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I'm Susanne Fuerst, a coach who works with people who are the dependable one in every room: capable, reliable, and quietly exhausted.

Together we move from coping and performing to genuine self-trust, clarity, and a life that actually feels like yours. About Susanne and Insightful Conversations & Coaching:
I am passionate about empowering self-sufficiency and agency in myself and others. By understanding the needs of others, I can guide and support you to gain insight, enabling you to help yourself and flourish. I believe in the

strength of individuals and that you are the expert of your own story and with that the author and director of your life. However, sometimes we are too close to our own story and then my role as a coach is to help via guided questions, alternative perspectives, and tools to gain clarity and insight. I founded my practice Insightful Conversations and Coaching as progression of my 37 years professional career which led me through several countries, companies and positions as well as various experiences be it on an interpersonal, intercultural, communication level or leadership, employee engagement, company & team culture, and strategy level or engagement with clients and customers. The value of setting up my own practice is that I can take all the experience and skills and focus on what matters. Working with you to listen to your story and together work on the journey to reach your full potential and lead a fulfilled life. My practice, Insightful Conversations and Coaching, is a trauma-informed practice. This means, I understand trauma and acknowledge that approximately 50 - 70% of people will have a potentially traumatic experience during their lifetime. A trauma-informed practice aims to be aware and mindful of this fact and provide a safe, trustworthy, collaborative, and empowering environment while respecting the autonomy of the individual.

27/07/2026

𝗜𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗠𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗕𝗮𝗺𝗕𝗮𝗺

This came together over the day on Sunday.

The scratcher was always there.
Over the day I put some meaningful items there.
First unconsciously and then intentionally.

When I passed it the next time I thought:

“𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗰𝗸𝗲𝘁 𝗯𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗼𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗿”

It’s fitting and a bit ironic as I never watched a cricket match.
However being in Australia for all this time I have unfortunately experienced this very touching and deeply meaningful gestures more than once.

I felt it is more than becoming for Mister BamBam

I am taking my own advice and take some time to honor Mister BamBam, my emotions and adjusting to this sudden silence.

Thanks for your support and understanding
Susanne

27/07/2026

𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐚𝐦𝐁𝐚𝐦
𝟎𝟏.𝟏𝟏.2012 𝐭𝐨 𝟐𝟓.𝟎𝟕.𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟔

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿!

Mister BamBam and I rescued each other.
We had and still have just in different way a very special bond.

𝗔𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘀𝗮𝘆, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱!
When I went to the shelter there were so many cats. Most of them desperately trying to catch my attention.

The staff had led me to a cat which they thought would be suitable.
I didn’t feel it.
Don’t get me wrong she was a very nice cat, just not the one for me.

I walked further and then say amongst all the boxes with cats trying to get my attention this fella.
He was there, quietly making ‘biscuits’ on a crochet blanket.
When I came closer he looked up still treadling on his blanket.
I asked if they could let him out. The staff tried to discourage me as he would not be suitable as he is very shy.

I insisted.

He came out slowly, walked around me and started to rub the side of his face against me. Good start!
I asked him how he is doing and what he would think about coming home with me?
He dropped himself in front of me so I can fully pet him, and he did that funny wriggle to one side and then the other that cats love to do.
𝗜 𝘁𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝘆 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆 𝟵 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗴𝗼

Yes, he was very shy at the beginning. But wouldn’t you, after over 6 months in a tiny cage and now in an apartment with lots of room, new smells, noises and routines?

One human only, OK she comes and goes with a regular rhythm and feeds me.
But can I trust this?

I gave BamBam his space, encouraged him with soft talking, slow eye blinking and of course treats.
Eventually he felt safe enough to adopt the whole apartment and myself as his own.

Until the end he loved the sun filled windowsills and taking in the different smells and noises on the balcony. And yes, at times someone had to show the Kakadu’s their place.

He was very talkative!
We had lots of great chats and also silent knowing exchanges with lots of purring.
When I worked too much, he first told me so, next step was to hop up on the desk and walk over my keyboard or stand on it. If all of that didn’t work, he sat beside me, watched me and eventually reached out with one paw very gently and started to pull my glasses off.

He was the best listener with at time very well placed points of his own. Or he listened patiently and purred, and head budded me and curled up on me and purred when needed.

