02/07/2026
Have you ever been told to "just not worry about it"? Or that if you just try not to think about it, it will go away?
Wrong.
Let’s try an experiment. Close your eyes and don’t think about chocolate cake. Don’t think about the rich, dark icing. Don’t think about how it smells when it’s freshly baked, or how sweet it tastes...
What are you thinking about right now? Let me guess... Chocolate cake?
This is the trap of thought suppression. The more you try not to think about a worry, the more your brain focuses on it. This is exactly why telling ourselves (or our kids) to "just stop worrying" rarely works.
Instead of fighting our thoughts, we need to change how we interact with them. This is the core of Cognitive Defusion: an evidence-based psychological skill that teaches us to step back, observe our thoughts, and let them pass without getting tangled up in them.
Everyone will have different strategies that work for them and we know how important it is to tailor skills to work for your brain. Get in touch with us today to speak with a psychologist about building a tool kit that actually works for you.
For the little ones this July school holidays, our Winter Group Program aims to teach Cognitive Defusion (and so much more) at our Mad Science & Magic Lab! We will be bringing these abstract psychological concepts to life and kids learn hands-on. Instead of just talking about letting go, they physically externalise their worries and watch them launch away... using science!