01/04/2025
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The thing about grief is that other people tend to forget you’re doing it. Or they think that after a week or two, you should be over it.
But you and I know it doesn’t work that way, right?
We have to somehow strike a balance between the act of grieving, and our total lack of control over it, along with the will to continue living life and making plans.
But grief is a tricky thing. There’s an array of thoughts and emotions I continue to face in my grief that’s somehow invisible and unfamiliar to everyone else. So, I talk about it, and write about it, in order to shed a little light on the unseen and unknown.
The only people who can understand this are those of us who have experienced a tremendous loss.
How do you explain to people who have no idea what you’re experiencing that it’s been several months and you’re still crying yourself to sleep? That you’re always sad?
How do you show them what you had to witness with your own eyes, or explain to them why you still just want the person you love to come back?
Here’s the thing…you can’t!
It’s not just their death that we struggle with, it’s also the regret of all the things said and done during the time in which they were still alive. And it’s in all the things you can’t say or do now that they’re gone.
It’s not just about the last interaction you had with someone, it’s about all of it: the birthdays, the holidays, the hugs, the talks, the trips together. It’s about the lifetime of good memories.
When someone you love is taken from you suddenly, your brain has a way of doing whatever it does when you experience a traumatic event, it holds onto it tight, and constantly floods you with thoughts of it.
The unfortunate truth is that we’re all susceptible to grief, because we’re all able to love. The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief. And I think it’s worth it.
Maybe nothing’s ever really gone? I don’t know.
But what I do know is that I’m still trying to reconcile the fact that every day is just another day without my loved one in it.
And…that will never change.
By: Gary Sturgis - Surviving Grief 🤍
Artist: Federico Infante 🤍