09/30/2026
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S*x educator Emily Nagoski describes an "emotional floor plan," where our feelings are like rooms in a house:
🌱 Rooms that support desire: Care, Play, Lust
🌱 Rooms where we get stuck: Panic, Grief, Boredom
Stress, loss, conflict, or feeling disconnected can make desire harder to reach. And desire often doesn't appear on its own. Many people move from Care ➡️ Play ➡️ Lust.
Instead of asking "What's wrong with me?" try asking:
✨ Which room am I spending most of my time in?
✨ What helps me feel safe, connected, and playful?
✨ What might help me move toward a different room?
Low desire isn't a failure. It's information.
At Willow Roots Therapy, our Ottawa therapists help couples understand desire, reconnect emotionally, and approach intimacy with curiosity instead of pressure. We offer in-person couples therapy in Ottawa and virtual sessions across Ontario.
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