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Support for betrayal trauma and childhood wounds — relational trauma that can affect trust, self-worth, closeness, and emotional steadiness long after the hurt happened.

09/24/2026

We’re very happy to welcome Tuba Aktas, MA, RP(Q) to The Mindful Loft!

Tuba is a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) who works with individuals and couples navigating relationship distress, broken trust, emotional disconnection, conflict, and major life transitions. She brings training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and Self-in-Relationship Psychotherapy, alongside a relational, attachment-informed, and trauma-informed approach to care.

Tuba also brings experience working in hospital settings, supporting individuals and families through trauma, emotionally challenging situations, and significant life changes.

She offers therapy in English and Turkish, with both in-person and virtual appointments available.

We’re excited to have her joining the loft!

09/22/2026

The September edition of The Messy Loft is here.

This month: why insight doesn’t always create change, why faster isn’t always better, and why healing relational wounds usually takes more than understanding them.

Also inside: a few things I wish more people knew about therapy, two new faces at the Loft, and our continued search for a quick fix.

Read it here. https://mailchi.mp/6f2922ceb9b6/the-messy-loft-september2026

09/21/2026

Sometimes the thing you want most is to just stop feeling it. I often hear clients say things like “I just want to not feel this way anymore”->The hurt, the anger, the fear, the thoughts that keep circling when you’re already exhausted. Of course you want relief.

The tricky thing is that we can't selectively numb our emotions. When we get really good at shutting down the hurt, we accidentally shut down the other stuff too, like joy, genuine connection, and hope.

That doesn’t mean you have to sit in heavy pain forever or force yourself to process everything at once. Getting through the day matters, and coping strategies are there for a reason.

But true healing is less about running from the hard stuff, and more about slowly realizing you can handle the feelings without them completely taking over. It's about keeping the door open so the good things can eventually get back in, too.

Have you ever noticed that when you numb the pain, everything else feels a little numb, too?

09/15/2026

The Mindful Loft is 3. Three years ago, I opened The Mindful Loft with a simple belief: therapy should be about genuine connection and deeper change, not just coping better. A lot has changed since then, but that belief hasn’t.

If anything, the last three years have made me more certain that we shouldn’t mistake faster for better. Some of the most important therapy happens when we stop rushing toward a solution and sit with the pain that needs our attention. I’ve also learned that what brings someone into therapy is often only the beginning of the story, and pain doesn’t have to be dramatic to have shaped you.

I’m proud that The Mindful Loft has become a place where people don’t have to perform wellness or have all the right words before they walk in. I’m proud of the team we’ve built, and of the care they bring to this work in their own individual ways. I always believed people were strong, but over these three years I’ve witnessed that strength so many times that I understand it differently now.

Three years of The Mindful Loft. I’m very grateful for what it has become, and still thoughtful about what we’re building next.

09/04/2026

We’re very happy to welcome Tracy Decker, MA, RP to The Mindful Loft.

Tracy is a Registered Psychotherapist who works with adults and couples navigating relationship distress, intimacy and desire concerns, trauma, grief, anxiety, burnout, and major life transitions. She brings specialized training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Integrative S*x and Couples Therapy, alongside a warm, collaborative approach to care.

Tracy also brings more than 18 years of leadership and human-services experience with the Canadian Armed Forces, supporting people through trauma, operational stress, grief, conflict, and significant life changes.

We’re excited to have her joining the loft.

07/29/2026

"Infidelity is often referred to as an attachment injury." That's not a metaphor — it's how our founder, Stephanie Boucher, explained it to Newsweek. The bond you trusted breaks, and your nervous system doesn't just feel hurt. It goes into trauma mode. That's why "just talk it out" rarely works on its own — this isn't a conversation problem, it's a safety problem.

06/30/2026

After being hurt by someone you trusted, it can make sense if trusting again feels impossible.

In this Between Sessions feature, Chelsea Davis shares a gentle way of looking at the protective part of you — not as something broken, but as something that may be trying to keep you safe.

In therapy, we can begin to understand where that protective part came from, how it has helped you survive, and what it may need now in order to feel safe enough to trust again.

Meet Chelsea at The Mindful Loft:
www.themindfulloft.com

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05/20/2026

New issue of The Messy Loft is out!
This one's for anyone who's ever thought, "I know exactly why I do this… so why do I keep doing it?" Turns out understanding and changing aren't the same thing... they don't even live in the same part of the brain.

This month, I unpack that gap, with a little help from a Bridesmaids (movie) scene.

https://mailchi.mp/9ab6b6b8f202/introducing-the-messy-loft-a-new-newsletter-8254156

05/14/2026

Three years of doing this work and the thing that stays with us most is this:

Most people don't come in talking about betrayal. They come in saying they feel off. That they're struggling to trust people. That they overthink everything now.

And, eventually, slowly it comes out: a partner who lied, a parent who let them down in a big way, a friendship that turned out to be something else entirely.

Betrayal trauma doesn't always look dramatic. Sometimes it just looks like someone who stopped trusting themselves.

If that's you, or someone you love, we're here.

04/02/2026

Gratitude and positive affirmations aren’t the problem. Using them to shut yourself down is.

A lot of people learned early on to stay calm, not make things a big deal, and not be difficult. So when something feels off, you talk yourself out of it: “It’s fine. They didn’t mean it. I’m choosing positivity. I’m not going to let this affect me.”

And just like that, it’s gone. Not because it didn’t matter, but because you didn’t let it.

You can appreciate someone and still feel hurt by them. Both can be true. This is the work we do.

Address

250B Greenbank Road, Unit #224, Second Floor
Ottawa, ON
K2H8X4

Telephone

+13438014229

Website

http://www.themindfulloft.com/

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