Cordelia Mejin, Anchored Hearts Counselling and Grief Therapy

08/15/2026

When I was younger, I went through a painful experience that left me feeling as though parts of who I was were not likeable.

For years, I found it difficult to fully be myself around peers, except with people I felt fully accepted by.

Through Internal Family Systems therapy, or IFS, I began to understand that I had a protective part that felt pressure to always be likeable. It had learned to hide qualities it worried others might reject, while trying to protect a younger part of me that had experienced rejection before.

That understanding changed the way I related to myself.

What if the parts of us that people-please, worry, criticize, or struggle to say no aren’t bad parts at all? What if they are trying to protect us from being hurt again?

In my latest article, I write about how IFS can help us understand the protective parts behind people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-criticism, and the feeling of never quite being good enough.

Rather than asking, “What is wrong with me?” we can begin to ask, “What is this part trying to protect me from?”

Read more here: https://www.anchoredhearts.ca/blog/when-you-dont-feel-good-enough-how-ifs-therapy-can-help

08/01/2026

I was flipping through a counselling book at the UBC Bookstore when I came across a quote that caught my attention:

“It is a luxury to be understood.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

These words resonated deeply with me. Somehow, simply reading them made me feel seen and understood.

When I look back on my life, some of the moments that stand out most are the ones when I felt truly understood during my darkest times.

Equally meaningful are the moments when someone has felt seen and understood by me, whether as a friend or counsellor, while experiencing profound pain.

Feeling understood does not take grief away, but it can help us feel less alone and make what we are carrying a little more bearable.

I explore this more in my latest blog post.

You are welcome to share it with someone in your life who is experiencing grief in any form, including death or non-death loss.

I was flipping through a counselling book at the UBC Bookstore when I came across a quote that caught my attention: “ It is a luxury to be understood.” Ralph Waldo Emerson These words resonated deeply with me. Somehow, simply reading them made me feel seen and understood. When I look back

05/10/2026

Mother’s Day can bring up many different feelings.

For some, there is love. For others, there may be grief, distance, longing, or something more complicated.

However this day meets you, your experience matters.

We see you.

If today feels heavy, you don’t have to carry it on your own. The BC Bereavement Helpline is here to listen. Our helpline is open Monday to Friday, 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM.

📞 604-738-9950 | 1-877-779-2223

Thinking of anyone who may be finding this time of year difficult.

05/09/2026

Much of the early days of my grief felt like a blur. What I remember most is that I was simply surviving: wake up, force myself to eat, get through the day, sleep, repeat.

Grief changes your capacity. It is not only emotional — it takes physical energy too. Things you once did without thinking now takes up so much more effort.

In my latest blog post, I write about what to expect in the early days and months of grief, and offer suggestions for surviving them: from tending to basic needs, to protecting your energy, to finding small moments of groundedness when everything feels like too much.

If you are grieving right now, I am sending you much care. If you know someone who is grieving, feel free to share this with them.

Read the full post here:

Much of the early days of my grief felt like a blur. What I remember most is that I was simply surviving: wake up, force myself to eat, get through the day, sleep, repeat. Crying became as natural as breathing. My world halted to a stop, but the world kept spinning. I remember staring at my fa

05/07/2026

04/28/2026

Today, we honour and remember those who have lost their lives, been injured, or experienced illness due to workplace tragedies.

We also hold space for the children, families, and communities who continue to carry that loss 💛

Grief doesn’t end when the day does. For many children, the impact of losing a parent or loved one at work shapes their world in lasting ways.

On the National Day of Mourning, we remember those who didn’t come home—and those who are still learning to live without them.

04/28/2026

Today, we remember the workers who lost their lives to workplace illnesses or injuries in BC. We honour them by continuing to strengthen worker protections, including improved crane safety standards and mandatory licensing and certification for asbestos work. Our work continues alongside partners to help make sure workers come home safely at the end of the day.

04/10/2026

Starting therapy can feel like a mix of hope, nervousness, and uncertainty. You might wonder: Will my therapist understand me? What will I be asked? Where do I even begin?

If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone. Beginning counselling—whether for the first time or not —can bring up many emotions. And that’s completely normal.

In my latest blog, I walk you through what to expect in your first counselling and grief therapy session, so you can feel more prepared as you take this step.

Therapy is about having a safe space where your story is met with care, compassion, and curiosity. If you’ve been considering therapy, this may help demystify some of the unknowns.

When Taylor first walked into the counselling room, she felt a mix of hope, nervousness, and vulnerability. Will my therapist really be able to understand what I'm going through? Can they help me find a way through this overwhelm? Perhaps you can relate to Taylor’s mixed emotions when you thin

02/16/2026

Family Day looks different this year. While many across BC are spending time with their families and the people they hold close, we also recognize that families in Tumbler Ridge are grieving an unimaginable loss after Tuesday’s tragic events.

As we take time with the people who matter most, our thoughts remain with everyone affected in Tumbler Ridge. It’s a reminder to treat one another with extra compassion and empathy—always, but especially during times like these.

Supports are available for anyone who needs them:
· Mental Health Crisis Line: 310-6789
· National Su***de Crisis Line: 9-8-8
· Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868
· Kuu-us Indigenous Crisis Line: 1-800-588-8717
· gov.bc.ca/TumblerRidge

02/12/2026

Today, British Columbia marks a Day of Mourning following this week's tragic events in Tumbler Ridge. Please join us in observing a moment of silence at 12:00 PM (PST).

Our thoughts and deepest condolences are with the families of those who lost their lives, the students and staff at Tumbler Ridge Secondary School, the first responders, and the entire Tumbler Ridge community. We join them in mourning at this difficult time.