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10/15/2026

And know their response has nothing to do with you as a person. You deserve to be loved in a healthy way. Not all people are healthy which means their capability will not be there to do so. It's hard and sad for sure, yet we need to have the wisdom to see the truth to adjust our own behavior and the direction we take to get our needs met in healthy ways from healthy people.

10/15/2026

Navy seals use this kind of breathing to reduce stress and to relax. Some use this at nighttime to help sleep easier! This is also great for the kids!! It's called boxed breathing.

10/15/2026

We will even create a life that is very overwhelming with so many things that needs to be done, to avoid stopping and feeling our uncomfortable emotions.

DBT Skills. These can often be avoidance.

How do you avoid ?

10/15/2026

Did you know that when you do, you program their mind that they matter. And when we do not, we program their minds that they do not matter. We have so many adults walking around, believing they do not matter.

10/14/2026

10/14/2026

Of course this does not apply to all men! It would be wrong to say such.

10/14/2026

CPTSD is not one bad memory.
It is a thousand ordinary days.

Most people expect trauma to have a single scene. A night. An accident. A moment you can point to and say, that is where it started.

Complex trauma rarely works like that.
It is repetition.
The same clenched jaw at the sound of a car in the driveway.
The same held breath before a door opened.
The same quiet math every evening about what mood was waiting in the house.

No single day looked catastrophic.
That is what makes it so hard to name.
There is no headline event, so you may have spent years telling yourself it was not that bad.

Meanwhile your body kept the count.
It learned that safety could end without warning.
That calm was something to monitor, not trust.
That relaxing meant missing the signal that mattered.
So the injury does not trace back to one day.

There was never just one day.
There were thousands, each asking your body for the same small act of bracing.
And a body that braced that many times does not forget the position.
It stays ready long after the house is gone.

❤️ Save this for the day someone asks what, exactly, happened to you.

Which ordinary moment did your body learn to brace for?

Share this with someone who keeps minimizing a childhood that never had one big event.

The Complex PTSD guide names this pattern directly. Free in the Walk Alongside You Collection, link in the About section.

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10/13/2026

We all need to feel safe, to be loved well and to be healthy and happier.

10/13/2026

We have a lot to be sad about, and be angry about, that needs attending and emotional validation.

Most people consider abandonment in terms of a person physically removing themselves from one's life. Although this is a correct definition, it is not the only type of abandonment that we must become aware of. Not being aware that there is such a thing as emotional abandonment can keep people in dysfunctional and/or toxic relationships longer than they deserve to be. Once people become aware of the many ways that one can be abandoned, they can more accurately assess those around them and determine who is worthy of remaining in their lives.

*Now, of course, no one is perfect, and we may at times experience let downs from loved ones who unintentionally hurt us or fail to meet a need or two, this is not abandonment. This post is about intentional abandonment, where there is a continuous lack of care and consideration for how one's behaviors may impact others.

May you all surround yourself with people who would never intentionally abandon you. And may you become the type of person who never abandons her/him-self.🌱

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