He was the best de-briefing after the Lifeline shifts and the most confidential one!
I could tell him about the calls and my hopes & fears for the people who called and where I thought I could have done better.

He was a great athlete by jumping up on the very top of the kitchen cabinets or the top of the bookcase.
A great hunter, comedian and so many more.

𝗛𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗯𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀
𝗩𝗮𝗹𝗲 𝗠𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗕𝗮𝗺𝗕𝗮𝗺

24/07/2026

Do you need to give yourself permission?

𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞.
𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

To pause.
To rest.
To go for a walk.
To listen to music.
To be with yourself.
To laugh with your family.
To enjoy one small moment, even when life feels serious.

Because sometimes, when there is a lot going on, self-care can feel not that important.
Maybe even frivolous, selfish or outright inappropriate.

Like you should be doing something more useful.
Or be available, helping and carrying more.

Especially when people around you are struggling too.
Or when others have expectations of you.
And your own expectations of yourself.

But what happens if you never pause?
What happens if you keep pushing through?

And you keep saying:
“I’m fine.”
“I’ll manage.”
“This is not the time.”
“I don’t deserve to enjoy anything right now.”

Over time, the cost shows up.
Less patience.
Less capacity to listen.
Less ability to pause before reacting.
More resentment.
More exhaustion.
More emotional fatigue.

And eventually, less of you available for yourself,
the people and causes that deeply matter to you.

This is where giving yourself to yourself permission matters.
𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐛𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐱𝐲𝐠𝐞𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐤 𝐨𝐧.

Not because the situation is not serious.
Not because you are ignoring what needs to be done.

But exactly because of that.
Because this is not a sprint.
It is a marathon.

And you need energy and enough
mental and emotional capacity to
care for yourself and the people & causes
who matter to you on the road ahead.

You need moments that fill your cup, even a little.
You need something that reminds your body:
I am still here.
There is still life.
There can still be music.
There can still be laughter and connection.

𝐆𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞, 𝐢𝐧 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭.
𝐈𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩.

And sometimes when you give yourself permission to care for yourself, you also quietly show others that they can do the same.

So maybe the question is:
What do I need to give myself permission for today?
Not as a reward.
Not after everything is done.
Not once everyone else is okay.

But as part of staying steady enough
to be able to show up with care, clarity, and intention.

If this is something you want support with, send me a DM.

22/07/2026

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝?

Have you ever felt disappointed because someone did not notice what you needed?

They did not check in.
They did not offer help.
They did not remember something that mattered to you.

And then the thoughts might start:
“Why not? What’s wrong?”
“I would have noticed.”
“I would have remembered.”

And then it might go into
“They should have known.”
“If they cared, they would have ……..”

And maybe there is some truth in all of that.
You might have felt hurt.
You might have felt unseen.
You might have needed support.
You might have been carrying a lot and hoped someone would notice.

That matters.

You do have needs like everyone else.

And this it is not about excusing people who repeatedly ignore, dismiss, or minimise what matters to you.

Sometimes, maybe unconsciously there is something you might have missed.
Was the expectation communicated?
Was it clear?
Did the other person agree to it?

𝐎𝐫 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐢𝐭?

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝-𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐩.

𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐧𝐞.
Especially if you are someone who notices a lot.

Who is used to reading the room.
Who is used to picking up changes in tone.
Anticipating what others need,
Remembering details and joining dots.
Being considerate without being asked.

Then it might feel natural to think that that others would do the same.
But what feels natural and maybe even obvious to you
is a whole other story for someone else.

Your ability and level of noticing may not be theirs.
Your way of reacting to the cues you pick up
is not a uniform one across all people.

These unconscious formed expectation
are clear in your mind.

But they are not necessarily known or clear to others
unless you communicated them.

And that gap can create resentment.
Because inside you might be thinking:

“𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐈 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐨𝐮𝐭?”

I hear you that it can feel frustrating
and that it can make it harder for you to ask for help,

But spelling things out is not weakness or asking for charity.
It is clarity.
It is communication.
It is giving the other person a chance to understand what is actually needed.
And helps you to get what you actually need and not what others think you need.

Will the other person always respond well?
No.
Will they always understand or do what you actually asked for?
No.

