09/09/2026
“What other people think of you is none of your business” - advice from my mom and a challenging reminder for me as a resident people pleaser 🙄
Between us, I had no idea what this meant growing up! Like, what do you mean? Of course it’s my business! If I know what they think then I can work to change their mind or convince them I’m not what they think!
🙅🏻♀️ it took me a few decades to understand this advice, and it’s echoed in my mind all year long. What other people think of me, truly is none of my business. When we live our lives aligned with our values, making decisions that reflect those values, other people may not agree with us. They may even not like us for those decisions. And that is okay!
Don’t get me wrong, it’s massively uncomfortable (from time to time). And it takes a lot of effort to continue to sit in that discomfort. But wow, it’s been worth it.
And of course, we have to take a moment to talk about how griefy this is. Our parents give us advice and guidance that sometimes doesn’t resonate for decades. I wish for so many reasons that she was alive, but especially so I could hear a “told ya” when I shared my epiphany. Miss you mom 🫶🏽