21/02/2024
"Hurt people hurt people"
I've been thinking about this a lot lately...
While this is certainly true, I believe hurt people mostly see pain in others they recognise in themselves and try to ease this pain in others. They do this because they know pain, suffering and want to do for others what wasn't done for them.
So we as trauma survivors take care of others, love them, give to them and protect them the best we can from the pain of this world. Often at a great cost to ourselves (*cue low self worth and people pleasing).
I am a 'hurt' person who has surely hurt people in my life but I can honestly say I've done the best I can with what I've had available to me in any given moment of my life. This has often looked scrappy, rushed, anxious and messy but I tried, and I keep trying, learning, healing, loving, and that was the important bit!
Today I want to honour my past self and me today and all of you who are "hurt people" who have chosen to heal, love and break cycles in whatever messy, ugly, complicated form that has taken for you! I honour you, your bravery, strength and passion for love and those you love. I honour those who are hurt and have hurt, but who were trying their best with what they had available to them.
This isn't about forgiveness for self or others... It's about release and self worth. Seeing you/me in all our fear, doubt and pain and doing it anyway!
I see you! I am you!
We've got this!