And yes, that is a risk.

But then you have information you can build on.
About their capacity.
Their willingness.
Their awareness.
Their ability to meet you there.

And you stood up for yourself.
You showed vulnerability.
And you gained insight into who is willing and able to meet you there.

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭.
𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝.

Send me a DM if you want to talk more about getting your needs met.

22/07/2026

Where do you stand on expectations versus reality?

Is the gap between expectation and reality
a source of disappointment and frustration?
Or can it also be where contentment and fulfilment are found?

Earlier in my life, that gap was often a source of disappointment.
Disappointment with myself.
That I did not live up to my own expectations.
Or what I believed others expected of me.

Disappointment with others.
That they did not do, remember, understand,
or connect things in the way I expected.
And sometimes disappointment with experiences.
Something highly anticipated did not live up to what I had imagined.

Later, frustration joined in.
Why can others not remember this?
Why does this seem so hard?
Why do they not connect the dots when,
to me, it feels like common sense?

Studying human behaviour, the mind-body connection,
neuroplasticity, neurobiology, and
my own personal growth work changed how I looked at this.

Because the gap matters.

When the gap between expectation and reality is wide,
disappointment and frustration are much more likely.
You expected more.
Reality delivered less.
Or something very different.
And that can hurt.

But when the gap is smaller, something changes.
When expectation and reality are more aligned,
there is less room for disappointment to take over.

And when reality meets the expectation,
or even turns out better than expected,
contentment and fulfilment can settle in.

Not because life suddenly became perfect.

But because of the alignment between
what you expect and what was actually possible.

So how do we get there?

Not by pretending you never have expectations.
Many expectations are not even fully consciously set.

They sit underneath.
In our hopes.
Assumptions.
Ideas of what should be obvious.
Ideas of how people should respond.
Ideas of what should happen.

The work is to become more aware of them.
To ask:
Is this expectation realistic?
Is it based on what is actually happening?
Is it based on my current situation?
Have I clearly communicated what I expect?

Or is it based on what I hoped to happen?

And then comes the part that is not always easy.

Adjusting.
Adjusting expectations.
Adjusting the path.
Adjusting the planned outcome.
Adjusting the timeline.

And that does not mean giving in.
It does not mean failure.
It means responding to reality with agency.

Because life does not usually move in a straight line.
There are detours.
Some are scenic.
Some are frustrating.
Some are painful.
Some teach us something we did not expect.

I found contentment not by pretending the gap does not exist.
But by becoming more aware of and reviewing my expectation.
Adjusting where needed.
Appreciating what is here.
And recognising that the journey matters too.
Not only the outcome.

Because expectation and reality will not always match.
But the more aware and open minded to changes we become,
the less likely we are to stay trapped in disappointment
when reality takes a different path.

Let me know in the comments: What has the gap between expectation and reality shown you?

17/07/2026

When was the last time you felt really heard?

I mean really heard.

Not rushed.
Not judged.
Not immediately given advice.

Not met with:
“You should just…”
“At least…”
“Have you tried…”

But listened to in a way that made you feel seen.
Where there was space.
Where you didn’t have to explain everything perfectly.
Where you could think out loud.
Where no one was trying to rescue you, fix you, or move you along.

Just being with you.
Listening.

Maybe asking a question.
Maybe gently encouraging you to keep going.

That kind of listening can feel like being held.
And that is a priceless gift.

A client recently described it as feeling heard, seen, and emotionally safe.
A space where she could go through unprocessed thoughts, gain insights, make connections, and clarify a key point.
It helped her build capacity and find a way forward through being supported, not told what to do.

And that matters.

Because sometimes you don’t need someone to jump straight into solutions.

Sometimes you need enough space to hear yourself.
To go through the thoughts that have been sitting there, unprocessed.
To connect the dots.
To connect with your own lived experience, not just with general concepts.
To find your way forward with support, not pressure.

And if you have not experienced that yet,
or only seldom,
I very well know how much it can hurt
to realise how much you are craving it.

It can also be hard to ask for.
Especially if people around you
are used to going into solution mode.

Sometimes it can help to say:
“I don’t need advice right now. I just need you to listen.”
Or:
“Can I think out loud for a moment?”
Or:
“I’m not asking you to fix this. I just need some space to talk it through.”

