30/09/2020
When I first changed my messaging last year to anti-diet, a well-meaning fitness influencer, with 1 million followers, slide into my DMs.
It started off friendly enough, but eventually it turned sour, a lot of snarky voice messages were exchanged and then I think we both blocked each other and both of us ended up feeling more convinced of our own opinions. Iāve since come to believe sheās even more wrong. LMAO.
She was actually very concerned and wanted to share that concern with me, to plead with me to reconsider my change of message and see the harm I was causing.
Her main concern was for the children and teenagers who would hear my anti-diet message, believe that their current weight was acceptable and thus essentially die early due to health complications.
This is not a joke. She was extremely serious. She genuinely felt that teenagers should not be made to feel that they can accept their bodies, they MUST change to be healthy.
I donāt believe itās presumptuous of me to believe that the overwhelming messaging in high school is that fat = bad. And that noise is loud.
That noise continues to be loud as we grow into adulthood. It continues to dominate every conversation, from diet talk at work, to late night dinners with friends, to the āob*sity epidemicā on TV, to the numerous ways that fat people are excluded from their environments, from employment, from clothingā¦
Fat people are constantly told āyou need to change to fit inā. So when somebody argues that fat people are not aware of their bodies, or how it impacts their experience in the world, I am skeptical to say the least.
I often get demanded to share both sides of the story, that itās not always healthy to have a high BMI.
But thatās not the story I believe needs to be told. That story is old news. We all know that story. That story isnāt actually helping anyone. That story is contributing to eating disorders, bullying, low self esteem, weight stigma and fatphobia. The story that is ignored is the one I want to tell, and hopefully I can make a few teenagers believe that maybe their bodies are perfectly lovely, just as they are.