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09/06/2026

Treating patterns, not parts.

Here’s some of the oral restrictions identified in a 6-week-old baby I saw today.

From the very beginning, feeding had been challenging. Mum described his tongue as “really lazy” and said he struggled to properly latch and “grab the boob.” He was taking in a lot of air, couldn’t tolerate lying on his back without distress, and his sleep was frequently disrupted by obvious discomfort and passing wind.

Mum had repeatedly raised concerns with multiple health professionals. She had spoken with the paediatrician in hospital, the child health nurse, and her midwife. Each time she was reassured that everything was fine and advised to wait.

It was only after seeing a chiropractor for other concerns that she was encouraged to explore oral ties further and connect with an IBCLC virtually (they are regional). Up to five oral restrictions were flagged through photos, videos, and functional assessment, which we confirmed today.

One of the questions I am increasingly asked when multiple restrictions are identified is whether they can be released in stages. For example, should we release the tongue and upper lip first, then wait and see what happens before considering anything else?

These days, I’ve largely adopted an all-or-nothing approach.

The reason is that I can no longer ignore the facial and perioral tension associated with lip and cheek restrictions. In many cases, I suspect these restrictions are an overlooked contributor to shallow latch, poor seal, and compensatory feeding patterns.

If the lips and cheeks remain restricted, the tongue may gain mobility following a tongue-tie release, but the baby may still rely on overuse of the lips, cheeks, and facial muscles. In my experience, optimal suction requires the whole system to function well, not just the tongue.

Now that I’ve been releasing oral ties in infants for more than a decade, I have had the opportunity to follow many of these children over time. Increasingly, I see children presenting years later for orthodontic treatment with facial tension patterns and restrictions that I simply wasn’t paying enough attention to earlier in my career.

I’ve also observed recurring associations between these restrictions and particular patterns of dental and jaw development. Many of the restrictions I now identify in infancy are the same restrictions I often find myself addressing years later alongside orthodontic treatment to help address ongoing oral dysfunction and support stability of results.

This is one of the reasons I have become more proactive.

I increasingly view optimal latch, whether at the breast or bottle, as one of the earliest foundations for good oral function. I want to encourage colleagues and parents to look beyond reduced pain, adequate weight gain, and reduced air intake. Optimising depth of latch, seal, and tongue suction are worthy goals.

I increasingly view shallow latch as more than a feeding challenge. It may be one of the earliest clues that the developing oral and facial system is functioning under tension and compensation.

Today, after releasing the clinically significant restrictions identified in this baby’s assessment, mum reported a good feed post-release.

She described a wider mouth opening, less chomping, a more comfortable latch, and a noticeably more relaxed face with less downturn of the lips.

One feed doesn’t tell the whole story.

But observations like these continue to reinforce my belief that we need to treat the pattern, not just a part.

Disclaimer: Any surgical or invasive procedure carries risks. Before proceeding, seek a second opinion from an appropriately qualified health practitioner.

07/06/2026

One of the most common things parents say to me during consults is…“But they weren’t clicking at the start…”

And honestly? That’s exactly what I often see too and here’s my theory behind it 👇

Many babies don’t start clicking in those first few days when they’re feeding on colostrum because it’s in small volumes and your sleepy baby should be able to control the flow a lot easier (so if they’re clicking when your milk is still in colostrum…🚩)

When I’m speaking with parents, I’ll often tell them that from my clinical experience, I see clicking usually starting around the 1-2 week mark, when mature milk begins and they go through their first growth spurt. If it’s not during this time, it usually begins around the 6-8 week mark.

But why? Because suddenly your baby is needing to coordinate a much faster flow and their little body (and tongue tie) is potentially getting tighter as they grow.

Your baby begins to work harder to stay latched during feeds and that’s when you may find they’ll start to lose suction.

👉 Cue the clicking.

But this is also why clicking can sound so different from one baby to the next.

🗣️ Some babies click occasionally.

🗣️ Some click throughout an entire feed and every feed.

🗣️ Some click only during each day feed but then are so quiet for their overnight feeds.

