Netta Dolev - Counselling & clinical Supervision

28/07/2026

✨ For Mental Health Clinicians ✨

I’ve been creating practical, trauma‑informed resources for clinicians — especially those supporting adolescents and people impacted by domestic, family and s*xual violence.

If you’d like bite‑sized tools, reflective pieces, and nervous‑system‑informed strategies you can use straight away in your sessions, you’re welcome to subscribe to my clinical newsletter or read my latest blog on my website.

I’d also love to hear from you:

What topics would you find helpful for your practice?

What areas of DFSV work, adolescent counselling, or trauma‑informed care would you like me to unpack or share my experience with?

Your ideas help shape the next set of resources — and I’d love to create content that genuinely supports your work.

Feel free to comment below or send me a message.

18/07/2026

Self compassion

I'm sure you have heard of this concept, but have you tried to practice it?

Many people don't consider self compassion to be a practical tool to improve wellbeing and mental health. However, updated psychological modalities and theories understand the Body - Mind connection and the importance of the regulated nervous system on sense of safety, connection, concentration, curiosity, socialisation and physical health.

There are many ways we can support our nervous system, as I've shared in pervious posts. The new resource I offer is a written version that introduce the idea of self compassion in a gentle manner. This is a beginner step for everyone who likes writing, open to reflect on their thought and feelings and is interested in experimenting if brining self compassion to their lives is beneficial.

https://ilanotcounselling.com.au/resources/free

08/07/2026

Anxiety - one of the most common reasons people reach out for therapy and by far, my favourite emotion!

That sounded weird, I know! But after learning about anxiety and its function, I grew my respect and appreciation to when it's showing up for me.

If your child is experiencing anxiety, this new resource is for you. Inside, you’ll find simple insights into what anxiety is trying to do, along with practical tools you can teach your child to help them feel more confident and learn to befriend their anxiety.

Hope you find it helpful!

https://ilanotcounselling.com.au/resources/free

06/07/2026

Practicing What We Preach: A Lesson in Vulnerability and Growth

As a victims services counsellor, I always ensure I prepare for each session and tailor the structure, content and approach to where the client is at in their recovery journey.
Following trauma informed and the 3 phased approaches to trauma recovery, sometimes left me worried that I’m not doing enough.
The imposter syndrome is real, and I keep wondering how other clinicians would support and treat these painful emotional wounds, and that maybe I’m missing important steps, crucial knowledge or expertise.
Lately, I enrolled in training on how to treat s*xual issues, with the purpose of being able to offer adults clients who experienced s*xual abuse a pathway to reclaim their s*xual healing. Once completing the course, I realised how complicated and delicate the topic of s*x and intimacy in relationships is, even without the added trauma. So even though I gained understanding, identified myths and learned to de-pathologize s*xual issues, I felt even more responsibility when working with victims’ survivors of s*xual violence.
The imposter syndrome got even bigger.
Then, I decided to practice what I preach and with the voice telling me I wasn’t good enough – I offered clients to talk about their s*x life, if they feel ready and interested in exploring. Clients’ responses were overwhelmingly engaging. Once we addressed the fear of judgement and shame – clients were relieved they could bring this topic to their counselling sessions.
My imposter syndrome was still quite persistent in saying that I wasn’t equipped to delve into these topics in a way that meets my standards and expectations of high quality service.
I’m so grateful I did not let my imposter syndrome drive my actions, as I would have missed an opportunity to be a part of a meaningful change in one of my clients’ relationships.
I was in tears during a session when a client shared how the conversation they had with me helped them communicate their needs and boundaries with their partner and how they reconnected back with their partner after reframing their intimacy.
What a privilege!
So, to the clinicians reading this, I hope my story reminds you of how valuable you are.
And to everyone else – I hope the client’s courage, strength and vulnerability inspire you to take your first step towards strengthening your relationships and healing from your trauma.

I’m here when you need me - either for counselling or clinical supervision.

22/06/2026

Hello everyone,
Over the past few weeks, I’ve had several thoughtful conversations with clinicians who are learning how to support young children experiencing self‑harm or suicidal thoughts. These discussions reminded me how complex and urgent this territory can feel — not just for professionals, but especially for parents who are trying to make sense of what their child needs in real time.

In those moments, it can be hard to find a clear, reliable source that brings together the essential information in a calm, practical, and accessible way. Parents often tell me they’re unsure where to turn, what questions to ask, or how to respond without making things worse. And navigating services can feel confusing, especially when emotions are high.

