PeacefulU: Heal Your Leaky Soul & Energy

08/23/2026

I didn’t even know the word narcissist until I was sitting in marriage counselling.

The therapist looked at my husband and then at me and said something I will never forget:

“He is a narcissist. You’re going to need a lot of support.”

As a High-Sensing Soul, I spent most of my life forgiving, helping and fixing others.

I could feel everyone’s pain and see the wounded child underneath their behaviour.

But what I didn’t realize was that understanding someone’s wounds doesn’t mean you have to keep volunteering to be wounded by them.

If you are a parentified peacekeeper, a firstborn fixer or a people-pleaser who always puts others first, watch the patterns rather than trying to diagnose people:

• Do they ask “How are you?” or do they only ask “Where are you?”

• What happens when you say no, have a need or face a crisis?

• Do their words match their actions over time?

• Who do you become when you are around them?

• Are you peaceful or are you constantly walking on eggshells waiting for the shoe to drop?

• Do they live in clutter?


You do not need to become hard, stop loving or stop forgiving.

You simply need boundaries strong enough to protect your softness.

This week for Sober SoulCare Sunday, I released a full deep-dive video on YouTube along with a free downloadable guide to help you recognize these patterns, stop self-abandonment and protect your peace.

Links are below in the comments below to find the link to watch the full video, this weeks blog and grab your free High-Sensing Soul’s Narcissist Recovery & Dirty-Dog Detector Guide!

In loving kindness,
Momma Lovey Peace 💜

08/15/2026

SOBER SUNFLOWERS SOCIAL SoulCare Saturday🥰

WHERE ARE The BIG BROTHER People Watchers 🙏

Do you carry the energy vibration of Love?

Who are you rooting for? 🥰

I share on Substack who the narcissists are each season.

Okay, fellow observers of the human condition… I have a very important flock question. 😂

Who out there has watched Big Brother from the beginning?

Because we are now at Big Brother 28 and I suddenly realized…

I’ve been watching people observe people for almost as long as I’ve been raising my own human. 😂

Noah is turning 28. ❤️

And I still remember putting that little boy above me while I was on the floor doing push-ups with him as my “weight.”

Now somehow we’re both old enough to have watched 28 seasons of Big Brother. 🤣

But here's what really makes me curious:
Are YOU one of our fellow human-condition observers? 👀

The ones who notice EVERYTHING.

The high-sensing health detectives.

The lifelong learners with a High IQ.

The people who can sit quietly and watch the patterns, the relationships, the alliances, the nervous systems, the behaviours…

…and think:

“Fascinating.” 😂

Maybe that's part of our superpower.

Our High IQ is wonderful.

But emotional intelligence — understanding ourselves, reading social cues, regulating our responses, building meaningful vulnerable relationships and continuing to learn — may be even more important for navigating life well.

And lifelong learning keeps giving the brain something to work with: curiosity, challenge, new connections and cognitive stimulation.

So perhaps our little flock isn't just getting older.

We're getting wiser. 🌻

We were once flower children.

Now we're SOBER SUNFLOWERS — awake, curious and still watching the world grow. 🌻🪿⭐️

We gather in person and online in our sacred community of Starseeds.

Connect on LinkedIn at destresswithdeesos to learn more 🙏

So tell me rare bird…
Have you watched Big Brother from the beginning too?

Sending loving kindness from Canada's Capitol 🙏

Dee 💜
Mom to Noah 🥰

You are Energy. How is your Energy?

I help you understand why your life force is leaky energy.

08/14/2026

The Juice Box Isn’t a School Supply 💧
Functional Food Friday for Firstborns from your Frugal Biohacker & Primal Personal Trainer

Back-to-school season is here. Backpacks are coming out, lunchboxes are being washed, and grocery carts across the country are filling up with cases of juice boxes. 🎒

I understand why—they’re convenient and portioned. But my son never took juice boxes to school, and neither did I.

Water was our normal drink. And it still is.

Here is why we say NO to juice boxes and YES to real cellular hydration:

❌ The Sugar Rollercoaster: Single-serve juice boxes strip away natural plant fiber, leaving concentrated free sugars that cause rapid blood glucose spikes—leading to classroom brain fog, crashes and irritability.

