?

If you can’t give what you need for yourself due to circumstances, what’s the next best thing?

Even if we can’t always meet our own needs, it’s important to notice and check in. And to give it a crack.

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