Elena Grinevitch, M.A., Psychologist (O.P.Q.)

06/24/2021

06/23/2021

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Repost from .donahue.healing Trauma bonding occurs when we go through periods of intense love and excitement with a person followed by any neglect, mistreatment or abuse. There's a cycle of being devalued and then rewarded over and over again. This becomes an especially powerful dynamic between the two individuals because of the strong chemical and hormonal bond that's created. ⁣
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If you grew up in a home with some kind of neglect, abuse or other forms of trauma, any unhealed trauma could make us primed to get into similar situations and relationships as adults. ⁣
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One reason is that our nervous system is already wired to respond to the up-down cycle in toxic and abusive relationships.⁣
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When we get into these relationships, we can find ourselves involved in trauma bonding with another person who is causing us so much pain. And they too have their own pain that they are replicating in the relationship.⁣
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We may logically know that this person isn't good for us, we might even plan to leave, but there's a powerful force that seems to keep pulling us back to them. ⁣
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There's also a familiarity in the pain, that, for some part of us, might, in fact, feel comfortable. Think of it as the devil you know - there's predictability in the pain and chaos. The chemicals and hormones associated with the relationship patterns and abuse can momentarily feel good. ⁣
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In a toxic relationship, there's often a part of us trying to heal from the past. Like a young part of us trying to finally get the other person (originally our caregiver) to see us for you we are, to be able to care for us and protect us in the way we needed to be. ⁣

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A beautifully crafted docuseries that sheds an important light on an ever worsening crisis while giving hope to those that are suffering.

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Another great interview with Dr. Ramani.

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Dr. Brene Brown influences a lot of my work with clients. This is just a taste of it. Enjoy!

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This is a great article on understanding anxiety and it’s associated symptoms.

New research helps to explain somatic symptoms.

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Our attachment style guides us much more than we think. Here’s a simple way of understanding it.

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