🗣️ Some only click when milk starts flowing quickly when milk comes in or during letdowns.

🗣️ Some don’t start clicking until weeks later.

For me…The click itself isn’t usually the answer…it’s a clue that I look for to see WHEN and WHY your baby is struggling with feeds.

Now I’m curious…

When did your baby start to click? Was it from 👇

❤️ birth
💙 around 2 weeks
💜 around 6-8 weeks
💛 around 11-13 weeks

06/06/2026

Parents are often told their baby “just has reflux” and they’ll either grow out of it or you’re given a script for omeprazole (reflux meds).

And although in some cases, reflux meds can help reduce the pain your baby’s feeling, for a lot of babies…unfortunately, it doesn’t work at all.

That’s because reflux is a symptom! Reflux (or silent reflux) is your baby’s way of giving you a clue that their little body is needing a little extra support. Because underneath something may be making their feeding, digestion or comfort harder than it needs to be.

There are so many reasons why reflux (or silent reflux) occurs in little ones, but here are some of the most common causes I see within my practice:

1️⃣ Body tension: a tight diaphragm, ribs or a baby stuck in “fight or flight” can change how they feed, digest milk and feel calm or settled.

2️⃣ Feeding when overtired: feeding often becomes less coordinated when a little one is exhausted. More clicking, gulping, more air swallowing (especially around the late arvo/early evening feeds).

3️⃣ Laryngomalacia (floppy larynx) if breathing already is hard work - feeding will be too! These little ones I often see holding a lot of tension in the back of their neck but weak muscles in the front of their neck!

4️⃣ Delayed pooping: Just think how backed up and ‘full’ we feel when we haven’t pooped…babies aren’t any different. Pressure is building and that can push on your little ones tummy, which can contribute to discomfort and refluxy symptoms.

5️⃣ Tongue ties and oral dysfunction: Although there’s no direct evidence that ties cause reflux, we do know that ties impact a baby’s latch and swallow air more often. More air means more pressure means more milk coming up (but not always out of the mouth)!

Unless we understand all of this, it’s so easy to feel stuck.

Because when we focus only on the reflux itself, we can miss the clues your baby’s telling you and the clues are often where the answers begin.

Comment “REFLUX” and I’ll send you my Gentle Infant Reflux Guide so you can start understanding what’s really going on and how to begin helping your baby ❤️

The longer I work with infants, the more I realise something...The issue isn’t a lack of education.The issue is that ver...
05/06/2026

The longer I work with infants, the more I realise something...

The issue isn’t a lack of education.

The issue is that very little education focuses specifically on the whole approach to caring for a tongue tied baby!

There’s so much education on older children and adults.

But for little babies? It all comes in separate pieces of education and information about:

👉🏻Their feeding.
👉🏻Their oral function.
👉🏻Their compensation patterns.
👉🏻Their digestion.
👉🏻Their development.

Over the years I’ve completed a few too many uni qualifications, additional lactation education and training in orofacial myofunctional therapy.

Yet, most of the valuable things I’ve learnt about infant feeding, oral function and clinical presentation came long after university.

Over 5000 clinical consultations.

Through collaboration with other practitioners.

Through continuing professional development.

Through being willing to ask, “What am I missing?” Or “I’ve been seeing this in practice, what do you think?”

Through a genuine curiosity to better understand oral restrictions, compensation patterns and the lived experience of how tension can be stored and expressed throughout the body.

Because infants are rarely just a tongue tie.

They’re rarely just a feeding issue.

They’re rarely just a bodywork issue.

They’re a whole baby.

That realisation is ultimately what led me to create the Beyond Tongue Tie Workshop.

A workshop designed to help clinicians look beyond isolated symptoms and develop a deeper understanding of infant feeding, oral function, compensation patterns, aerophagia, digestion and collaborative care.

The first workshop was for bodyworkers and it sold out. Due to demand I’ve opened an additional workshop date.

This workshop is now open to all bodyworkers, speech pathologists, IBCLCs, midwives, CHNs, OMTs and other clinicians working within the infant feeding space!