❌ Microplastics & Packaging Waste: Composite cartons and plastic straws don't just harm Mother Earth—they leach microplastics and endocrine disruptors directly into acidic liquid.

❌ Histamine & Mast Cell Triggers: For those navigating environmental sensitivity, MCAS, CIRS, MTHFR variants or POTS, liquid sugar spikes cause splanchnic pooling, mast cell degranulation and inflammatory flares.

💧 THE SIMPLE SOLUTION:
Pure water in a food-grade stainless steel bottle.
Water is the drink. Food is the food. We don't need to make thirst sweet!

🥤 WHAT ABOUT SMOOTHIES?
People often say, "Smoothies aren't healthy because there's no fiber and you don't chew them."

That is simply untrue! Blending keeps 100% of the skin, seeds and pulp intact. Fiber isn't destroyed by blades—it's mechanically pre-digested.

When I drink my daily Jungle Juice™, I smoosh and swoosh it in my mouth first to mix it with salivary enzymes before swallowing, and I always drink it live within 1 hour! 🕒

By micro-dosing small bites of different plant strains, my son and I get 25 to 30 distinct fruit and vegetable strains every single week to nourish our gut microbiome ecosystem—frugally, for under $100 a month for food!

You don't need a whole apple. You just need a bite of this, a bite of that and a whole lot of intention.

🔎 BECOME A HEALTH DETECTIVE:
Ask yourself today:

1️⃣ How many things do I drink out of a box or plastic?

2️⃣ Am I nourishing my cells or washing down nutrients with inflammatory drinks?

3️⃣ What is my body trying to tell me?

I’m not here to fix you—you have to participate in your own healing.

But if you’re ready to walk the path of root-cause vitality, I’m here to show you the map. 💜

👇 Watch the 1-minute video breakdown in the first comment below! 👇

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's Capital,
Momma Lovey Dee 🇨🇦

Mothering the Unmothered Leaky Energy, Cells and Soul of high sensing Souls who are doing everything right and still sick to address 55+ chronic conditions.

08/13/2026

🌎💜 THROWBACK THURSDAY: What if the environment you're living in is affecting the way your body feels?

What if the “stress” you're feeling isn't simply stress?

What if your body is responding to what you're breathing, what you're absorbing and what you're surrounded by?

In my Earth Day special, I talk about some ideas that challenge the way we traditionally look at chronic illness:

🏠 The Toxic Box
Why today's airtight, energy-efficient buildings may trap VOCs and mould rather than allowing them to escape.

🌱 The Firstborn Flush
My unconventional theory about maternal toxic load and what may happen during pregnancy.

🧬 The Monday Matrix
Why environmental illness can sometimes be misunderstood as burnout, depression or menopause.

💜 DBM-5™ that challenges the systems DSM-5

The five pillars:
💜 DBM-5™ — De-stress. Detox. Debloat. Declutter. Deep Peace. → PeacefulU™

And then we get practical.

🎵 Vagal humming
🌅 Sunrise hydration
🦘 Midday movement
🌿 Simple ways to communicate safety to the nervous system

Because here's where my Earth Day message ultimately lands:

We cannot separate ourselves from nature.

We are nature.

Our bodies have soil.

We have ecosystems.

We have a microbiome.

And perhaps healing the Earth begins with learning to stop treating our own bodies like disposable environments.


🌎💜 Watch the full Earth Day Special here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HnygdbQEE00

What is your body trying to tell you about the environment you're living in?

Your body’s been whispering, talking and now it’s screaming.
I help you understand what it’s trying to say. 💜

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's Capital,
DestresswithDee Sos

08/12/2026

Words Hurt or Heal Wednesday💜
Every word that leaves your mouth passes through your own body's cells first.

At Dee’s Dharma, we don't swear and we don't use mental health terms as everyday adjectives.

“I’m so OCD.”
“That’s crazy.”
“That’s insane.”

When we casually use clinical terms this way, we can trivialize deeply complex conditions — and we also need to pay attention to what repeated language is doing to our own internal environment.

Because words carry emotion.

Anger carries information.
Fear carries information.
Shame carries information.
Love carries information.
Kindness carries information.

And your body is listening.

