Forward Therapy

19/06/2026

What happens when you're taught not to trust yourself?

I recently saw Leviticus, a new Australian q***r fantasy horror film, and found myself reflecting on conversion therapy, religious trauma and the psychological impact of growing up believing that who you are is somehow wrong.

As a secular therapist, I've worked with many people recovering from religious conditioning and the shame that can accompany it.
I've written a short reflection on the film and its relevance to therapy, recovery and self-trust.

24/05/2026

🖤 Even in the era of PrEP and U=U, an HIV diagnosis can still feel emotionally overwhelming for many gay and bis*xual men and their partners.

Over the years I’ve worked with many men adjusting to the emotional impact of HIV, including anxiety, shame, relationship changes, altered intimacy, fear around s*x, and the complicated emotional aftermath that can sometimes follow chems*x or periods of s*xual exploration.

What often gets overlooked is that HIV is rarely experienced as only a medical issue. It can affect identity, relationships, trust, openness, confidence and the way men see themselves and their future.

I’ve written a new article exploring the emotional and relational adjustment that can happen after a partner is diagnosed with HIV, and why supportive, non-judgemental counselling can help.

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An HIV diagnosis can affect intimacy, relationships, s*x and emotional wellbeing for both partners. Supportive counselling and therapy for gay men following an HIV diagnosis.

01/04/2026

Do you recognise any of these patterns in your relationship?

❓Feeling responsible for your partner's emotional state.
❓Automatically accommodating demands you're not comfortable with.
❓Feeling guilty about wanting to leave, even when you know something isn't right.

These are signs of a codependent or enmeshed relationship dynamic, and they're more common in gay male relationships than many people realise.

My latest article explores these patterns honestly and compassionately, including some practical guidance on finding your way forward.

Read it here 👇 🔗

https://www.gaycounsellor.com.au/relationships/codependent-gay-relationship/

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04/02/2026

Great article about the new NSW laws into coercive control by Schultz in the Sydney Morning Herald today.

Coercive control is when someone uses repeated patterns of physical or non-physical abuse to hurt, scare, intimidate, threaten or control someone. It became a crime in NSW in July 2024.

If you feel trapped in an abusive relationship, help is available. Reach out to a counsellor, support service or NSW Police for guidance and safety planning.

In public the Sydney man was the picture-perfect partner, but behind the scenes was manipulative and controlling.

22/12/2025

Family events aren’t joyful for everyone.

For some people, Christmas and other family gatherings bring up old wounds. They’re attended out of obligation rather than excitement. Dates of dread quietly counted down until they’re over.

When families come together, familiar patterns often reappear. People pleasing. Walking on eggshells. Silencing your needs to keep the peace.

These reactions don’t mean something is wrong with you. They often reflect experiences where safety, support, or acceptance were missing.

I’ve written more about this here:

Family Trauma and the Hidden Costs of People Pleasing

https://www.forwardtherapy.com/2025/12/family-trauma-and-the-hidden-costs-of-people-pleasing/

Living with family trauma can lead to people pleasing, shame, and estrangement. Learn how to rebuild self-trust through compassion and support.