09/29/2026
When a friend tells you her marriage is hard, what happens inside you?
Do you feel afraid? Defensive? Suspicious? Do you immediately want to correct, reassure, explain, or fix?
Sometimes, before we can listen well to someone else, we need to pay attention to what is happening in our own heart.
In this short exercise, Nancy invites women to consider the difference between judgment and discernment—and how doing our own heart work before the Lord can help us become safer people for others who are trying to make sense of painful experiences.
“Her struggle” can very quickly become about our fears, our assumptions, and our need for resolution.
What might change if we listened first?
Read: https://www.biblicallivingcenter.com/blog/her-struggle-is-not-about-me