08/14/2026
This one is personal.
When I became a biological mom, I was already a stepmom. And I think because of that, people forgot something important:
I had never been a mom to a newborn before.
And I struggled.
My daughter had colic and I didn’t know how to comfort her. A simple car ride with constant crying could leave me in tears.
I wasn’t sleeping. Things weren’t going great between my husband and me. I had little support close by, craved companionship and felt like I had completely lost myself.
I remember pulling the car over one day and just screaming.
Not at my baby. I was just so overwhelmed, tired and lost that I didn’t know where else to put it.
I loved my daughter beyond words.
And I was struggling beyond words.
Both were true.
Little by little, I found myself again.
Years later, knowing what I know now about nutrition, minerals, hormones and stress physiology, I look back at that woman differently.
We ask SO much of a woman’s body when she creates life.
Pregnancy. Birth. Healing. Breastfeeding. Broken sleep. Hormonal shifts. Nutritional demands.
Then add the mental load, relationship changes, isolation and complete identity shift of becoming a mother.
And when she says she doesn’t feel like herself?
“That’s motherhood.”
The Lindsay Clancy case is devastating. I’m not sharing this to diagnose her or suggest nutrition explains what happened. Maternal mental illness can be severe and requires appropriate care.
But it should make us question how often women have to become really unwell before we stop normalizing their suffering.
Mental health matters.
And so does the physical health of the woman carrying that brain.
Her nutrient status. Thyroid. Hormones. Blood sugar. Nervous system. Sleep. Recovery.
These aren’t competing conversations. We should be having all of them.
Maybe instead of telling a struggling mother, “That’s just motherhood,” we should be asking:
What do you need?
I found my way back to myself.
I just wish we did a better job supporting mothers while they’re trying to find their way back, too. 🤍