Perceptions counselling

09/30/2026

Narcissism is a Character Disorder. It does not heal , like anxiety or depression. that can be healed with love, therapy , time...You can not fix or heal Narcissism. No matter how much love, counselling , begging, hoping you do. Narcissism is not something sitting on top of someones personality..it IS their personality, rooted deep in the fabric of who they are. disorder of character. You can not teach empathy to a grown adult, where there never was any. They either have it or they don't. Narcissists don't. Empathy is a capacity, not a behaviour.

YOu can spend decades trying to explain , teach them what they are doing to hurt people, until you are emotionally , physically exhausted and drained until there is nothing left of your patience. It will not matter because you are not dealing with someone who is confused. You are dealing with someone who is fully aware of what they are doing, they don't care. They know where the boundaries are, they just don't belive they apply to them.

If you are still in a relationship with a Narcissist, you are creating an imaginary version of who you wish/want them to be, while simultaneously aware that they are not, and that is a painful place to be.

You are applying a healthy relationship solution, to a disordered dynamic. Waiting for a version of them that would respond to love. That version does not exist. Anything you see that might resemble it...is an act to control the relationship.

They re write history. They play roles and wear masks to suit the people and places they are in..to make life suit their own agenda.
Truth is not a fixed thing to them. Truth is whatever makes them control the narrative and win.

You can not heal someone who does not see a problem with their behaviour.
NPD is not a phase..it is who they are.

If you need someone who GETS IT !! pm me.

09/23/2026

If you get this..and you want to talk..message me.

09/16/2026

Remember that day ...when you were trying to tell someone about how bad it hurts....and they said "Hey..it can't be that bad...he/she seems nice to me"..?? Remember that day? Get in touch if you would like to talk about it.

05/08/2026

Grief is something you DO NOT understand..Until you live it. If you are in pain..find someone who has walked the road you are on. Anything less , will make it hurt more. 🤍

03/30/2026

Thought to ponder for today..... Our language. The language we use to describe the way people treat us. Using phrases like...Oh my mother can't help the way she gets angry..or my husband is just unable to control his anger because he grew u p that way...or this person just doesn't know how to be any different..etc.. That is YOU , choosing to believe that they are just dumb , instead of cruel. That they are just magically unable to treat you right, or see their behaviour. They DO know, but it is easier for you to pretend that they are unable or don't know how etc..than to accept the fact that they just mean and cruel, and they just don't care. I know it hurts..but give it some thought.

11/28/2025

People who need therapy don't come to us...their victims do. Think about that.

11/09/2025

Here for you ...At the office..or online..all through the cold weather season...Welcome.

07/23/2025

Choosing the wrong partner..that seemed like the right partner..but then was the unavailable, hurtful, toxic partner is not a coincidence. Childhood Trauma can shape how we choose and love, and who we are drawn to. If you grew up feeling unloved or unseen, your nervous system..your reality , what you see as normal, can shape the abuse you endure and create the feeling that it is your own fault you are suffering. You can tolerate way too much , to avoid abandonment. If this sounds like you ..message me for a session to talk. Deb

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02/19/2025