Memento Psychotherapy & Counselling

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Memento Psychotherapy & Counselling

Cayla Townes, MA, RP, CCC
Help for difficult childhoods, trauma, and relationships

08/03/2026

Why You Can't Just Ask for Help - a thoughtful look at why asking feels like a weakness when it's really a protection, and how to move toward connection without forcing it. Read my latest article to explore these ideas and learn practical ways to make asking easier and feel less threatening.

Difficulty asking for help is rarely arrogance and almost never a failure to realize you're allowed. It's usually a protection.

07/20/2026

Overthinking isn’t a flaw — it’s a protection your mind learned to keep you safe. In my latest article, I look at why you can’t just “stop” and what kinder, more effective approaches look like.

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Overthinking is rarely a thinking problem, and almost never a sign that you're broken or weak-willed. It's usually a protection — a strategy your mind learned because, at some point, thinking hard was how you stayed safe, stayed ahead, or kept something from going wrong.

07/13/2026

Why is it so hard to relax? My latest post “Why You Can't Just Relax” is an honest look at how difficulty relaxing is often a protective response your nervous system learned, not a personal failure. Read to get some practical insights to reframe rest and the struggle some of us have to get it.

Difficulty relaxing is rarely a discipline problem or a sign you don't know how to rest. It's usually a protection — a state your system learned to hold because, at some point, vigilance was the intelligent option and letting go was when things went wrong.

07/06/2026

“Why You Can't Just Trust People” — a thoughtful look at guardedness, why it formed, and how it still protects you even when the risk seems gone. Read this post for practical insight to help you notice patterns and move forward with more safety and freedom.

Your guardedness kept you from being hurt, blindsided, or taken advantage of in a situation where those things were real risks. It's still running because it worked, and because some part of you is not yet convinced the risk has passed.

06/29/2026

Why You Can't Just Stop People-Pleasing — a compassionate look at why “just stop” advice doesn’t work and what actually sits underneath that struggle. If you're ready to start understanding and stop the shaming, start here.

Part of the series Why You Can't Just ___ — where I name a struggle you've probably been told to simply quit, and look underneath it at the reasons it was never that simple.You've heard the advice. Set boundaries. Learn to say no. Stop caring so much what other people think. It's reasonable advice...

06/18/2026

Ever left a therapy session feeling unsettled because something your therapist said didn’t land? You’re not alone. Check out my new post for practical steps to take to hold discomfort, speak up, and make therapy work for you.

You're sitting with something after a session. Maybe your therapist said something that didn't land right — a reframe that felt off, a suggestion that seemed to miss the point, an interpretation you didn't recognize yourself in. Maybe they recommended something you're not sure you want to do. And ...

05/25/2026

Sometimes we can't or don't want to do therapy, but we still want to engage in meaningful self-exploration. This post explores some exercises we can do on our own that can help us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, our patterns, and our behaviours.

There's a particular kind of frustration that comes from knowing you want to understand yourself better — maybe you keep landing in the same relationship patterns, or a voice inside you is persistently harsh, or something feels stuck — and not being able to get into therapy. You know something i...

05/11/2026

Connecting with emotions is not a given. In my latest post, I explore how projective and creative techniques can access implicit emotions when words aren’t enough. Check it out for practical approaches and clinical insights to help move therapy forward.

There is a particular kind of client who sits across from you and earnestly answers every question, engages in psychoeducation, completes homework between sessions — and yet remains stuck. Something isn't moving.

04/21/2026

What stories are you living by? Our core beliefs quietly shape who we choose, how we argue, and how much space we take up in life. In my latest post, I explore how those beliefs form — and how therapy can help rewrite them for healthier relationships and greater self-compassion.

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Most of us move through our days without examining the assumptions underneath our behaviour. We just live — choosing partners, interpreting conflict, deciding how much space we deserve to take up — as if these choices emerge from nowhere. But they don't. They emerge from a set of deeply held bel...

04/07/2026

Why do we repeat the same patterns even when we know better? In my latest post, I break down the psychology behind familiar cycles and why awareness alone often isn't enough.

You understand your attachment style. You've read the books, maybe done years of therapy. You can explain, with impressive precision, exactly why you do the things you do. And then you do it again.

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Milton, ON

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+13656750375

Website

http://www.MementoTherapy.com/

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