And yes, sometimes it feels easier
to speak to someone outside your immediate circle.

In urgent moments, helplines can be a valuable support.

And in coaching, that steady space can be built over time.
A space where you are heard.
Where you are not judged.
Where you can make sense of what has been going on.
And where your own insights can begin to emerge.

Because being heard is not a small thing.

And sometimes it is the first time you can finally hear yourself clearly.

Send me a DM if you want support with being heard.

16/07/2026

Are you trying to feel safe by staying on alert?

Being vigilant is not random.

Yes, it might look like overthinking.
Checking.
Replaying conversations.
Watching out for people’s mood.
Looking for clues.
Trying to work out what might happen next.

And others might say:
“Just stop thinking about it.”
“Don’t worry so much.”
“Let it go.”

But if it were that simple, you probably would have done that already.

But vigilance often fulfills an actual function.
You are trying to protect yourself.
trying to prepare
trying to feel safer,
trying to create certainty,
trying to find reassurance,

So maybe the point is not:
“How do I stop doing this?”

But rather to go deeper inside yourself and ask:
“What is it that I trying to meet with being vigilant?”

Am I looking for reassurance?
Am I looking for protection?
Am I looking for certainty?
Am I trying to prevent being blindsided?
Am I trying to feel more in control?

And that is an important question.

Because once you understand the need,
you can start asking a different question:

How can I meet this need
without keeping myself on constant alert?

Because sometimes being vigilant might make you feel safer
but it keeps your body living as if danger is always nearby.

It may give you moments of control or relief.
And the feeling that “At least I am doing something.”

But often, it does not provide lasting reassurance.
It keeps the loop going.

This is not about ignoring your concerns as they are real for you.
And it is not about beating yourself up for being vigilant.
Being vigilant may have helped you and kept you safe
where noticing small changes mattered.

It’s to maybe review if over time asking yourself
one of the following can be useful
instead of the automatic reaction:

What do I feel I actually need right now?
What would help me feel safer or steadier?
What are the facts and what can I clarify?
What is really mine to carry or to respond to?
What is inside and what is outside my control?
From whom or where can I get non-judgemental support?

You deserve ways to meet your needs
that do not keep you living in a constant state of
watching, waiting, and preparing which is exhausting.

Your needs matter.
Feeling safe,
Feeling reassured and protected,

Especially in todays world where a lot
seem to be uncertain and conditional.

So does the way to meet those needs.

Send me a DM if you want to talk more about being vigilant or meeting your needs.

15/07/2026

You spoke up for yourself. What now?

You gathered your courage.

You said what needed to be said.
You named what did not feel right.
You asked the question.
You set the boundary.
You shared your perspective.

And maybe this was not easy for you.

Maybe speaking up has not always felt safe.
Maybe in the past it came with consequences.
Being dismissed.
Criticised.
Ignored.
Punished.
Or made to feel like you were too much.

The fact that you spoke up matters.
Regardless of what happened next.

So, now the other person gets to respond.
They might listen.
They might agree.
They might apologise.
Or they might become defensive.
Minimise it.
Shift the focus.
Say, “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”

And depending on the response that part can be hard.

You may have hoped that speaking up
would bring clarity, understanding, or repair.

Sometimes it does.
And sometimes it does not.

Their response is not within your control.
What is within your control, and you can anchor yourself in is:

Did I say what mattered to me?
Did I speak in a way that aligns with my values?
Did I stay as grounded as I could?
Did I protect my dignity?

Because speaking up is not about convincing the other person.
It's not always about getting agreement.

It's about no longer swallowing your own voice
to keep things comfortable for everyone else.

It's about showing yourself:
My voice matters.
My perspective matters.

I can speak up, even when the outcome is uncertain.

And if the other person does not respond well, that is information too.
About their capacity.
Their willingness to engage.
Where they are in their life’s journey.

That absolutely doesn’t mean it will not hurt.

But something important changed.
You spoke.
You stood up for yourself.
You did something that took courage,
and that's a WIN in my book anytime, regardless of the outcome!

Especially if typically, you would have stayed quiet
and swallowed things down and might have beaten yourself up about it.

