Healing by the Bay Counselling Services Cleveland.

05/08/2026

Passive-aggressive behaviours in your relationships.

" Sometimes it's not what we say, it's what we avoid saying "

Andrea HBTB ☀️🙏

29/07/2026

In couples therapy, I often see people expecting their partner to know what they're thinking, feeling, needing, or why they're upset. But the truth is, our partners aren't mind readers.

So, instead of leaving them guessing, just talk about it.

Say what you need from one another
Make yourself clear .

Andrea HBTB 🙏☀️

26/07/2026

Today: National Emergency Alert Test at 2:00pm (QLD time)

A reminder that the Australian Government's nationwide Emergency Alert test is going ahead today at 2:00pm (QLD time).

The alert cannot be opted out of, will sound for around 10 seconds even on silent or Do Not Disturb, and will reach all compatible devices.

For anyone using a safe phone as part of a domestic or family violence safety plan, now is the time to act:
- If avoiding the alert is part of your safety plan, devices need to be switched off or in airplane mode before 1:00pm, and kept off for 24 hours afterwards
- Check that your safe phone is somewhere the person using violence doesn't know about
- Don't forget other devices - tablets and smart watches can also receive the alert

If you support clients or colleagues who may be affected, please share this reminder with them today.

23/07/2026

Unspoken Expectations 🤍

One thing I've noticed lately is this...

Almost every couple who walks through my door has expectations of each other.

Who takes the bins out.

Who starts the hard conversations.

Who organises the kids.

Who notices when the other person is struggling.

Who reaches out after an argument.

There's nothing wrong with having expectations.
The problem starts when we expect our partner to know them without ever talking about them.
We tell ourselves...
"They should just know."
But the truth is...
They probably don't.
Instead, we start making assumptions.
"They don't care."
"They never think about me."
"I'm always the one making the effort."
And before long, we're arguing about the dishes, the washing, or who's picking the kids up...
When really, it's about an expectation that was never spoken about.

Healthy relationships aren't about getting it right all the time.
They're about being willing to have the conversation.
Tell your partner what you need.( they're not a mind reader)
Ask them what they need.
Don't leave them guessing.
Because when we stop expecting people to read our minds, we give them a real chance to show up for us.

Andrea HBTB 💙🌻

23/07/2026

🌻 August sessions are now open 🌻

Now welcoming new client's. Couples and individual sessions can be booked directly online. Support for you as an individual or support for you as a couple.

Andrea 💙☀️

22/07/2026

✨️We are made up of many parts ✨️

The confident part.
The scared part.
The playful part.
The angry part.
The people-pleasing part.
The part that's tired of pretending everything is okay.
💙💙

Every part has a story.
Every part deserves compassion.
Every part belongs.

Andrea HBTB 💙

15/07/2026

What's your love language? ❤️

Knowing each other's love language can really help both of you feel more connected. 🫂 😁

I think we all have more than one love language (at least I do!) and they can change depending on where we are in our relationship.

What's your love language ? ❤️

Andrea ♡☆♡

14/07/2026

12/07/2026

Glimmers over the last few weeks. We're often so busy noticing what's not working that we miss the little moments quietly making us feel okay. ( me included)

A cuddle with Marlow.
A hot coffee.
A warm fire.
A swim in the bay
A text from someone you love.

These are called glimmers — small moments that help your nervous system remember that you're safe.

They matter more than you think. 🤍💙🫶

HBTB ♡