The Science Behind Harsh Words

When we experience anger, threat or chronic stress, the brain and nervous system can activate the body's stress response. Repeated activation can influence cortisol, inflammatory signalling, sleep, digestion, immune function and the body's ability to return to restoration.

So while your body may not literally understand the words themselves, it absolutely responds to the emotional and physiological state surrounding them.

And that matters.

When you speak fire, your own cells swallow the smoke.

The Spiritual Truth: Your Soul Is Always Listening

In Buddhist wisdom, Right Speech — Sammā Vācā — invites us to become conscious of what we say, why we say it and whether our words create harm or peace.

Your Soul is listening.

Your cells are listening.

Your nervous system is listening.

Your body is constantly receiving information from its internal and external environment.

So what are you feeding your temple?

You cannot shame your body into safety.

You cannot bully yourself into peace.

You cannot fight your way into healing.

Clean the words.
Calm the terrain.
Create safety.
Allow the body to rest.

Because sometimes the first healing conversation you need to have...

is the one you have with yourself.

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada’s Capital 🇨🇦💜
Dee🥰


Doing all the right things and still sick?
Wanting to expire because you can't figure out what else to do?
It's not mental.
Look at your environment.

You deserve to feel at home in your own body. 💜

Your body has been whispering, talking and now screaming.

I help you understand what it's trying to say.

You are home. 💜

Learn more: https://youtube.com/shorts/wS-JXGdl948

08/10/2026

🥰 You deserve the feast, not breadcrumbs.

Sweet soul, I want you to read that again.

You deserve the feast.

Not crumbs of affection.
Not occasional attention.
Not love that appears only when you are useful.
Not protection you have to beg for.

Did you know your Soul never dies?

Heal your Leaky Soul, Energy, Stools Sleep, cells, brain, muscles, heart and 40 + other barriers.

This week’s Sober SoulCare Sunday is deeply personal.

I’m sharing how Mothering the Unmothered™ came to be because I wasn’t mothered in the way my little soul needed.

Before I could truly mother my son, I had to learn how to mother myself.

And when Noah came along, I knew I would raise him differently.

He was allowed to be a child.

He was loved, hugged, protected and respected.

He could say no.

He had a voice.

But he was never made responsible for my emotional wellbeing.

Now he is 28 and one of the wisest souls I know.

Yesterday I asked him if he ever felt paternal towards me.

He said:

“No, Mom. I didn’t feel paternal. I’ve always been protective.”

😭❤️

That distinction touched something so deep in me.

I didn’t raise him to rescue me.

I raised him with enough safety to become himself.

And somehow, in learning to mother him, I learned to mother myself, too.

I’ve shared the vulnerable story in this week’s Substack offering.

👉 Link will be below as well.

And join every Sunday at 7 PM Eastern on YouTube for Sober SoulCare Sunday,

Daily SoulCare, Inner Child Care and our Soul Anchors for a PeacefulU™.

🎥 Watch the deep dive link in pinned comment below.

To every firstborn, caregiver, peacekeeper and strong one who has been carrying the invisible backpack:

You are safe here.

You deserve the feast.

Not breadcrumbs. ❤️

Sending loving kindness from Canada's capital,
DestresswithDee Sos

08/08/2026

🌙 Sacred Sleep Saturday 🌙 Did you know you can't catch up on lost sleep and that sleeping in on the weekend will make you more tired.

And what about needing a fan to sleep, falling asleep the instant your head hits the pillow, waking in the middle of the night, nightmares or those familiar 3–4 a.m. wake-ups?

After 53 years of insomnia, I started looking at sleep differently.

I'm now in my 60th year of life and since September 2024, I haven't needed a fan to sleep — something I never thought possible after decades of struggling with sleep.

https://youtu.be/Vlkhb9BBjac

This video is about becoming a health detective instead of treating sleep as an isolated problem.

🌙 You'll learn:

Why your waking habits may be keeping your nervous system activated
What I mean by “leaky energy” and leaky sleep
Why waking during the night deserves curiosity rather than fear
How sleep hygiene can support your nervous system
Why I believe we need to listen when the body keeps whispering

In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the 3–5 a.m. window is traditionally associated with the lungs, while the liver is associated with 1–3 a.m.

