07/20/2026
Grief: moving forward and moving on… the two are not the same.
We live and breathe in a world that continues to be uncomfortable with grief, and sadly, those who are grieving tend to feel pressured to get over their grief and move on.
But what so many people fail to understand is that grief isn't something you move on from. When grief shows up at your door, it typically moves right in and becomes part of who you are. You can't outrun it and if the loss is big enough, you won't move on from it.
Yet, society continues to lack an understanding of deep loss and grief. It is incredibly difficult to move on from something that has completely turned your world upside down. Something you will never forget and a loss that led you into the wilderness of grief.
Regardless of how hard you might try, there's no magical guide or map to help you find your way out and to the other side. But you can move forward. And it's important to remember that moving forward doesn't mean you've moved on. Moving forward means you are trying to relearn how to live in a world without your loved one by your side. And that's not an easy thing to do.
It's scary and unsettling when stepping back into a life that's changed so much. There will be days that are challenging and while it's possible to navigate the vast and thick wilderness of loss, the grief you carry will most likely accompany you every step of the way. Regardless of how much time goes by.
Human beings have the capacity to survive and adapt. Even after a tragic loss. There's a knowing that comes with the raw and painful experience of loss and grief. People who have walked the well-traveled road of grief before you will get it and understand. Don't give in to anyone who doesn't understand your pain or tries to pressure you. Life has asked way too much of you and while it's possible to slowly move towards new beginnings, grief will be part of them. And that's ok.
If moving forward feels impossible right now, give yourself grace and compassion even when you can't. Breathe through the difficult moments and try to keep moving even if it's one small step at a time. I'm here.
Michele