Kellie Sheldon - Trauma and Sex Counsellor

Kellie Sheldon - Trauma and Sex Counsellor I know what you want more than anything right now is healthy relationships, attachments and s*xual freedom to be who you are. You can make changes.

🫠Still feeling stuck after trauma?

🌷Therapy for childhood & s*xual trauma survivors
🫶🏼Helping your body & mind feel safe again - EMDR & parts work
📍 2 locations in Perth,online across Australia
🪴 A place to understand trauma & take back your life. For that to happen, though, you need a safe space filled with empathy where judgement and shame cannot survive. The problem is trusting somebody to be

that individual with whom you can explore and discuss your true self without fear of being shamed, judged, or misunderstood, this makes you feel like something is wrong with you, and you are a lost cause. I believe unconscious patterns are the driving force behind troubled relationships, attachments and s*xual concerns. We know patterns come from trauma, family secrets and lies, and parenting styles. I understand it's scary and exhausting to look inside and make changes. However, I know you are resilient, brave, and full of hope. That's why I sit with you during your time of pain, and confusion and help you understand life and yourself, as a whole, not just parts. We will draw your family tree, look into your lifeline and explore your memories. We will look at your future, past and present to gain a complete picture of who you are - and all at your own pace. Here's how it works: we start by getting comfortable with each other, explore your past, set goals for change and understanding, and then work together to achieve them in an open, authentic, and protected environment. So, take the most challenging step and connect with me today, book an appointment, or simply call. You can stop feeling alone and confused, start being who you want to be, live a life of joy, and have successful relationships. I am a University qualified psychotherapist and counsellor with a special interest in relationships, attachment styles, family of origin, trauma, inner child work, and s*xuality. I also work within the scope of anxiety, depression, loss, and grief. I am a member of The Australian Counselling Association (ACA).

22/08/2026

Sometimes the person who’s shows a child love and attention, makes time for them, and listens to them, is also the person causing them harm.

This is confusing - people who are meant to love and care for a child are not meant to hurt and abuse them.

As a child, you can’t tell the difference between attention that’s genuine love and something more sinister, because grooming isn’t meant to be understood from the inside - that’s the point of it.

All a child knows is someone is spending time with them - especially if others aren’t - and it makes them feel important.

Those feelings a child has towards the adult are real - the caring for them is real.

What a child understands and feels is simple - someone is spending time with them, and they feel seen, loved, heard and safe.

None of this means a child invites the s*xual abuse in because they enjoyed the connection. They were responding to what was on offer and what they were experiencing in the moment.

Being groomed was never a child’s fault - ever.

If this feels familiar and you’d like a place where content about CSA is kept real, follow along.

There's a kind of grief that doesn't have a photo to point to. No incident, no date, nothing you can name and say "that'...
20/08/2026

There's a kind of grief that doesn't have a photo to point to. No incident, no date, nothing you can name and say "that's when it happened."

It's the whole childhood that should have been there and wasn't. The ordinary, boring, safe version other people got to have without even noticing they had it.

You don't always know you're grieving it. It just shows up sideways, in someone else's memory, in a stranger's photo, in a moment that has nothing to do with you and somehow still makes you feel a tightness in your chest..

I know its hard to sit with and feel, but sometimes you don’t have a choice as these memories have been around you, and always will be.

With some support, the right support, the pain you feel won’t hurt as much.
Save this for the day it catches you off guard.

Some experiences are hard to talk about because naming them and speaking the story outloud either makes them real, or ch...
18/08/2026

Some experiences are hard to talk about because naming them and speaking the story outloud either makes them real, or changes the story.

We are talking about what childhood looked like and meant, what love meant, and why certain things never made sense. We wonder why s*x, relationships, trust and the relationship we have in bodies can feel more complicated that anyone seems to understand.

A lot of this, we carry silently and in secret for years, sometimes decades.

This page talks about all the parts of childhood s*xual abuse and s*xual trauma that doesn’t make any sense or pass the pub test. ��Sweet little awareness posts have their purpose, but they are not always real or deep enough. �

This topic is complicated, it’s uncomfortable, and it’ isolating. ��

Those who have experienced CSA think they are the only ones who feel this way, or have had this done to them. They think they are the only ones still carrying all the feelings that seem impossible to explain.��There is no shaming, no minimising, no denying what being an adult carrying all this is like - there’s also no need for any disclosure. ��All we want it to have conversations we should have been having a long time before the movemement began, and has since vanished from mainstream conversations. ��Come join us, even if, for now, you do it secretly.

