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"Making Therapy the New Norm"

10/16/2026

Okay but nobody talks about how hard it is to keep a straight face in these moments 😅

Someone tells me “my childhood was pretty normal” and two sentences later drops something like it’s a weather update & I’m nodding like “mm hmm” while my brain is screaming WAIT. GO BACK.

I’m not judging, honestly I get it. When you grow up with something, it’s just your life. You didn’t have another family to compare it to. You figured out how to get through it and that was that.

What I’m really noticing is how quickly you said it. The little laugh. The way you moved on before I could even blink. That’s usually my cue that there’s more there.

But I’m not going to pounce. If I make it a big thing, you’ll probably shut it down. So I’ll just say something like “hold on, can we sit with that for a sec?” and see what happens.

And sometimes that’s the moment. You hear yourself say it out loud and it lands differently.

It’s okay if it took you this long to notice.

Comment “normal” if this is you 🙋‍♀️

10/15/2026

Comfort, culture, self expression and professionalism can all sit together. We just rarely talk about it out loud.

So let’s talk about it, together.

Private practice gets a lot less lonely when we stop figuring it all out alone.

Comment COMMUNITY if you want to be part of a space where therapists support each other, refer to each other and figure this stuff out together.

10/15/2026

“Difficult to love” is rarely a fact. It’s usually a conclusion a child had to draw to make sense of an environment that couldn’t meet them.

If love felt conditional, inconsistent, or had to be earned, the nervous system adapted. It learned to scan, to shrink, to overperform, to apologize for having needs. Over time, that adaptation hardens into an identity: ‘something about me is too much, or not enough.’

Here’s what the research on attachment tells us. Beliefs formed this early aren’t stored as thoughts you can simply argue with. They live in the body, in how you brace when someone gets close, in how you pull away before they can.

That’s why insight alone doesn’t always shift it. You can know you’re worthy of love and still feel braced for rejection.

The work is helping your body experience something different: safety in being seen, needs that don’t push people away, love that doesn’t have to be earned.

You were never difficult to love. You were a child who adapted to difficult conditions.

Save this for the days that belief gets loud.

With Love,
Rubina

10/14/2026

Let’s do the math together, gently.

$150K at $60 a session is 2,500 sessions a year. Take 4 weeks off and that’s about 52 clients every single week. Before rent, insurance, software or taxes.

That’s not a business, it’s a burnout plan.

Here’s what’s happening underneath. The guilt isn’t about money. For a lot of us, charging feels like taking something from someone who’s hurting. Your nervous system reads “naming my fee” as a threat to connection, so it negotiates you down before the client ever has to.

But underpricing doesn’t protect your clients. It drains a ad the therapist that needs to show up rested.

At $150 a session, the same goal is about 21 clients a week. Same heart. Same skill. A caseload you can actually hold.

One thing to try this week: say your full fee out loud, alone, five times. Notice where your body tightens. That tightness is what’s been setting your rates.

Your fee is part of your care plan, for them and for you.

Comment CONSULT and I’ll send you my free consult framework.

10/13/2026

Save this video for future and comment ‘tears’ if you found this helpful 💗

10/12/2026

If you’ve ever felt like you were building your practice in the dark, I see you. 💀

When I opened my practice in 2021, I had years of clinical experience behind me and almost no idea how to run a business. No mentor, no roadmap. Just a lot of late nights, a lot of Googling, and a quiet fear that everyone else had been handed a manual I somehow missed.

The part that scared me most was consult calls.

I’d either slip into therapy mode on a free 15 minute call, or freeze the moment someone asked “so how much is it?” I’d hang up feeling like I’d let them down and undersold myself at the same time.

What finally helped was giving those calls a gentle structure:

1. Why now? What’s bringing them to therapy right now
2. Hoping for: what they want to feel different
3. Fit: is this within your scope and competence
4. How you work: two or three warm sentences
5. Logistics: fee, availability, next step

That’s it. No pressure & no convincing. Just a kind, clear conversation where you both get to decide if it feels right.

