Couples In Therapy

08/25/2026

**Tired of being the one who has to think about everything?**

Not just *doing* everything. Thinking about everything.

What's for dinner. Who needs to be where. The appointment that needs booking. The groceries. The laundry. The kids. The dog. The weekend plans. And somewhere in there, whether the two of you are actually okay.

This is the **mental load**, and it can create a surprisingly painful cycle between couples.

One partner is thinking:

**“If you cared, I wouldn't have to ask.”**

While the other is thinking:

**“If you needed me, you would ask.”**

Both can end up feeling hurt, resentful and completely misunderstood.

I wrote this article about what happens when one person becomes responsible for so much of the noticing, planning and thinking in a relationship—including why “just tell me what you need” often doesn't feel helpful.

More importantly, I talk about how couples get caught in this pattern, what each partner may unknowingly be doing to keep it going, and how to start talking about it differently.

Read the full article here:
https://couplesintherapy.ca/mental-load-in-relationships/

08/19/2026

With so many people across BC being affected by wildfire right now, I wanted to find some way to offer something that might actually help.

I've written a four-part series about the part of wildfire we don't always talk about—the emotional impact.

It's for people who are evacuated, on alert, waiting and worrying, or grieving the loss of a home. It's for friends and family who desperately want to help but don't always know what to say or do. It's about what this kind of fear and stress can do to our relationships. And it's for people who went through a wildfire months or even years ago and are still carrying what happened.

The series is called Living Through Wildfire.

Please read it, and please share it if you think it might help someone.

1. If You're Living Through a Wildfire Right Now
https://couplesintherapy.ca/living-through-wildfire-stress/
2. If Someone You Love Is Affected by a Wildfire: How to Help
https://couplesintherapy.ca/how-to-help-someone-affected.../
3. Wildfire Stress In Relationships
https://couplesintherapy.ca/wildfire-stress-and.../
4. When the Fire Is Over but You're Not Okay Yet
https://couplesintherapy.ca/long-term-effects-of-wildfire/

04/03/2026

Different s*x drives don’t mean something is wrong with your relationship.

They’re one of the most common struggles couples face—but almost no one talks about it openly.

One of you wants more.
One of you wants less.

And somewhere along the way, it starts to feel personal… like rejection, pressure, or something is “off” between you.

But here’s the truth:
You’re not broken.
You’re likely just stuck in a pattern you don’t fully understand yet.

In this blog, I walk through what’s really going on underneath different s*x drives—and how couples can start finding their way back to each other.

Read it here:
https://couplesintherapy.ca/different-s*x-drives-in-your-relationship

04/01/2026

If your s*x life has changed, you’ve probably asked yourself some version of this:

“Is this normal?”
“Why don’t I want it anymore?”
“Why does my partner keep rejecting me?”
“Are we going to be okay?”

These are hard questions—and most couples don’t have a clear way to talk about them.

What I see over and over again is that it’s not just about desire… it’s about the pattern couples get stuck in.

And once that pattern takes hold, it affects both connection and intimacy.

I put together a blog that walks through what’s really going on (in a way that actually makes sense).

👉 You can read it here: https://couplesintherapy.ca/why-your-s*x-life-has-changed/

12/02/2025

Why do you react the way you do in your relationship?

Most people think their reactions—snapping, shutting down, getting defensive—come out of nowhere. But reactions always have a story behind them. They come from old emotional patterns, raw spots, and the moments in your relationship that didn’t quite heal.

When you understand what’s underneath your reactions, you can finally shift the cycle instead of getting swept up in it.

In my newest blog, I’m breaking down:
• why reactions happen so quickly
• how your nervous system shapes your responses
• what raw spots are and why they matter
• how to share the emotion underneath the reaction
• how couples can repair and reconnect after missteps

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why did I react like that?” — this will make it clearer, gentler, and easier to change.

Read the full blog here:
https://couplesintherapy.ca/why-you-react-the-way-you-do/

11/27/2025

11/20/2025

When trust has been broken, it can feel impossible to see a way forward. But rebuilding after an affair doesn’t happen through one big apology — it happens through hundreds of small moments of honesty, care, and consistency.

In my latest post, I walk through 5 compassionate steps that help couples move from chaos to calm — rebuilding safety, emotional connection, and genuine trust along the way.

If you’re in that fragile place of wanting to heal but not knowing how to start, this one’s for you.

Read the full guide here → https://couplesintherapy.ca/rebuild-trust-after-an-affair

11/13/2025

Ever looked at your partner and thought, “When did everything start feeling like work?”

Parenthood changes everything — the pace of your days, your energy, your priorities, and sometimes your connection with each other. None of that means you’ve failed; it just means life got full.

In my latest blog, I share 5 honest truths about why being parents changes your relationship — and what actually helps couples find their way back to each other again.

If things have felt a little off between you lately, this one’s for you.

👉 Read it here: https://couplesintherapy.ca/being-parents-changes-your-relationship/

11/06/2025

Closeness doesn’t come from one big moment.
It’s built in the small ones — the glance across the room, the quiet check-in, the shared laugh after a long day.

When life pulls you apart, these moments are how you find your way back.
💚 Read more in this week’s post:
https://couplesintherapy.ca/feel-close-again-when-youve-drifted-apart/