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08/09/2026

There is a version of me I think about often.

The woman who is exhausted from trying to hold everything together.

The woman who believed that if she loved hard enough, supported enough, stayed calm enough or found the right words then maybe things would change.

The woman who had slowly handed someone else the keys to her piece without even realising it…

If I could sit beside her now, I wouldn’t tell her what she should do

I wouldn’t tell her to stay

I wouldn’t tell her to leave

I would simply remind her that she is allowed to matter too

You can love someone deeply without making their healing your responsibility

You can support them without abandoning yourself

You can experience joy without betraying them

And you don’t have to wait for their life to change before you can begin changing yours

This is something I had to learn slowly, one piece at a time

And it’s now at the heart of the work that I do

I support people who have lost themselves while loving someone with Addiction to begin to find their way back to creating more steadiness, self trust and peace in their own lives, regardless of where their loved one is on their journey

Because you don’t have to wait for someone else else’s healing to begin in your own

And if you’re reading this and thinking I don’t even know where to begin finding myself again, my life beyond Addiction 1:1 support is a space where you can begin

A space to gently turn some of that key you’ve been giving everyone else back towards yourself

💜 send me a message with the word LIFE if you’d like to know more about working with me

Take care,
Nicole x

There is a version of me I think about often.The woman who is exhausted from trying to hold everything together.The woma...
07/09/2026

There is a version of me I think about often.

The woman who is exhausted from trying to hold everything together.

The woman who believed that if she loved hard enough, supported enough, stayed calm enough or found the right words then maybe things would change.

The woman who had slowly handed someone else the keys to her piece without even realising it…

If I could sit beside her now, I wouldn’t tell her what she should do

I wouldn’t tell her to stay

I wouldn’t tell her to leave

I would simply remind her that she is allowed to matter too

You can love someone deeply without making their healing your responsibility

You can support them without abandoning yourself

You can experience joy without betraying them

And you don’t have to wait for their life to change before you can begin changing yours

This is something I had to learn slowly, one piece at a time

And it’s now at the heart of the work that I do

I support people who have lost themselves while loving someone with Addiction to begin to find their way back to creating more steadiness, self trust and peace in their own lives, regardless of where their loved one is on their journey

Because you don’t have to wait for someone else else’s healing to begin in your own

And if you’re reading this and thinking I don’t even know where to begin finding myself again, my life beyond Addiction 1:1 support is a space where you can begin

A space to gently turn some of that key you’ve been giving everyone else back towards yourself

💜 send me a message with the word LIFE if you’d like to know more about working with me

Take care,
Nicole x

Happy Fathers Day to our wonderful husband, dad and poppy đź’ś
06/09/2026

Happy Fathers Day to our wonderful husband, dad and poppy đź’ś

04/09/2026

There was a version of me who truly believed that if I just loved hard enough, tried hard enough, fixed enough and held on tightly enough… maybe I could save him.

And I understand now how much of myself I lost trying to do exactly that.

Loving someone through Addiction can leave you feeling as though your own life has been placed on hold.

When they get better I can breathe…
When they stop, then I can relax…
When everything settles down, then I can start living again…

But what if their journey takes years?

What if it doesn’t look the way you hope it will?

Do you have to put your own life on hold while you wait?

For me, learning that I couldn’t save someone I loved was heartbreaking but eventually, it also became freeing.

Because it meant I could begin to understand that their choices where there is and mine were mine, and my life was mine.

Taking care of myself didn’t mean I loved him less.

Finding moments of joy didn’t mean I was abandoning him.

Getting support for myself didn’t mean I was giving up on him.

It meant I was beginning to find my way back to me.

And I think that’s something I would tell the version of myself. It was deep in the chaos…
You don’t have to wait for someone else’s life to change before you allow yourself to start living again.

Your healing doesn’t need to be dependent on their recovery.

You matter now.

Your life matters now.

And you are allowed to begin finding your way back to yourself, regardless of what someone else chooses đź’ś

If you’ve ever loved someone so deeply that you lost parts of yourself along the way, I hope this reminds you that you’re allowed to come back to you too.

🙏 if you’re loving someone through Addiction and you’re ready to start finding your way back to yourself, you’re welcome to reach out to learn more about the support that I offer

Take care,
Nicole x

🙏💜 please share with someone that needs to hear these words and save for you for the days when you need to hear the most x

01/09/2026

Everyone has advice for when your child is struggling with addiction

You need to be harder on them.
Set better boundaries.
Kick them out.
Cut them off.
Stop helping.
Let them live with the consequences.

And perhaps some of those things may feel right for some parents but what often gets missed is that these aren’t simple decisions when it’s YOUR child.

There can be guilt.

Fear.

The constant’what if’?

What if something happens to them?

What if they need me?

What if I get this wrong?

And after years of crisis, broken trust and trying to work out what to do, you may have lost trust in your own ability to make decisions at all.

So perhaps before we tell a parent what they should do, we need to ask what support they need.

Because rebuilding self trust, confidence and steadiness can be an important part of being able to navigate incredibly difficult decisions.

Not so someone else can tell you what to do but so you can begin to HEAR yourself again.

So the choices you make can feel more aligned with your values, your capacity and your relationship with your child, rather than being driven entirely by fear, pressure or someone else’s opinion.

You don’t need judgement 💜
You need support đź’ś

Take care,
Nicole

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28/08/2026

okay, so maybe telling them to p**s off his and always the most helpful response… But honestly, this is something I hear so often from parents whose child is struggling with Addiction.

People can have very strong opinions about what you should be doing…
Be harder on them.
Set firmer boundaries.
Stop giving them money.
Kick them out.
Cut them off.

And perhaps they’re saying these things because they’re scared to. They’re worried about your child and they’re worried about you.

But there is a difference between being concerned and telling someone how they should handle one of the most painful situations of their life?

What feels right for one family may not feel right for another.

You may not want to kick your child out.
You may not feel able to cut contact.
You may still want to help in certain ways.

That doesn’t make you weak, stupid or wrong.

And when every conversation becomes another lecture about what you’re doing wrong, something heartbreaking can happen…

YOU stop talking.
YOU stop reaching out.
YOU isolate yourself when what you actually need is connection.

And your child can feel judged to which may mean they withdraw more, stop sharing what’s really happening or stop reaching out for help.

Suddenly, everyone becomes more isolated.

You don’t need people around you who simply agree with everything you do but you do need support that allows you to think, feel and make decisions without being shamed for them.

A space where your needs matter to.
A space where you can hear yourself think.
You deserve support too đź’ś

That’s a big part of the work I do with loved ones of people experiencing Addiction.

If you’re navigating this and would like some support, DM me and we can have a conversation

Take care,
Nicole x

I hate AddictionI hate what it took from usI hate what it did to my familyI hate what it did to meBut I don’t hate my lo...
26/08/2026

I hate Addiction

I hate what it took from us

I hate what it did to my family

I hate what it did to me

But I don’t hate my loved one

And I think that’s an important distinction

You can hate the Addiction and everything it has taken whilst still loving, understanding and being incredibly proud of the person who is fighting their way back to themselves

Both things can be true đź’ś

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