06/08/2026
“Where there is anger there is always pain underneath.”
~Eckhart Tolle
Before you judge someone about their anger, ask them about their pain .
In psychology, repression is defined as: “the exclusion of distressing memories, thoughts, or feelings from the conscious mind. Often involving sexual or aggressive urges or painful childhood memories, these unwanted mental contents are pushed into the unconscious mind.”
When we are suffering emotionally, it is common to avoid the discomfort or try to escape it, and unknowingly push it down further into the psyche, leading to more pain and discomfort.
Once pushed into the unconscious, they affect our body and mind and become acted out through our habitual behaviors and blind reactions.
They can manifest as anger, irritation, rage, anxiety, fear, grief, and so many other emotions-all of which are calls from our body and mind to listen to what is being felt within us.
This process of repression and pain leading to anger and emotional suttering will only continue until we learn to be with ourselves and teel our emotions.
The way to heal this emotional pain is to sit with it, accept it, and feel it. It must be given the space to be acknowledged ano experienced.
Sit down. Be still. Observe what is present within you. Don’t try to analyze it, judge it, or think about it. Just observe it and feel it. Be willing to feel whatever arises just as it
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