Thegoodpsych

28/05/2026

The butterfly hug is a science-backed, self-soothing technique that helps calm your nervous system, reduce anxiety, and process distressing emotions. Originating from trauma therapy, this portable tool can be done anywhere to help you ground yourself in the present moment.
Cross your arms: Wrap your arms across your chest, placing your fingertips just below your collarbones.
Form your "wings": Point your fingertips toward your neck while keeping your hands vertical. Interlock your thumbs to create the body of a butterfly, and let your extended fingers act as the wings.
Flap gently: Close your eyes and rhythmically tap your hands on your chest in an alternating pattern—left, right, left, right.
Breathe: Take slow, deep, abdominal breaths while you tap, noticing any passing thoughts without judgment.
Set an intention: You can pair your tapping with a positive affirmation (e.g., "I am safe") or a calming image.

You can continue this for 1 to 2 minutes, or for as long as you need to feel centered. When finished, rest your hands on your chest and take a final, deep breath.

10/05/2026

26/03/2026

Consistency is the fundamental driver of long-term success, turning daily actions into habits. It builds momentum, discipline, and trust, enabling progress even when motivation lacks.

08/03/2026

International Women's Day 2026 - It's time to balance the scales.

11/02/2026

Children are not born with the ability to regulate their emotions. They learn by connection with a safe adult who shows empathy and models calmness.

Co-regulation is both something you actively do as well as a biological process. Research shows that we can directly influence certain processes in one another, such as the production of a stress hormone called cortisol.

11/02/2026

Reposting from my friends at the Social Workers Toolbox. No sense re-inventing the wheel.