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Healing happens in layers.You might come back to the same memory many times. At first, you explore what happened. Then y...
31/07/2026

Healing happens in layers.

You might come back to the same memory many times. At first, you explore what happened. Then you begin to understand how it shaped you. Later, you connect with the younger part who carried it alone. And eventually, that part begins to release the stuck stress they’ve been holding onto for years.

From the outside, it can look like you’re going backwards because you’re revisiting the same experiences, but each time you return, you come back with more compassion, more understanding and more capacity to stay present with what once felt unbearable.

And then something amazing happens. The story hasn’t changed, but your body has. The tightness in your chest is gone. Your stomach no longer knots when you think about it. The fear, shame or grief that once overwhelmed you has softened.

That’s how you know healing has happened.

Not because you’ve forgotten the past, but because your nervous system no longer has to relive it.

Love, Jen 🪷

People who grow up with consistent love, support and encouragement have an incredible advantage in life because they don...
30/07/2026

People who grow up with consistent love, support and encouragement have an incredible advantage in life because they don’t have to spend so much of their energy creating their own sense of safety.

When you’ve grown up without a village, your nervous system is often working overtime just to feel okay. You’re carrying responsibilities that many people never had to carry. You’re learning to soothe yourself, encourage yourself and keep going when no one else is there to do it.

That invisible work takes energy. A LOT of energy. So if your journey feels slower, don’t assume you’re failing. You are simply climbing a steeper mountain.

The fact that you’re still showing up, still healing and still moving towards the life you want says far more about your strength than how quickly you’ve arrived. Be careful not to compare your timeline to someone who started with a safety net.

You deserve compassion, not comparison.

Love, Jen 🪷

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29/07/2026

Happy Full Moon 🌕

I’ve noticed something interesting this week.

All around me, people seem to be making big decisions. Decisions to start businesses, write books, move countries, create communities, follow a dream they’ve been sitting on for years.

I don’t know whether it’s the symbolism of the full moon, the time of year, or simply what I’m noticing. But I can feel that many of these decisions are laying the foundation for something much bigger than themselves.

Sometimes a single decision changes the direction of your life.

Not because everything happens overnight, but because once you’ve truly committed, you begin building from a completely different place. That decision becomes the foundation from which so many other things grow.

So if you’ve found yourself thinking about creating something, changing direction, or finally saying yes to something that’s been quietly calling you…

Don’t ignore it.

Sometimes life asks us to stop waiting until we feel completely ready.

What decision is waiting for your commitment?

Love, Jen 🪷

p.s you’ll find out what mine is in a few weeks

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Over the years I have learnt that I work best if I’m aware of what my body is doing. It’s a level of energetic awareness...
25/07/2026

Over the years I have learnt that I work best if I’m aware of what my body is doing. It’s a level of energetic awareness.

I would notice some days I needed to go to bed early (was I getting ill), and then I’d have so much energy for exercising, creating, and then gone again. It took me way too long to really understand that my body moves in cycles and to EXPECT my energy levels to go up and down.

I’ve learned that when I work with my cycle instead of against it, everything feels easier. During my period, I don’t exercise, I try to finish work a little earlier, and I honour the fact that my body is naturally releasing. As my energy returns, I naturally move into creating, teaching and connecting with others. Then, towards the end of my cycle, I find myself wanting to finish projects, organise my space and slow down again.

A good friend of mine works in a country where women are encouraged to take four days’ leave during their menstrual cycle. Imagine living in a culture that recognised women’s biology instead of expecting them to ignore it.

Most of us don’t have that luxury, but we can start by noticing our own rhythm. We can stop judging ourselves for having flat days and begin honouring the incredible wisdom of our bodies that are deeply connected to the rhythm of nature.

You weren’t designed to have the same energy every day.

You were designed to move through seasons. Let me know if you have any questions about this one, and remember to SAVE it to refer back to.

Love, Jen 🪷
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Have you ever felt “crazy,” “irrational,” or “too emotional” when triggered? That’s something I see again and again afte...
25/07/2026

Have you ever felt “crazy,” “irrational,” or “too emotional” when triggered? That’s something I see again and again after more than 20 years as a psychotherapist.

From an Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective, intense emotional reactions often happen because several parts of us become activated at once. Each part is trying to protect us in the only way it knows how, based on past experiences.

When we can slow down, recognise these parts with curiosity rather than judgment, and reconnect with our adult Self, something begins to shift. We stop fighting ourselves and start understanding ourselves.

That understanding is often where healing begins.

Love, Jen 🪷

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One of the most painful patterns I see is people returning to relationships that continue to hurt them and wondering, “W...
24/07/2026

One of the most painful patterns I see is people returning to relationships that continue to hurt them and wondering, “Why do I keep doing this?”

It’s easy to believe something is wrong with you. But often, something much deeper is happening.

When we experience relational trauma, younger parts of us don’t stop longing for what they needed. They continue searching for someone who will finally provide the love, safety or consistency they never received. When someone feels familiar, those parts quietly hope, “Maybe this time the story will end differently.”

This is one reason unhealthy relationship patterns can repeat. The nervous system isn’t consciously choosing pain. It’s trying to complete something that was never completed.

Healing isn’t about becoming less loving or less open. It’s about helping those younger parts release the stuck stress they’ve been carrying and realise that the past is over. They no longer need someone else to repair what happened all those years ago.

That’s when your relationships begin to change. Not because you’ve become a different person, but because you’re no longer asking another person to heal a wound they didn’t create.

Love, Jen 🪷

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The book really is a mini Course, check it out.
22/07/2026

The book really is a mini Course, check it out.

One of the clearest signs you’re responding from an old wound is that your reaction doesn’t seem to fit the situation in...
20/07/2026

One of the clearest signs you’re responding from an old wound is that your reaction doesn’t seem to fit the situation in front of you.

You might know you’re safe, but your body doesn’t. Your heart races, your chest tightens, your thoughts become overwhelmed, and suddenly you’re reacting as though you’re much younger than you are.

This is because trauma isn’t simply stored as a memory. It’s stored as unresolved stress within the nervous system. When something in the present resembles what happened in the past, those younger parts of us can become activated and respond as though the original danger is happening all over again.

The good news is that those parts don’t need to stay trapped there forever. When we meet them with compassion, help them release the stuck stress they’ve been carrying, and show them that the danger has passed, they begin to trust the present instead of living in the past.

Healing isn’t learning to react differently. It’s helping the younger parts of you realise they no longer have to react at all.

Love, Jen 🪷

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One of the most important things to understand about trauma is that when we’re triggered, we’re often not responding fro...
19/07/2026

One of the most important things to understand about trauma is that when we’re triggered, we’re often not responding from our adult self. We’re responding from the age the wound was created.

A disagreement with your partner might suddenly feel like the terror of being five years old and fearing abandonment. A small criticism at work can feel like you’re back in a classroom, overwhelmed with shame. Someone pulling away may awaken the same panic you experienced as a child when love felt uncertain.

This is why our reactions can sometimes feel so much bigger than the situation in front of us. The goal is to become curious about the younger part of you that has been activated. When we meet that part with compassion and help them release the stuck stress of the past, they begin to realise the danger has passed and are brought into the safety of the present; something begins to change. We stop reacting from old wounds and start responding from our adult Self.

That’s what deep healing is: releasing the stuck stress in the presence of your unconditionally loving adult self.

Love, Jen 🪷
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