New Spring Counselling

05/24/2026

It’s not the reaction you’d expect when someone gets angry because they feel rejected but rejection can lead to a nervous system response. And nervous system responses are fight, flight, freeze or fawn. And if you’re a fighter, you may cover up your feelings of hurt with the more protective stance of anger. The funny thing is, anger doesn’t protect us at all, it purges people away and leaves us feeling more alone in our relationship.

Rejection can take many forms including: choosing to be on their phone rather than engage with you, not being responsive when you’re talking or prioritizing work or friends regularly over time with you.

Sometimes it’s not rejection at all but because of your own childhood, it FEELS like rejection.

In either case, there’s something to learn in therapy.

05/22/2026

05/21/2026

Do you get a strong emotional reaction to the possibility of rejection, criticism, or feeling like you’ve disappointed someone?

For some people, a small comment can feel overwhelming.😧
A delayed text can spark panic🙀
Constructive feedback can feel deeply personal🥹

You might:
• replay conversations for hours😵‍💫
• assume people are upset with you🫠
• avoid trying new things to prevent failure😑
• feel sudden shame, anger, or sadness after criticism🫩
• become a people-pleaser to avoid rejection🤡

What helps:
🫶 noticing the story your brain is telling you
🫶 pausing before reacting
🫶 practicing self-compassion instead of self-criticism
🫶 communicating openly instead of mind-reading
🫶 working with a therapist to build emotional regulation skills

05/20/2026

Healing 🙏

05/19/2026

Problems arise, and stay in a partnership, when we continue to understand our experiences in a constricted perspective that limits awareness and forces our responses to become routine.

What does that mean? It means through couples therapy we learn to respond to our partners in a different way. We slow down the snappy responses,🤔we understand the fear underneath the anger 🥲😡and speak from that, we resolve to not disappear into our own minds and not share feelings. Awareness of emotion is central to the healthy functioning of a partnership. 😳Why is this? Because emotional responses are really about our own needs and our struggles to get those needs met.👌
Through therapy we learn to understand ourselves more and therefore can change what we do next when we’re triggered🙏

05/18/2026

Anxious attachers don’t just look for love — they scan for disappointment.

🧐They notice the delayed text.
😳The slight change in tone.
😬The pause before a reply.
😡The unread message.

Not because they’re “too much,” but because their nervous system learned that connection can feel uncertain.

So they become hypervigilant:

* overanalyzing small shifts
* preparing for rejection before it happens
* needing reassurance, then feeling guilty for needing it
* confusing inconsistency with danger

What looks like “clingy” behavior is often self-protection.

Healing isn’t becoming less caring.
It’s learning that love doesn’t have to be constantly monitored to be real.

Relationships SelfGrowth

05/17/2026

Anxiety doesn’t just show up in tests, presentations, or social situations.
It can show up on a mountain bike trail too.

You might:
• hesitate before a feature you’ve ridden before
• overthink every turn
• grip the handlebars tighter
• lose flow because your brain is scanning for danger instead of staying present

Anxiety changes how the body and mind work together. When your nervous system thinks you’re unsafe, performance often drops. Not because you don’t know how to ride, but because your brain is trying to protect you.

Overcoming anxiety isn’t “pushing through”; it’s learning how to regulate your body enough to reconnect with confidence, focus, and trust in yourself.

Mental health affects performance everywhere — sports included. 🧠🚵‍♂️

performanceanxiety mentalhealthawareness

05/15/2026

Fridays can make us realize exactly how tired we are 😬
Not just physically — emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

Sometimes “I’m tired” really means:

* I’ve been carrying too much for too long.
* I’m overwhelmed.
* I need rest that sleep alone can’t fix.
* I don’t know how to ask for support.

If this resonates with you, consider this your reminder:
You are allowed to pause.
You are allowed to set boundaries.
You are allowed to need care too.

Healing doesn’t always look productive. Sometimes it looks like slowing down, feeling your feelings, and giving yourself compassion instead of criticism. 🤍

HealingJourney

05/15/2026

When we experience safe, caring physical closeness, the body may release oxytocin, sometimes called the “bonding hormone.”

Oxytocin is linked to:
• feelings of connection and trust
• lower stress responses
• a slower heart rate
• increased feelings of safety and calm

For many couples🧑‍❤️‍💋‍🧑, small moments of physical comfort; leaning into each other on the couch, holding hands, a long hug, resting together quietly, can help shift the body out of stress mode and into connection🙌🤗