I turned it into a free Consult Framework with the exact words I use, because nobody should have to figure this out alone at 11 p.m.

Comment CONSULT and I’ll send it your way. If you’re not following yet, the automation may ask you to follow first.

And if you’re reading this thinking “I need more than a framework, I need someone in my corner,” I have a few mentorship spots open for November and December. Send me a DM with the word MENTOR and we’ll talk about where you are and what you need.

You were never supposed to build this alone.

10/11/2026

I opened my own private practice in 2021 after years of working in a community mental health agency. The shift was harder than I expected. The clinical work wasn’t the problem. Nobody teaches you the business side. If you’re a therapist in Ontario thinking about going solo private practice, what feels most overwhelming right now: finding clients, admin and billing, leaving your current setup, creating a website, starting your social media, or something else?

10/10/2026

There’s something about watching a lifelong people pleaser finally realize they’re allowed to disappoint people. 😂👏

Especially when you’ve spent multiple sessions talking about boundaries, rehearsing difficult conversations, exploring the guilt, and unpacking why saying NO feels so uncomfortable.

And then one day, something clicks.

They’re no longer asking, “But what if they get upset with me?”

They’re asking, “But what about me?”

AND THAT’S THE MOMENT. 👏

Here’s what I always remind my clients:

Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you’ve stopped caring about people. It means you’ve started including yourself in the list of people you care about.

And yes, the guilt might still show up.

You might overthink the conversation afterward. You might feel the urge to explain yourself 15 different ways. You might even question whether you were too harsh.

But feeling guilty doesn’t automatically mean you’ve done something wrong.

Sometimes it just means you’re doing something unfamiliar & the goal isn’t to become someone who never feels guilty.

It’s to become someone who can experience that discomfort without immediately abandoning their own needs.

To my fellow therapists, you know that moment when your client finally realizes they have permission to choose themselves? 🥹

THAT’S THE ENERGY.

What’s one boundary you wish you had learned to set sooner?

10/09/2026

Nobody warned me that one of the hardest things about being a new therapist would be knowing what to do with myself during silence. 😂

Do I nod? Maintain eye contact? Look away? Am I being therapeutic or just making this awkward for both of us? 😭

I remember learning about silence as a therapeutic intervention and understanding WHY it mattered, but actually sitting in it with a client? That was a whole different experience.

And that’s the thing about becoming a therapist. You can learn all the theories, interventions, and techniques, but so much of your confidence comes from actually being in the room.

10 years later, I can confidently say that silence has become one of my favourite tools. I’ve also learned that you don’t need to have the perfect response, fill every pause, or perform being a therapist.

Sometimes the most therapeutic thing you can do is simply be present.

Now I get to share all the things I’ve learned along the way with therapists who are finding their own footing.

Because there are so many things I wish someone had told me when I was starting out.

To my fellow therapists, please tell me I’m not the only one who went through this awkward silence era. 😂

10/08/2026

ADHD is one of the most misdiagnosed conditions, especially in women and high achievers. It often gets mistaken for:

🧠 Anxiety: both cause restlessness and poor focus, but ADHD attention drifts even when you’re calm

ADHD and anxiety share so many symptoms: racing thoughts, restlessness, trouble focusing, overwhelm, poor sleep. So a lot of people spend months (or years) doing anxiety work that never quite lands, because the root is attention and executive function, not fear.

I can’t diagnose ADHD, but I can screen for it, notice the patterns, and refer you for a proper assessment. Sometimes that one shift changes everything.

If you’ve done the anxiety work and still feel stuck, it’s worth asking the question.

Disclaimer: This post is for educational purposes only and is not a diagnosis or a substitute for professional assessment. If you’re questioning whether you have ADHD, speak with a qualified healthcare provider.

Tag someone who’s been doing anxiety work for years.

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