Jathina Blais MSW, RSW - Counselling

09/03/2026

Wild Root Therapy You might think you’re being ‘easygoing’… but you may actually be fawning.

Fawning is a pattern of creating safety through appeasing, accommodating, or prioritizing another person’s emotional state, sometimes at the expense of your own needs, boundaries, or preferences.

For some people, especially those with histories of relational trauma, this can become a deeply learned way of staying connected: If I can keep you happy, maybe I can keep myself safe.

And an important nuance: not all people-pleasing is a trauma response, and caring about other people’s feelings isn’t unhealthy. The shift is learning that you can care about someone without abandoning yourself in the process.

You can let someone be disappointed.
You can have a different opinion.
You can say no.
You can take up space.
And you can stay connected to yourself while staying connected to others. 🤍

“Fawning” is a commonly used trauma-informed concept, but is not a formal diagnosis or distinct scientifically established stress-response category.

Save this if you’re working on people-pleasing, boundaries, or staying connected to yourself in relationships, and follow Wild Root Therapy for more trauma-informed content. 🤍


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This content is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy, does not constitute mental health treatment, and does not create a therapist-client relationship. This content should not be used as a substitute for individualized professional advice. If you need support, please contact a licensed mental health provider in your area, or schedule a consult with Wild Root Therapy through the link in our bio.

06/11/2026

Repost .with.katherine

Where are my intellectualizers 🙋🏻

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Sitting in the feeling can be tough and many want to avoid it. It’s uncomfortable and we are conditioned to avoid difficult feelings. I use EMDR to help people connect the thinking and feeling parts and move through these feelings to lessen their intensity. Have you ever tried EMDR?

02/09/2026

02/06/2026

Check out this great blog post by Laura Gatien & Associates Counselling Services on how the mental load is harming your s*x life and what needs to change to find more connection and intimacy.

If you’ve ever thought, "I love my partner… so why do I feel completely uninterested in s*x?" It doesn’t automatically mean your relationship is broken. It doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to your partner. More often than not, it means you’re overloaded.

12/10/2025

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" If you’ve ever bounced between “it wasn’t that bad” and “why did this happen to me?” - you’re not alone.

This is what complex trauma does.

It scrambles your reality.
It makes you question your own pain.
It convinces you that you’re dramatic… or ungrateful… or somehow responsible.

None of that is the truth.
That’s trauma talking; not you.

And you shouldn’t have to untangle all of this in isolation.

If this reel hit home, I want you to know there’s a space built exactly for survivors like us - a place where these thoughts don’t need explaining, and you don’t have to minimize what you lived through to be taken seriously."

🎥 From the movie, Sorry Baby

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12/10/2025

Repost A helpful reminder as the holidays ramp up: focus your energy on the things that you can actually control. You can't fix family drama or make everyone get along, but you can protect your boundaries and your peace.

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12/06/2025

Repost@greggmedia Adult children don’t walk away from true love.
Kids are hardwired to want a relationship with their parents.

So if they’re choosing distance, there are some serious red flags that should not be ignored.

In narcissistic family systems, the power dynamic remains…even when the child becomes an adult.

The parent has had years of complete control, where they could abuse their innocent child who had no way out.

And in big families, those dynamics get even more complex.

There’s the golden child(ren), who mirror the parent’s dysfunction to get their needs met, even becoming narcissistic themselves.
The peacekeeper(s), who detach emotionally just to survive, but don’t take a clear stand.
And the scapegoat(s), who get blamed for everything.

When the scapegoat finally chooses to protect themselves from continued harm, so they can put their energy toward healing instead of surviving the dysfunction…

The narcissistic parent(s) and golden child(ren) usually team up and say:

“They’re the toxic one.”
“They’re the narcissist.”
“They’re dividing the family.”

Classic projection. Classic triangulation.

Narcissistic family systems are built on silence and lies, so when someone speaks truth, they become a threat to the entire foundation of the system.

The scapegoat is expected to carry all the pain and endure harm with a smile, even when it’s deeply harming them and their own family.

And if they don’t?
They’re not only rejected by their family of origin, they’re judged by society too.

It’s a disgusting dynamic.
And it needs to be talked about.

The scapegoat isn’t the villain.
They’re the one doing the painful work of breaking harmful cycles…

So the next generation doesn’t have to spend their lives healing from wounds that were never theirs to begin with.

So they can finally lean fully into healing and growth and create a life aligned with their values, not the script they were forced to carry.

They are making this world better, one person committed to healing and growth at a time.

If you’re the scapegoat in your family, you’re not alone.

The work you’re doing is incredibly hard…
But so worth it.

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12/02/2025

Reposted " Did this feel familiar? You’re not alone.

Turning a child’s private life into a joke might get a laugh, but it also teaches them many things such as vulnerability isn’t safe, privacy belongs to other people, their discomfort is entertainment

That has a long-term cost.
And many adults are still carrying it. Original video by .bro"

11/06/2025