New Remedy Therapy

03/06/2026

“People often assume the opposite of stress is happiness, but sometimes the opposite of stress is simply comfort. And comfort isn’t always the same thing as fulfilment.”

As therapists, we spend a lot of time helping people reduce suffering.

We explore anxiety, grief, burnout, trauma and overwhelm. We look for ways to ease pain, create safety and help people feel better.

But sometimes I think we’ve lost sight of something important.

Not all suffering is a sign that something is wrong.

There is a particular kind of ordinary, everyday suffering that comes from moving towards the things that matter.

The exhaustion of raising children.

The vulnerability of loving someone deeply.

The uncertainty of starting a business.

The discomfort of learning a new skill.

The grief that comes with caring.

The risk that comes with hope.

A meaningful life is not a pain-free life.

Sometimes the goal isn’t to eliminate discomfort. Sometimes the goal is to make sure the discomfort is in service of something we value.

I’ve met people whose lives are comfortable but feel flat, disconnected or stuck.

And I’ve met people who are tired, stretched and occasionally overwhelmed, but who are deeply connected to purpose, love, growth and meaning.

The aim of therapy isn’t always to help people avoid struggle.

Sometimes it’s helping people work out which struggles are worth carrying.

Because comfort and fulfilment are not the same thing.

And some of the most beautiful parts of being human are found in the messy, ordinary effort of building a life that matters.

31/05/2026

Read my new article "Coercively Controlling Fathers and the Hidden Threat They Pose to Children". https://dremmakatz.substack.com/p/coercively-controlling-fathers-and

Mainstream thinking tends to be that if children are going to be harmed by anything in relation to domestic abuse, it is seeing or hearing incidents of physical violence, or getting hurt themselves during such incidents. People often don't think about abuse based on coercive control, and would struggle to see just how dangerous and harmful a coercive control-perpetrating father could be to children.

This article shows how coercive control does harm children - how every coercive control tactic that a perpetrator is using will also be harming any children or young people in the family. It also reveals what key research studies have found about the parenting of domestically-abusive and coercively controlling fathers.

Victim-survivor mothers are not to blame for any of these harms — they were victims of the same abuse that harmed the children. Victims are not to blame for harm experienced by other victims. It is perpetrators who are responsible, as they had both power and unconstrained choices, but they continued their abuse rather than stopping it.

"Coercively Controlling Fathers and the Hidden Threat They Pose to Children" - 3 Key Facts explored in the article:

Fact 1: Just looking at physical violence is nowhere near enough to tell us about the full scope and severity of domestic abuse.

Fact 2: Situations where coercive control is present are uniquely harmful.

Fact 3: Fathers who carry out coercive control-based domestic abuse cannot parent in adequate ways. Every tactic that the coercively controlling father uses against the victim-survivor mother harms the children’s lives on a day-to-day basis.

I say 'fathers' for a reason here. Of course, a coercively controlling mother would be harmful too. However, 97% of those convicted for coercive control are men, so in the vast majority of cases it is the father who is the coercive control perpetrator in the family.

Link https://dremmakatz.substack.com/p/coercively-controlling-fathers-and

28/05/2026

One thing I probably don’t say often enough is this:

I don’t actually want you to need me forever.

Now, there are absolutely people who benefit from long-term therapy. Some experiences take time to unpack. Complex trauma, grief, attachment wounds, neurodivergent burnout, relationship patterns that have been repeated for decades—these things don’t magically resolve in six sessions.

Some people work with a therapist for months or years, and that can be deeply valuable.

But my goal has never been to create dependency.

I don’t measure success by how long someone stays in therapy.

I measure success by moments like:
✨ You backing yourself when things get hard.
✨ You setting a boundary without needing reassurance first.
✨ You understanding your child’s behaviour differently.
✨ You recognising a pattern before it takes over.
✨ You using the skills without me in the room.

Good therapy should make itself less necessary over time.

