Coming Home To Self

Coming Home To Self Hello/Bonjour! At Coming Home to Self, I use art therapy to help you reconnect with your true self.

I offer one-on-one sessions, group workshops (online & in-person), and retreats in a safe, non-judgmental space to explore emotions and foster healing.

05/26/2026

Ever feel like the medical world treats a common cold in a man like a national emergency, while women’s health concerns get a metaphorical shrug? 🤷‍♀️

​Let’s look at the actual math here:

​🔬 Exhibit A: Erectile Dysfunction. It affects roughly 10- 20% of men. Yet...when Vi**ra was discovered, it was fast-tracked, heavily researched, and funded. In fact, research shows that studies on erectile dysfunction outnumber research into female sexual dysfunction by an overwhelming margin (some estimates say up to 5 to 1).

​🩸 Exhibit B: Menstrual Pain. It affects roughly 70-90% of women and people who menstruate. For many, it can be entirely debilitating. The common medical solution? "Have you tried ibuprofen or a hot water bottle? Maybe just google what chips to eat." It’s funny because it's absurd, but it's less funny when you realize the medical system has historically treated the male body as the baseline "norm" and the female body as an "anomaly" or an afterthought...For DECADES clinical trials entirely excluded women simply because our hormones were considered "too complicated" to account for.

​The result? We are left turning to AI, communities, and creative self-care just to figure out our own bodies.

​Your pain isn't a mystery, it’s just under-researched. You deserve answers, support, and care that goes beyond a standard Google search.

​👇 Drop a 🪵 or a 🤬 in the comments if you've ever felt like your symptoms were treated like a mystery novel nobody bothered to read! Let's talk about it.

05/21/2026

Why a "High Pain Tolerance" Can Actually Be a Trauma Response⁉️

​Having a "crazy pain tolerance" isn't a badge of honor we should want to wear.
​It usually just means your body has learned that crying out won't bring help. True health isn't about how much agony you can look normal while experiencing.

​When severe pain (like debilitating cramps) is repeatedly dismissed as "normal," your nervous system adapts to survive. Here is what’s actually happening under the surface:

​The "Functional Freeze" 🧠
When your body can’t fight the pain and can’t run away from it, it drops into a freeze state. It numbs your awareness so you can keep functioning. You look totally fine answering emails, but internally, your system is running on empty just trying to hold it together.

​The Brain's Speech Center Shuts Down 🚫
Neuroimaging shows that intense distress actually drops activity in Broca’s area—the speech center of the brain. This is why it feels physically impossible to articulate your agony when a doctor asks for a simple "1 to 10" scale. Your brain literally lacks the neural real estate to turn raw suffering into words in that moment.

​A high pain tolerance isn't just willpower. It’s a sophisticated survival strategy developed by a nervous system forced to adapt to chronic invalidation.

​👉 SAVE this for the next time you feel tempted to minimize your own symptoms. Your pain is real, and it deserves to be investigated, not just tolerated.

​💬 Let’s vent: What’s the most ridiculous, "thanks, I'm cured" piece of advice you’ve ever been given for severe pain? 👇

05/19/2026

Jeff is out here experiencing a casual Tuesday for millions of people and losing his absolute mind. 💀🧢

​But let’s look at the actual neuroscience of what’s happening here. When you are forced to live with chronic or cyclic pain, your brain eventually develops high functional tolerance. Your nervous system is constantly firing a massive alarm signal, but because society tells you "it's just a normal cramp," you learn to completely override that alarm just to function.

​You go to work, you buy groceries, you live life at a 7/10 pain level, and you play it completely cool.

​JUST because a symptom is common, it does not mean it is normal. Pushing through debilitating physical pain shouldn't be the baseline expectation to exist in the world.
​Turns out pain tolerance isn't a superpower, it’s just a highly advanced survival tactic Drop a 🙋‍♀️ if you're tired of having to play it cool.

04/12/2026

Welcome to Coming Home to Self: Gallery Box 🤍🖼🎨

Coming home to self isn’t about becoming someone new
it’s about returning to who you’ve always been,underneath the noise, the expectations, the disconnection.

☀️Each season, this box will hold pieces from the community.
Different stories, different expressions,
rooted in themes of mental health, healing, and lived experiences all part of the same quiet process of remembering ourselves.

Quarterly submissions will follow the rhythm of the seasons: spring, summer, fall, and winter❄️
each with its own themes and invitations.

You’ll be able to scan the QR code on the box, which will bring you to the Coming Home to Self website, where you can submit your piece.

If you have ideas for future themes, I’d truly love to hear them 🤍

We should be finished tomorrow… STAY TUNE! 💫

03/19/2026

🩸 Wait… why didn’t anyone tell me this?
Most of us were taught how to manage our period…
not how to understand what it’s trying to tell us.🙃

YOUR menstrual cycle isn’t just about bleeding once a month.
It’s a communication system.
Every phase is sending signals about your energy, your emotions, your stress levels, and your overall health.

⁉️But instead of being taught to listen, many of us were taught to push through pain, normalize exhaustion, ignore changes in our bodies, and doubt ourselves when something feels off.
Your brain and body are constantly in conversation.

👉HORMONES are part of that communication system!!!

They are signals, they both are signals and carry signals throughout the body.
They act as messengers, responding to what your body is experiencing.
So when things feel off, irregular cycles, intense PMS, mood shifts... your body might not be broken.