These traditional body-clock ideas can be an interesting way to become curious about patterns, but they aren't a medical diagnosis.

This isn't a promise that everyone can “fix” insomnia in two days. I'm sharing what happened in my body and what I learned from my own experience as someone who tried everything naturally to fix my sleep. It wasn't until I restored calm to my sacred temple that I finally found sleep.

This is done with autophagy lifestyle medicine, healing at the root with functional food, functional movement, functional sleep.

Because sometimes the symptom isn't the enemy.

It's the message.


🌙 Watch the video here :
https://youtu.be/Vlkhb9BBjac

Your body's been whispering, talking and now it's screaming.
I help you understand what it's trying to say.

The DBM-5 Sacred Reset™ is about healing at the root by helping calm chronic stress and inflammation to heal our leaky energy, cells, soul, sleep, stools and together, Mother Earth's soil.

Because...
As Within. So Without.

Every smile.
Every step.
Every sacred meal.
Every sacred sip.
Every sacred word.
Every sacred sleep.
Every sacred connection.
Every peaceful choice.
It all matters for a peaceful you 🥰

Remember:
Sacred Sleep, just like our sacred fuel is medicine.
You are the medicine. 🙏

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's Capital,
Momma Lovey Dee 💜

Early-rising Rare Lovebird,
You are home.
You are safe with your flock of silly geese for peace. 🪿🤍

🌙 And come find your Sacred Soul Peace Anchors every evening at 7 PM Eastern on my YouTube Community.

Recover deep restorative sleep naturally by targeting the root caus...

08/07/2026

Who said functional fitness had to be serious? 🤸‍♀️😂💜 For this Fun Functional Fitness, Food & Medicine Friday for Firstborns, here is a reminder that laughter is truly the best medicine, flexibility comes in all forms and having supportive friends makes every goal feel achievable.

📽️ Watch the 10-second secret linked in the comments.

Healing doesn't have to be serious every minute. 🥰
Sometimes the best medicine is nourishing food, joyful movement and a giggle.

The DBM-5 Sacred Reset™ is about healing at the root by helping calm chronic stress and inflammation to heal our leaky energy, cells, soul, sleep, stools and together, Mother Earth's soil.

Because...
As Within. So Without.

Every smile.
Every step.
Every sacred meal.
Every sacred sip.
Every sacred sleep.
Every sacred word.
Every sacred connection.
Every peaceful choice.

It all counts.

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's Capital,
Dee💜
DestresswithDee Sos

You are not alone rare bird. It's not mental. It is environmental illness and poisoning that is harming your sacred temple.

link is in the comments for a giggle 🥰

08/03/2026

🍃 Sober SoulCare Sunday: Your Worth Is Not In The Push. It's In The Pause.
For most of my life, I thought strength meant pushing harder.

I was a competitive swimmer, gymnast, badminton player, track and field athlete and personal trainer.

I loved movement.

I loved challenge.

I loved becoming better.

But somewhere along the way, I forgot something important...

I am not a machine.

Neither are you.

Machines break down.

But we are living human animals connected to Mother Nature.

We need rest.

We need nourishment.

We need safety.

We need pauses.

Burnout can happen when we treat our sacred temple like a machine instead of honouring it as a living being.

Today, I move differently.

🌿 Vibration plate
🌿 Primal squats
🌿 Push-ups
🌿 Planks
🌿 Walking
🌿 Breathing

Not to punish my body.

To love my body.

Through DBM-5™ Womb & Walls Trauma & Toxin 40-Day Flush, I share my approach to creating more space for biological stillness and healing at Mother Nature's pace.

🌿 Your Soul Peace Anchor for today:

Ask yourself:

"Where can I pause instead of push?"

I shared the deeper story behind my journey from athlete and over-achiever to healing at Mother Nature's pace in today's Substack deep dive.

Read the full reflection here:
https://open.substack.com/pub/destresswithdee/p/sober-soulcare-sunday

Join me each evening at 7 PM ET on the YouTube Community Tab at DeStress With Dee SOS for Sober SoulCare support for your sacred temple.

🌿 Soul Peace Anchors™
Pause for Peace.
Come home to your PeacefulU™.

Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's Capital,
Momma Lovey Peace 🌿🕊️