Incourage Counselling Inc.

Incourage Counselling Inc. Evidence- and practice-based counselling services to help you have authentic and deep relationships with yourself and other important people in your life.

This is the official page for Incourage Counselling in Burnaby, BC, Canada. Our practitioners thrive in helping clients to re-discover and create a life worth living with a healthy relationship with themselves, and improve their relationships with those who are important in their lives. Please contact visit www.incouragecounselling.ca to learn more about us!

09/03/2026

They thought this career was just a phase. Now it has become something I am truly proud of.

1. Purpose: Doing work that genuinely helps people move forward.
2. Connection: Building a safe space where people feel heard, understood and supported.
3. Growth: Helping others grow while continuing to grow myself.

Sometimes the career your parents worry about becomes the career that gives you the most purpose.

Comment "CAREER" if you have ever chosen a path others did not expect.

09/01/2026

Sometimes your mental health starts asking for help long before you reach a breaking point.

It can look like waking up exhausted, pulling away from people, struggling to concentrate, feeling constantly on edge, or noticing that everyday things suddenly take more effort than they used to. These changes do not always mean something is seriously wrong, but they are worth paying attention to, especially when they keep happening.

Your body and mind often give you signals before things feel overwhelming. You do not have to wait until you completely burn out to slow down, check in with yourself, or reach out for support.

Share this with someone who needs the reminder to listen before their body has to scream.

08/25/2026

Sometimes the person who caused the hurt never walks into the counselling room, the person left dealing with it does.

You might be the one replaying conversations, questioning your reactions, or trying to understand why someone keeps hurting you without taking responsibility. After a while, it can become easy to focus so much on understanding them that you stop paying attention to what the situation has been doing to you.

Counselling is not always about fixing the person who caused the problem. Sometimes it is about helping you understand the patterns, make sense of what happened, and decide what you are no longer willing to carry.

You cannot force someone else to change, but you can choose what healing looks like for you.

Save this if you need the reminder that your healing does not depend on their accountability.

08/20/2026

Feeling guilty after setting a boundary does not mean you made the wrong decision.

Sometimes the guilt shows up because you are so used to thinking about how everyone else feels that choosing yourself feels uncomfortable. But setting a boundary can simply mean you were honest about what you need.

You are allowed to protect your time, energy, and emotional well being without making yourself responsible for someone else’s reaction. And if people pleasing has been your default for years, speaking up for yourself is a bigger win than it might feel like in the moment.

The discomfort can pass, but the self respect you are building matters.

Save this for the next time setting a boundary makes you question yourself.

08/18/2026

What someone comes to therapy for is not always the whole story.

Sometimes the real work starts with noticing the patterns underneath what is being said.

1. Coping can look different for everyone

Humor, avoiding eye contact, changing the subject, shutting down, or sleeping more can all be ways someone manages uncomfortable emotions.

2. The first problem mentioned may only be the surface

A relationship issue, stress at work, or feeling overwhelmed can sometimes connect to experiences and patterns that started much earlier.

3. Therapy is about understanding, not judging

The goal is not to label every behavior. It is to become more aware of what is happening, where it may be coming from, and what could help moving forward.

Sometimes the smallest details tell the biggest story.

Share this with someone who believes self awareness can change the way we heal.

08/14/2026

Things your counsellor probably is not judging you for:

1. Not knowing how to start

You do not need to walk into a session with the right words or a perfectly organized story. “I don’t even know where to start” is a perfectly good place to start.

2. Having the same feelings come up again

Healing is not always a straight line. You might talk about the same person, situation, or fear more than once. That does not mean you are stuck. Sometimes you need time to understand something from a different place.

3. Thinking your pain is not serious enough

You do not have to prove that your pain is worse than someone else’s before it deserves attention. If it is affecting you, it matters.

You can cry, ramble, overthink, get anxious, or even say, “This probably sounds stupid.” You do not have to pretend to be okay in counselling.

Share this with someone who needs a little reassurance about starting counselling.

08/13/2026

Some things I have learned after 17 years as a counsellor are hard to unlearn, but they can change the way you see yourself.

1. The way people treated you can shape how you see yourself

If you were made to feel like you were never good enough, too much, or difficult to love, you may have learned to shrink yourself just to feel accepted. That does not mean those things were ever true about you.

2. Avoiding your feelings does not make them go away

What you push down often finds another way to show up. Sometimes it looks like anxiety, exhaustion, irritability, overthinking, or simply saying “I’m fine” when you really do not have the energy to explain what is going on.

3. Healing does not come from being harder on yourself

You cannot shame yourself into becoming healthier. You cannot punish yourself into feeling worthy. Healing starts with understanding what you are carrying and learning to respond to yourself with more compassion.

You do not have to make yourself smaller, easier, or more perfect to deserve love.

Save this for the days you need the reminder.

08/06/2026

If you don't know what to pursue in life right now... pursue yourself first.

1. Prioritize your health.
Your energy, focus, and confidence all start with taking care of your body. Every opportunity becomes easier when you feel your best.

2. Heal what’s holding you back.
The patterns you don't address often become the obstacles you keep running into. Growth starts with self-awareness.

3. Become someone you're proud of.
Learn new skills, build discipline, and be present. The right career, relationships, and opportunities often follow the person you're becoming.

💬 Share this with someone who needs the reminder that investing in themselves is never time wasted.

08/04/2026

As a Counseller, when a client says, "I'm fine," these are the 3 questions I might ask instead of pushing...

1. "What's felt the heaviest lately?"
This helps them focus on one emotion or challenge without feeling pressured to explain everything.

2. "What do you wish someone would ask you right now?"
Sometimes people know what they need—they just haven't been given the space to say it.

3. "What would feeling just 1% better look like today?"

Small, realistic steps often feel safer and more achievable than asking someone to "open up."

💬 Share this with someone who could use a better way to start meaningful conversations.

07/30/2026

The truth is, we live in a time where people are looking for guidance everywhere, on podcasts, TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube, and that creates a responsibility.

Sharing your experiences, lessons, and perspectives can be powerful… but there’s a big difference between creating awareness and replacing professional help.

A good creator knows their limits. They educate, they encourage, and they point people toward the right resources. Having a platform doesn’t automatically make you an expert.

And being vulnerable doesn’t mean you have all the answers. The best influencers aren’t the ones who pretend to know everything, they’re the ones who know when to say:

"I’ve been through this… but you might need someone trained to help you through it."

Influence is a privilege. Use it responsibly.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re carrying things alone, reaching out for support isn’t a weakness — it’s a step toward understanding yourself better.

If you’re ready to start that conversation, I’m here to help. Send me a message and let’s talk.

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37-4429 Kingsway
Burnaby, BC
V5H2A1

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+16043521705

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