01/08/2026
The all-through-the night breastfeeds, the contact naps, snuggling that baby who just wonât settle in the cotâŚitâs all important work, building trust and strong roots for the future. Youâve got this mama đ
Weâve got it backwards.â¨
We treat dependence like a problem to be solved, something to wean our children off as fast as we can, and then we wonder why so many grown adults canât lean on anyone at all.â¨
But a child whoâs allowed to depend deeply doesnât stay dependent. Thatâs the part nobody tells you. The leaning in is what builds the letting go. The leaning in is also vulnerable and so we need to make it safe.â¨
Dr. Vanessa Lapointe puts it perfectly: âIt is out of the gift of deep dependence that true independence emerges.â
So when your toddler wants to be carried, when your four or eight or twelve year old asks you to lie down with them, when your child falls apart at the school gate, none of it means youâve made them too attached.â¨â¨It means the roots are growing strong and deep.â¨
Quietly. Under the surface. For years. Long before anyone can see the fruit.
Youâre not spoiling them. Youâre not creating a clingy child. Youâre doing the slow, invisible, unglamorous work that most of the world has forgotten to value.
Trust the order Mother Nature wrote. It knows what itâs doing.
đ Save this for the day someone tells you theyâre too old to need you this much.
And tell me how this lands for you, what it stirs, bring me the messy and the raw.đ