Speaking up does not guarantee the outcome you are hoping for.

But it can strengthen your relationship with yourself.
With your own voice.
Build self-trust.
And show you that you do have the agency to stand up for yourself.

Question: When was the last time you spoke up for yourself?

14/07/2026

Fed up with hearing that you need to be more resilient?

More resilient?!?

They have no idea what I have been through.
They have no idea what my day-to-day life looks like.
They have no idea what is going on inside me.

And that is exactly the point.
None of us really knows what is going on in someone else’s life behind closed doors.

What they are thinking.
What they are feeling.
What they are carrying.
Their inner struggles.
Their hopes.
Their fears.
Their wishes.

People might say, “You need to be more resilient”
because they see you struggling and want to help.

Maybe resilience is what helped them.
Maybe they do not know what else to say.
Maybe they feel uncomfortable.
Maybe resilience is simply a word they have heard a lot.

And yes, often it may come from a good place.
But it can still hurt.
It can feel minimising.
It can feel dismissive.

Especially when it overlooks all the work, growth,
and effort you have already put in.

Because sometimes the issue is not that you are not resilient.
Sometimes the issue is that you have had to be resilient for too long.

Based on conversations with clients, support work,
and my own experience, straight-up life advice is rarely
the most helpful first response when someone is struggling.

What instead?

Acknowledge what you notice in a kind, non-judgemental way.
You might say:
“You seem to have a lot on your plate.”
“I can see this is affecting you.”

Then pause.

See if they are willing to share.
Do not pressure them.

If appropriate, offer something simple.
A glass of water.
A quiet moment.
A bit of space.

And, if you are genuinely able and willing, you might say:
“Is there something I can do for you?”

The key is that it remains the person’s choice.
Whether they accept the invitation.
What they share.
What kind of support they want.

And if what they ask for is outside your capacity,
role, or what feels appropriate, you can say no.

But you have still given them something important.

A moment of being seen.
A moment of choice.

And that means a lot more and goes a lot further
than telling someone to be more resilient.

If this resonates and you want support to explore what you are carrying, send me a DM.

10/07/2026

Are you stuck in the gap between knowing and doing?

I hazard a guess that most of us have experienced this at some point.

Knowing what to do is one thing.
Knowing how to apply it consistently in your own life is another.

You can understand something in theory
and still not know how to integrate it
into your day-to-day life.

Or it works sometimes,
but not consistently.
A bit of a hit and miss.

And after a while, it can feel like you are stuck.
Frustration builds.
Your inner critic goes into overdrive.

And inside your head you might hear:
There is something wrong with me.
Everyone says this is easy, so I must be failing.
Why can’t I just do it?

And then your self-esteem and self-trust can start to crumble.
Your motivation drops.
Your ability to think clearly is impacted.
And before you know it,
the gap between knowing and doing becomes even harder to close.

This can become a vicious cycle.
Or even a self-fulfilling prophecy.

But the gap between knowing and doing
is usually not solved by gathering more theoretical information.
And it is not always solved by pushing yourself harder.

In many cases, what is missing is a bridge.
A translator.
A way to slow down, change perspective,
and listen to what your body, your thoughts,
and your situation are actually telling you.

Instead of only trying to follow the “instructions,”
you might ask:
WHY do I want to change this?
WHAT does this mean for me?
HOW does this actually look in my life?
WHAT is one small step I can take right now?

Understanding why you want to change something
and what it means for you
can give you a clearer vision and stronger motivation.

Your brain gets clearer marching orders.
Not just:
“Because I said so.”
But:
“This matters because…”

Then you can look at how the change actually fits into your life.
Your routines and responsibilities.
Your real circumstances.
That makes success much more likely
than trying to force a generic strategy into a complex life.

And then actioning it with
one small step you can take right now.

That small step creates momentum.
And it gives you feedback.

Feedback to review and adjust.
Feedback to build on.
Judgement free.

Because all change, whether
small or big, moves through waves.
Progress is rarely linear.

So maybe part of closing the gap
is not more theory and harder work.

It is slowing down enough to understand yourself,
translate the idea into your real life,
and take one grounded step from there.

DM me if you want to hear more about
how to close the gap between knowing and doing.

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