It might be trying to get your attention.
And this matters even more as you move toward perimenopause, because the patterns your body has been navigating for years don’t just disappear, they carry forward.
What if instead of asking, “How do I get rid of this?”
we started asking, “What is my body trying to say?”

🩸
I wish we were taught body literacy, not just symptom management. 😮‍💨

03/13/2026

🏛 Department of Hormonal Affairs

Transition Notice:
Menstruation → Perimenopause

📚 Fact:
Menopause is medically defined as 12 consecutive months without a menstrual period.

The years leading up to that are called perimenopause, a hormonal transition where estrogen and progesterone begin to fluctuate.

Research shows this phase can last approximately 4–10 years.

Some commonly reported changes during perimenopause include:

• changes in menstrual cycle patterns
• hot flashes or night sweats
• sleep disturbances
• mood changes or irritability
• brain fog
• increased anxiety
• vaginal dryness
• eye dryness
• changes in energy levels

🩸 Important:
Not everyone experiences the same symptoms. Hormonal transitions vary widely from person to person

Did you know? 🇨🇦

For many years, doctors were cautious about prescribing Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) after the 2002 Women’s Health Initiative study raised concerns about a potential increased risk of breast cancer.

Later research clarified that risks depend on type of hormone therapy, dosage, timing of use, and individual health history.

Current evidence shows that for many individuals experiencing moderate to severe menopausal symptoms, HRT can be a safe and effective treatment option, and when started near menopause the benefits may outweigh the risks for many patients.

However:

• HRT is not appropriate for everyone
• Some individuals choose non-hormonal treatments
• Treatment decisions should always be made with a healthcare provider based on individual health history.

03/10/2026

🩸When symptoms are minimized repeatedly, people can begin to doubt their own bodily signals.

Over time this can lead to disconnection from the body’s warning system.🙀

And that has real consequences.

Chronic pain doesn’t just affect one part of life.

👉It can impact:
• Energy levels, the body and nervous system work harder when pain is ongoing
• Cognitive function – chronic pain and inflammation can contribute to brain fog and difficulty concentrating
• Emotional wellbeing – living with unmanaged pain increases stress and mental load
• Relationships – masking pain or fatigue can create misunderstandings with partners, friends, or coworkers
• Daily functioning – many people push through symptoms because they’ve learned they won’t be taken seriously

Over time, people often adapt by:

• Minimizing their own pain
• Ignoring body signals
• Normalizing fatigue and discomfort

⁉️But menstrual pain that interferes with daily life is not something the body is meant to simply tolerate.

This is often the work that happens in therapy with individuals who have experienced medical trauma or chronic illness.

Part of the process is unraveling beliefs shaped by dismissal or misunderstanding.

Learning to reconnect with the body.
Rebuilding trust in internal signals.
Returning to the inner knowing that was there all along.

Because the body in pain is not necessarily working against you.❤️

Often, it is trying to get your attention.

Healing can begin by slowly rebuilding a relationship with the body and the wisdom it carries. 🩸

03/05/2026

🎭 Meet the 3 characters involved in women’s hormonal transitions:

🩸 Menstruation
🔥 Perimenopause
🌙 Menopause

🩸 Did you know?
On average, a woman will experience about 400–450 periods in her lifetime.

Yet most of us are taught very little about what happens after decades of cycling.

🔥 Perimenopause
“Peri” means around.
Perimenopause is the transitional phase leading up to menopause, when the body gradually shifts from having periods to eventually having none.

Many people in the medical system still describe perimenopause as something that begins in the late 40s or early 50s.

But it’s important to know that it can start as early as the 30s or 40s.

And not everyone experiences it the same way.

If we expect everyone’s body to follow the exact same timeline, we may miss the early signs.

Perimenopause can last 4–10 years, and during this time estrogen fluctuates rather than simply declining.

Some early signs people don’t always connect to hormones include:

😴 Sleep changes
💥 Increased irritability
🧠 Brain fog
💧 Dry eyes or dryness
😅 Mood shifts

AND MUCH MORE SYMPTOMS!

You may still have periods, but things start to feel different.

🌙 Menopause
Menopause is officially defined as 12 consecutive months without a menstrual period.

✨ The more we talk about these transitions, the less women feel confused or alone navigating them.

Your body isn’t betraying you.
It’s transitioning.

Perimenopause

03/03/2026

On behalf of endometriosis month! 🎗

I wish I was joking....
But many people say:

“You sign more than you actually understand.”
“You don’t know exactly what will be done until you wake up.”

Unless you ask very specific questions,
you may not be told everything you could experience afterward.

This isn’t about blaming doctors.
The system isn’t designed for long, trauma-informed consent conversations. Appointments are short. Surgery is protocol-driven.

But surgery is still trauma to the body.

It is: • Tissue disruption
• An inflammatory response
• A nervous system stressor
• Often a hormonal shift

The body doesn’t interpret surgery as “routine.”
It interprets it as stress.

Two things can be true: ✨ Surgery can be necessary.
✨ And it is still a physiological trauma.

If you’re having a laparoscopy, consider asking:

🩺 If you find endometriosis, what could change during surgery?
🩺 Will anything be removed without prior discussion?
🩺 What are the risks to my ovaries or fertility?
🩺 How could this impact my cycle long-term?
🩺 What happens if I wait?

Surgeons may not be able to answer every nervous system question — and that’s okay. But it’s important to research and seek support.

Informed consent should feel regulating, not rushed.

Let’s build a system that is more trauma-informed.

🩸 You deserve context before you sign.

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