I want you to leave sessions feeling more capable, more connected to yourself, and more trusting of your own wisdom—not feeling like you need to come back every week forever just to cope.

Sometimes therapy is a season.
Sometimes it’s a longer journey.
Sometimes people leave and come back years later when life throws them a new challenge.

That’s okay too.

But if one day you realise you haven’t needed an appointment in months because you’re busy living your life, handling the hard stuff, and moving towards the things that matter to you…

I’ll be genuinely happy about that.

Because the goal was never to keep you in therapy.

The goal was always to help you build a life where therapy isn’t the thing holding you together.

28/05/2026

Art is healing in itself

27/05/2026

I currently have capacity for two ongoing monthly supervision/consultation spots for practitioners working with children, adolescents and families.

My work is highly specialised in dual diagnosis, neurodivergence, trauma, complex behaviour presentations, attachment disruption and mental health complexity in children and young people. I particularly enjoy supporting clinicians and practitioners working with the kids who don’t fit neatly into one framework, service system or diagnostic box.

These spaces may suit:
• Behaviour Support Practitioners
• Social Workers
• Therapists
• Counsellors
• Early career clinicians
• Experienced practitioners wanting deeper reflective practice around complexity

Supervision with me is less about compliance and polished textbook answers and more about:
✨ making sense of complexity
✨ understanding behaviour in context
✨ working relationally and developmentally
✨ holding risk and nuance without panic
✨ building sustainable practice
✨ navigating systems without losing your values
✨ supporting neurodivergent and traumatised children in ways that are actually humane

I work from a neuroaffirming, trauma-informed, child development and relational psychotherapy lens, with strong integration of reflective practice, sensory understanding and family systems thinking.

Sessions are available Australia-wide online.

If you think we may be a good fit, feel free to reach out via DM or through:
www.newremedytherapy.com

25/05/2026

So many magical moments happen in this space this little container 🫙 where we share process laugh cry and rage against all that we are, all that we have been and all we are yet to be

24/05/2026

23/05/2026

Maybe it’s 40 looming closer or the general hormonal thunderstorm in my life but… There’s a trend in therapist spaces lately that quietly suggests if you can still tolerate messy people, chaotic friendships, emotionally intense family systems, or “difficult” humans outside of work… then maybe your just getting good at boundaries by shutting it out , your nervous system is less upset by avoiding, or you’re somehow doing the work or evolving through this change.

And honestly? I think that’s bu****it.

Some of my favourite people are loud. Complex. Emotional. Contradictory. Chaotic in the most human ways. I can always find time for them in group, 1:1 or I can let them know I don’t have capacity and they sit with me in that.

They are not my clients.
I’m not analysing them.
I’m not trying to fix them.
I’m not silently writing behavioural formulations in my head while we drink tea and debrief life. They see I am a human, I can be unhinged and I am in this very real life to and I WILL call them back!
love them because they’re real.

I think there’s something deeply concerning about a professional culture that starts pathologising ordinary human connection and intimacy. Somewhere along the way, “healthy boundaries” got twisted into emotional sterility. As though healing means becoming so regulated, detached and clinically polished that you can no longer sit in the messiness of actual humanity.

But the people I trust most are often the people who can still laugh loudly, tolerate complexity, survive relational friction, stay connected through hard seasons, and love people who are imperfect.

Being a therapist doesn’t mean I stop being a person.

It doesn’t mean every relationship needs therapeutic distance.
It doesn’t mean every emotionally intense person is “too much.”
It doesn’t mean I need to curate my life into a nervous-system-approved beige waiting room.

Some of us do this work precisely because we understand messy humanity intimately — not because we’ve transcended it.

And if I ever lose my ability to genuinely enjoy complicated, passionate, neurodivergent, grieving, chaotic, funny, imperfect humans in my real life?

That’s probably when I’d start worrying.

22/05/2026

Congratulation to Katie on her speaking gig this morning taking about lived experience and working alongside our communities families who need supports