Therapy with Anne Surland

18/05/2026

Good stuff.

15/04/2026

Please.

13/04/2026

Thats the beginning....

15/02/2026

And way more mental health issues.

Gen Z is the first generation to have a lower IQ than their parents. For decades, researchers observed what’s known as the “Flynn Effect,” where average IQ scores steadily increased across generations. However, in several developed countries such as the United States, the United Kingdom, Norway, Finland, and Denmark, those gains have slowed, plateaued, or slightly reversed in recent years.

To be clear, this does not automatically mean that Gen Z is inherently less intelligent. It means that performance on certain standardized IQ tests has changed.

Typically, IQ scores are influenced by many environmental factors, including education quality, nutrition, exposure to environmental toxins, cultural shifts, and even changes in how tests are designed or administered.

Some researchers speculate that increased screen time, short-form content consumption, reduced deep reading, and fragmented attention from heavy social media use may influence certain cognitive skills.

Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath, who recently testified before Congress, said about Gen Z:

“They’re the first generation in modern history to score lower on standardized academic tests than the one before it.”

“And to make matters worse, most of these young people are overconfident about how smart they are. The smarter people think they are, the dumber they actually are."

“More than half of the time a teenager is awake, half of it is spent staring at a screen, humans are biologically programmed to learn from other humans and from deep study, not flipping through screens for bullet point summaries.”

All in all the social media and smartphone use hypothesis points to much of the research that has been coming out for years. That people's brains, especially young people, are being deeply affected by over use.

09/02/2026

True. But there are reasons why some parents can feel helpless in the face of their childs behaviour.
Reach out for support .

Learning to say “I’m sorry” without adding a “but…” is a skill that is hard to master but worth practicing.

Genuine, heartfelt apologies and taking accountability for our own actions is in… passive aggression is out.

This list might be helpful

Things that do not make you a victim of your adult child
1. If they choose to estrange from you.
2. If they get upset when trigger topics come up.
3. If they have accused you of mistreating them.
4. If they moved out of your home.
5. If they don’t call you or contact you as much as you think they should.
6. If they set boundaries around communication
7. If they don’t let you see your grandchildren.
8. If they forget your birthday or Mother’s Day
9. If they don’t come for a family supper or holiday
10. If they don’t send you pictures of your grandchildren.

Things that do make you a victim of your adult child
1. They steal money or other possessions from you.
2. They physically abuse you.
3. They call you cruel names, even when not provoked or in an argument.
4. You are dependant on your adult child and they do not provide for you the necessities of life.
5. They imprison you or make it extremely difficult for you to leave your home.
6. They use lies to try and scam you out of things.
7. They don’t provide you with necessary medical care (only if you are dependant).
8. If they kill or seriously harm you, on purpose.
9. Leaving you stranded somewhere with no way to get to safety.
10. Forcing you to do something unsafe.

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29/01/2026

Indeed.

28/01/2026

I think so too. Myself included.

“This is what quiet courage looks like — choosing gentleness even when you were never shown how.”❤️‍🩹

26/12/2025

So true.

Patriarchy is the dominant ideology of male supremacy that is manifested in a system of society or government in which men hold the power through custom, policy, and violence.

09/12/2025

08/12/2025

Reach out.