18/09/2026
I arrived with questions. Mum arrived with opinions.
I wanted to know about practicalities, future plans and how everything worked. She wanted to know where her piano would go, whether the afternoon light reached the sitting room and which table would best suit Sunday lunch.
By the end of the visit, I realised she was not asking me to solve retirement for her. She was inviting me to understand the life she could see herself choosing.
Adult children can bring care, research and perspective to the conversation. The
decision becomes richer when curiosity travels in both directions.