09/29/2026
My therapist says they are “attachment-informed”… what does this mean?
Whether we like it or not, our attachment patterns tend to show up in most, if not all, of our relationships — with friends, bosses, strangers, significant others, children, and even your therapist.
There are four commonly discussed attachment styles:
Secure Attachment: Comfortable with closeness and independence. You can trust others, communicate your needs, and generally feel safe in relationships.
Anxious Attachment: Often fears rejection, abandonment, or disconnection. You may need extra reassurance, overthink changes in someone’s behaviour, or worry about where you stand.
Avoidant Attachment: Often values independence and may feel uncomfortable relying on others or being emotionally vulnerable. You may pull away, shut down, or create distance when relationships feel too close or emotional.
Disorganized Attachment: Often experiences a push-pull between wanting closeness and feeling unsafe with it. You may deeply want connection but also withdraw, mistrust, or feel overwhelmed when someone gets too close.
Attachment-informed therapy helps us understand these patterns with curiosity rather than judgment — and recognize that our attachment style is not fixed. With awareness, safe relationships, and therapeutic work, these patterns can shift.
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