Dr. Tanja Haley

08/05/2026

I love this article written by CGT and Master Gottman Trainer Dr. V about how to be a good consumer of couples therapy. Read on!

Couples therapy is genuinely hard and a specialized modality. Most therapists are trained for one-on-one work, where you can slow things down and ask questions. Couples therapy doesn't give you that. You need a plan before you walk in the door. This week I'm breaking down what the research says abo

07/25/2026

https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/?utm_campaign=Blog%20Subscribers&utm_medium=email&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9yJgA_6XSZ5qoJNLxZW1BsZ6k932bK_ITka1vZEvZ3yFn3v5P9r7ACgJuRQXOLz8nH3uWE2HKjvYjBizdF1zEm2_H3Tg&_hsmi=430098086&utm_content=430098086&utm_source=hs_email
This August marks the 30th anniversary of the Gottman Institute. When I started grad school 30 years ago, I had no idea that Dr. John Gottman’s work would be such a huge part of my career. I became a Certified Gottman Therapist in 2008, and I am now a Gottman Trainer as well. John and Julie Gottman’s work is foundational to couples therapy and I am honoured to be attending the Gottman Retreat in November to celebrate this significant milestone.

What Makes Relationships Last? Lessons from 30 Years of Marriage and the Gottman Institute

04/24/2026

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04/18/2026

Clinicians: Don’t miss the last few days of early pricing! We’ve got a great small group, and clinicians taking this training can opt into the consult group for Level 2. Reserve your spot today: https://drtanja.com/level-1-clinical-training-gottman-method-couples-therapy/

01/01/2026

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/everyone-top/202211/10-questions-can-build-intimacy-your-partner
Great questions - read on!

Looking to feel closer and more connected to your partner? These questions will get you going.

07/10/2025

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-archetypal-angle/202507/chatgpt-induced-psychosis-and-the-good-enough-therapist
This article brings up some very interesting points about the role of AI in therapy - read on!

Interactions with AI can be destabilizing for some people. Looking at why can help us understand what's unique about the therapeutic relationship.

03/20/2025

https://www.gottman.com/blog/self-soothing-tips-for-high-conflict-couples/?utm_campaign=Marriage%20Minute&utm_medium=email&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9W1XQyjmzyFg9Dm--vkakjP2gfvh0gj-m_wloWIkUq5xfbpfrYO6GFWPOYEqienwnfzGFHaFAjA0KIvItTgDi_FKGFIg&_hsmi=352601477&utm_content=352002221&utm_source=hs_email
As a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) who has worked with high conflict couples for over 20 years, a fundamental skill I teach all couples is how to manage flooding. When you are flooded your body goes into ‘fight/flight/freeze’, and having a constructive conversation is impossible. Read on for some important tips!

If your arguments feel out of control, you need to step away and bring yourself back to a calm state. Brittini Carter, LMHC, shows you how.

06/02/2024

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/202405/10-hacks-to-master-your-mental-health
Start with small steps, and be consistent. Read on!

The desire for well-being and happiness is universal. These 10 simple life changes, based on the latest scientific research, can get you there before you know it.

04/29/2024

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/liking-the-child-you-love/202401/2-words-to-instantly-improve-your-intimate-relationship
A good reminder of the importance of fostering kindness. Read on!

Far-reaching benefits that dry up when it's not maintained.

04/25/2024

https://www.gottman.com/blog/our-friend-and-valued-colleague-sue-johnson/?utm_campaign=Blog%20Subscribers&utm_medium=email&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-98OvVYre-Yi9ieuxL70zoTw9wXqP7ex9tWpe1Q74iCxxr6WghG9fkcOn4ySVLO3NvVDilzxjYe-rfq1h_bo6idRg-5qA&_hsmi=304359749&utm_content=304359749&utm_source=hs_email
As many of you know, I am certified in both the Gottman Method and Dr. Sue Johnson’s EFT. I had the privilege of attending the Johnson Gottman Summit pictured below, and I also attended many of Sue’s trainings over the years. I was incredibly lucky to have met Sue, and she leaves an important legacy behind.

We are so sad to announce that Sue Johnson has died at the age of 76 from cancer.  She was … Continued