My goal is to see more clinicians learning together, collaborating together and ultimately supporting families together 🫶🏼

📅 Friday 27 June 2026

✨ Early Bird Pricing Ends 10 June

Only a small number of places remain already.

Book your place via the link in bio 🔗

Just a little heads up for our Gentle Village families, because the school holidays are slowly creeping up on us again!I...
02/06/2026

Just a little heads up for our Gentle Village families, because the school holidays are slowly creeping up on us again!

I’ll be taking some annual leave from 11th July and returning on 31st July ✈️

I’ve opened up as much availability as I can throughout June and the first week of July, however appointments are already filling quickly. Once these appointments are booked, unfortunately, I won’t be available to open anything else.

If you’ve been meaning to book in for and breastfeeding, bottle feeding support or tongue tie assessments, oral therapy or help with your refluxy baby, I’d encourage you to book ahead so you’re not disappointed.

As always, thank you for keeping me busy doing what I absolutely love every single day 🤍

Brenda x

One of the most common things I hear almost every single day is…👉🏻 “We changed formulas and things seemed better for a f...
31/05/2026

One of the most common things I hear almost every single day is…

👉🏻 “We changed formulas and things seemed better for a few days…but then all the symptoms came back.”

So they do what every loving, exhausted parents would do.

They change formulas again.

And again.

And again.

When they come to see me, it’s because they’re left wondering if they’re missing something. What many parents don’t realise is that when a new formula is introduced, it’s not uncommon to see some changes in those first few days.

Sometimes this is because the digestive system is adjusting to a new protein structure, ingredient profile or feeding pattern. In other cases, symptoms may temporarily settle before the body has had enough time to fully respond to the new formula.

This can create what I call a “honeymoon period” where things appear to improve…until the reflux, wind, discomfort, screaming or unsettled behaviour gradually returns.

And that’s where things become confusing for so many parents

Should you wait longer?

Should you change again?

Is this actually the right formula for your baby?

Parents are often expected to make huge feeding decisions with very little education or support around what ingredients actually matter, how formula transitions work, what changes are expected and when symptoms deserve a closer look.

That’s exactly why I created the Formula & Bottle Feeding Masterclass. Not to tell you which formula brand to choose.

But to help you understand what you’re looking at, your baby’s symptoms, the ingredients of the formula tin and then making a decision on why formula to choose based on those ingredients that may be affecting your baby!

Because formula feeding parents deserve more than “just try another formula.”

💫 Comment FORMULA and I’ll send you the link to my Formula & Bottle Feeding Masterclass

Because formula feeding parents deserve more than trial and error.

28/05/2026

“You can’t overfeed a breastfed baby”…

Actually…sometimes babies can become a little overloaded.

Not because you’re forcing your baby to feed or because your baby is just “greedy.”

But because uncomfortable babies often seek sucking for comfort.

Little ones have a VERY strong sucking reflex! Before the first 3-5 months, your baby’s sucking reflex hasn’t integrated yet, which means many babies will continue to suck even when they aren’t necessarily hungry anymore.

That’s their biology…because sucking helps babies feel regulated, settled, less discomfort and calm their little nervous system.

Now think about the last time you ate a HUGE heavy meal…your belly feels so full and tight that you almost need to sit upright for a while just so digestion can do its thing and you can breathe comfortably again!

Your baby is honestly no different.

The difference is, they can’t tell you “my tummy feels overloaded”

So instead we often see
👉🏻Gulping/clicking
👉🏻Trapped wind
👉🏻Reflux
👉🏻Explosive poops
👉🏻Smelly gas
👉🏻So uncomfortable after feeds
👉🏻Wanting to feed but then puling off the breast, angry, frustrated once the milk starts flowing.

A cycle we see often all the time in our consults, particularly in babies with tense little body, oral ties, dysfunction and having troubles coping with a mamas strong and fast flow!

This is why a feeding assessment with an IBCLC is so important! Because sometimes babies aren’t constantly feeding because they’re greedy…sometimes they’re uncomfortable.

💫 Comment FLAGS and make sure you’re following and and we’ll send you the free Feeding Red Flags mini guide.