Those conversations sparked something for me. I realised that if clinicians benefit from structured guidance and frameworks, then parents — who are right there in the day‑to‑day with their children — would also benefit from the same clarity and support.

So, I decided to create a resource specifically for parents: a simple, practical guide to understanding self‑harm and suicidality in children and young people, responding with patience, and knowing what steps to take next. My hope is that it empowers families, strengthens connection, and helps parents feel more confident and supported during incredibly difficult moments.

If this is something you’d like access to, or if you know a family who might benefit, feel free to share this resource and to reach out for additional consultations.

As always, you can find the resource on my website: https://ilanotcounselling.com.au/resources/free

12/06/2026

There’s a moment in parenting when you realise your child isn’t a child anymore — and the old strategies don’t work the way they used to.

That moment can feel scary, confusing, or even a little heartbreaking.

I’ve created a free resource to support parents through this transition.
It explains what’s happening in the teenage brain, why they suddenly turn to peers, and how you can stay a strong, steady presence without slipping into control or conflict.

It’s for parents who want to be their teen’s ally — the person who believes in them, guides them, and helps them learn from the bumps along the way.

I hope you find this guide helpful and relevant to you.

Feel free to reach out if you would like further consultation about your specific circumstances and how to strengthen your relationship with your teenager.

Supporting children's wellbeing, resources parents, empowering trauma recovery for children and women, and inspiring clinicians in supervision.

02/06/2026

Are you working with young children, or parenting a child under six?

I’ve put together a free resource to support you in recognising developmentally typical s*xual behaviours, identifying early warning signs, and responding confidently and appropriately when concerning behaviours arise.

Prevention and early intervention are key.
By reducing shame, increasing accurate body literacy, and offering calm, regulated guidance, we help keep children safe and supported.

If you have questions or want to explore a specific behaviour you’ve noticed, you’re welcome to contact me. Many educators and parents find that once they learn more, they realise there are situations they’d like to unpack with a professional.

A more detailed, practical resource is on its way — including examples, response strategies, do’s and don’ts, and evidence‑based guidance.

Supporting children's wellbeing, resources parents, empowering trauma recovery for children and women, and inspiring clinicians in supervision.

29/05/2026

What a thought-provoking video!

This captures not just the shame that a young person with mental illness experiences, but also their parents’ shame and guilt that leads to isolation and fear to reach out for support.

The video also highlights the bias we have towards mental illness that contributes to lack of empathy and compassion.

Our language and responses matter and can have the power to make such a difference.

21/05/2026

If your child goes from calm to chaos in three seconds, there’s a reason — and it’s not what most parents think.

You know those moments when you ask them to turn off the TV before dinner and suddenly, you’re dealing with a full‑body meltdown? Or when you say, “We’re not buying that today,” and they explode in the middle of the shops like you’ve shattered their dreams?

These reactions aren’t random — and once you understand what’s happening underneath, everything starts to make more sense.

I’ve had so many conversations with parents who find themselves stuck in power struggles with their child — the kind that leave you exhausted, angry, disappointed, or wishing the ground would swallow you when it all happens in front of others. That’s exactly why I created this free resource. It walks you through a simple shift in mindset and practical actions that can de‑escalate those stressful moments and actually strengthen your relationship with your child.

I'm excited to share it with you and look forward to hearing from you once you tried these strategies.

You can download the PDF here:

21/05/2026

Exposure to Age‑Inappropriate Content and Language

A few weeks ago, my son came home upset after learning that two boys from his class were suspended and would not be joining school camp.
After a calming conversation and gathering some information, it turned out that these boys were part of a messaging group where they used s*xually violent language toward girls in the class. The parents found out and reported it to the school, which responded immediately and seriously.

My son showed me screenshots of what was said in that group, and as someone who works with survivors of s*xual assault and abuse, I was shocked to see that Year 6 children could speak that way and objectify girls so crudely.

This incident led to a series of conversations with my son — about the meaning of those words, the impact of such graphic language on everyone exposed to it, the possible future consequences if such behaviour escalates into physical harm and not just virtual, and about mistaken beliefs regarding attitudes toward girls, respect, equality, and consent.

We talked about why it’s important to show leadership when encountering such behaviours, in a way that doesn’t put him at risk, and about the difference between reporting and “snitching.”

These were valuable and meaningful conversations that created an opportunity for us to pause, connect, and revisit our family values that guide how we relate to others and feel important in our home.

I want to remind you that I’m here if you’d like to consult on how to have conversations with your children about s*xuality, gender relations, online bullying, boundaries, and consent.