Most people picture therapy and just talking. You sit down, tell the story, feel a bit lighter, go home.Somatic work is ...
17/08/2026

Most people picture therapy and just talking. You sit down, tell the story, feel a bit lighter, go home.

Somatic work is different, and if nobody's explained it to you, it can feel strange the first time. Less talking about what happened. More noticing what your body is still doing about it, right now, in the room. We do this without pressure or expectation.

Your body remembers a lot, even when you couldn't say a word about it. Somatic therapy is where it gets to understand what it’s holding and make sense of it all.
Save this for the day you need reminding what you're actually doing there.

It gets complicated when the things that helped you survive also became the things people liked about you. Your friends ...
14/08/2026

It gets complicated when the things that helped you survive also became the things people liked about you.

Your friends and family tell you that you're thoughtful, easy going, mature, independent, and good at reading people. You don't make a fuss and you're always thinking about what others need or would like.

For some people, these don't sound like problems and these behaviours and patterns go on for decades without being noticed.

For some survivors of CSA, keeping other people happy wasn't something about being kind, it helped keep them 'safe'. Survivors can be incredibly good at noticing the tinest changes in people's moods and tone; staying quiet wasn't always about being easy-going.

Staying small and sliding under the radar meant they got to feel and stay safer for that moment, or a moment longer.

Childhood ended, but those ways of being didn't. necessarily end with it. The rules and automatic behaviours came into adulthood too, eventually becoming what we call personality traits.

There is zero shame in this, but now as an adult, saying no can make survivors feel guilty becuase people get disappointed. Conflct makes your mind go blank and you find yourself agreeeing to everything, even though you know you want to say no. But saying no, that wasn't an option, and part of you still thinks it isnt.

What if, just for a moment, you imagine yourself saying no or speaking up? Choosing the movie or venue for dinner, or even expressing you just want to stay in? Or the big one - saying no to intimacy when your body is screaming at you to say no?

Childhood lessons and rules do not need to follow you into adulthood. Is it time to look at why you do things and not just 'its always how it's been'?

Sometimes understanding the impact of CSA starts with recongnising what you had to become to survive it.

If this gave you a different way of looking at something you've always called your personality, save it so you can come back and ponder it.

14/08/2026

Every time I sit with a new client and we get to the “finger wagging” part of EMDR, I watch their brains try to figure out WHY this is working.

Why is their body no longer reacting, why is the memory looking different?

“I can see that there were details I forgot, they were important. I don’t see myself as doing anything wrong now”

“My body isn’t freezing at touch now”

“I think I’m ready to try dating again”

“They should have done more to help me, this wasn’t just on me..”

These are real quotes from real people after doing Emdr.

If you’re on the fence, don’t be.

DM me if you want to know more or follow along for conversations no one has about CSA

14/08/2026

Because someone taught us that affection had conditions. That touch wasn’t safe. That closeness meant something would be required of us.

So now, when someone offers us something good with no strings attached, our nervous system doesn’t believe it. Our body remembers before our mind catches up.

It’s not about being difficult or damaged. It’s about survival instincts that once kept us safe but now keep us isolated.

You’re not broken for flinching at gentleness. You’re human, carrying something heavy, learning to trust that not everyone wants to hurt you.

And that’s hard work. Give yourself credit for still trying.

Reach out, or drop by our page and follow for more real content like this.

14/08/2026

For some people it works! BUT… it’s not for everyone.

Breathing was not safe for you when you were 10, why would it be safe for you now?

The switch is simply (yes simply) making your breath focus on something external of you. Use a candle, smell your coffee, or my favourite - play with a pinwheel! Your child parts will love that one 😆

When you stop focusing internally on how it feels it stops the panicking feeling. So try focus it on the external, it allows more present day sensations and grounding.

Give it a go and tell me what you’ve noticed!

12/08/2026

The day your child walked up to you and shared something that frightened them. They can tell you this because you made a space in your home where they felt safe enough to come to you and tell you, and knew you would listen.

They didn't need to guess what your response would be, they knew you had them. You'd believe them.
I know its hard to comprehend this because you didn't have the same experience, Im so sorry you didn't.

That gap between what you needed as a child and what you actually gave your own is the whole cycle broken, quietly, in one ordinary moment at the kitchen bench or in the car on the way home from school.

You didn't get a warning it was happening. You just showed up, the way you'd trained yourself to over years of work most people will never see. And your child got to have something you never had.

That was the moment everything changed. You probably walked straight past it without stopping to notice.

Save this. You gave your child something nobody gave you.

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