This post is probably a little more vulnerable than what I normally share…But honestly? It’s been one of those weeks (al...
27/05/2026

This post is probably a little more vulnerable than what I normally share…But honestly?

It’s been one of those weeks (already) and I have a feeling some of you might need to hear this tonight too.

Maybe you’re not bad at coping with motherhood…Maybe you’re actually trying to carry a load that was never meant to be carried by one person alone.

Did you know one of the reasons we ask you about ADHD, autism and AuDHD in our intake forms is because we never want a mama walking into our clinic feeling like she has to hide parts of herself or feel like she has to have it “all together” (like I thought I did before I was diagnosed).

Because the truth?

When mamas apologise to me in consults for jumping in between topics, forgetting what they were saying, talking sooo fast or feeling overstimulated…

I see you…I’m usually sitting there thinking:
“Yay, twins!” Or “yep I got you, girlfriend” 🙈🤣

For many parents who meet me in person, I’m sure they quickly realise I’m a little (or very) clumsy, I talk a lot but deeply passionate about caring for babies and their families!

And I genuinely mean that…more than you’ll ever know!

I absolutely love what I do!

My own babies are 10 and 8 years old and they know exactly what The Gentle Village means to their mummy and to them - “it’s about helping mummy’s.”

Maybe, I’m so passionate because I know what it feels like to fight for your baby, to fight for answers, to constantly try and hold everything together, even when you feel like you can’t anymore.

I was diagnosed with ADHD almost 4 years ago, after many years of nursing, midwifery, raising two neurodiverse babies, learning and navigating disability, while building The Gentle Village and still carrying the same invisible mother load.

I became very good at functioning under pressure…too good. Because when you’re used to surviving in chaos, pressure starts to feel weirdly normal.

So if you’re reading this tonight while feeling exhausted, overstimulated or like you’re ready to give up, know this…

You are bloody amazing!! You are not “anxious,” or “lazy”…Mama, you are doing your absolute best while carrying far more than most people realise! Remember that! ❤️

26/05/2026

💔 “It won’t impact feeding.”
💔 “It’s only a slight tongue tie.”
💔 “Tongue ties don’t cause reflux.”
💔 “Your baby is just lazy.”
💔 “They’ll stretch it out themselves.”
💔 “Your baby can stick their tongue out so they can’t have a tie.”

These are some of the most common gaslighting things we hear parents are told before they finally discover there WAS actually a reason feeding felt so hard.

Because oral ties don’t just impact breastfeeding. It can impact bottle feeding or solids! Why? Because it can change 👇

👉 How your baby creates a vacuum and seal during feeds
👉 How much air they swallow
👉 How efficiently they transfer milk
👉 How much tension builds through their little body
👉 Digestion, reflux symptoms and sleep
👉 Comfort feeding patterns
👉 Even how regulated and settled your baby feels

And do you want to know the hard part? What makes me angry? Many parents start doubting themselves because they’ve been repeatedly told “everything looks normal” while their baby is:

💔 Clicking during feeds
💔 Constantly wanting to comfort feed (but making themselves feel more uncomfortable)
💔 Stiffening their little body and feeling tense all the time
💔 Struggling to handle milk flow and have milk spilling or coughing/choking
💔 Refluxy and unsettled
💔 Waking constantly and discomfort
💔 Impossible to lay on their back so you’re having to hold them upright just so they can sleep

Sometimes the issue isn’t that you’re “overthinking” or “worrying too much over nothing”. Sometimes their baby is genuinely compensating. But once you understand what oral dysfunction actually LOOKS like…everything starts making a lot more sense.

Does that mean you need to jump straight into a release? Absolutely not! The timing matters. Feeding, symptoms, oral function, compensations and parent goals all matter too. Oral therapy, feeding support and bodywork can play a huge role in helping babies before AND after release.

And if you choose not to release? That’s your choice too when you’ve been properly supported and educated.

Comment GUIDE and I’ll send you through my Tongue Tie Guide that explains how oral ties truly impact your baby and how you can help them!

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