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Grief is not a problem to solve…
06/04/2026

Grief is not a problem to solve…

Most people mean well.

They really do.

But meaning well does not automatically make something helpful. It does not make it comforting. And it certainly does not make it true.

So many grievers have heard the same phrases. "They're in a better place." "Everything happens for a reason." "You need to stay busy." "They'd want you to be happy."

The problem is that grief is not a problem to solve. It is not a flat tire, a leaky faucet, or a bad habit that can be fixed with the right advice. It is the loss of someone you love. It changes everything.

People who have never lived through a devastating loss often become uncomfortable when grief stays around longer than they expected. They want to help, but helping sometimes turns into trying to hurry us along. They want us to feel better because our pain hurts them too.

But grief does not work on a schedule.

If you are tired of advice, tired of being told what you "should" be doing, or tired of feeling like you need to look more healed than you actually are, you are not alone. Many of us have discovered that some of the most comforting words are not advice at all. They are simply, "I understand."

And for those of us who have lived it, sometimes that is enough.

“Healing does not mean finishing the old puzzle. It means accepting that the picture has changed.”
06/04/2026

“Healing does not mean finishing the old puzzle. It means accepting that the picture has changed.”

I recently came across a phrase that stopped me in my tracks:
The puzzle won't piece.

I believe that the phrase is commonly used to describe a relationship that no longer fits. No matter how much you try to make it work, the pieces simply don't belong together anymore.
I've been there... I can relate!

But when I heard it this time, I thought about grief.

Because if there is ever a time when the puzzle won't piece, it is after someone we love dies.
At first, we often believe the problem is the missing piece...
The person who should be sitting at the table.
The voice we expect to hear on the phone.
The hand we instinctively reach for.
The life we imagined continuing alongside our own.

And certainly, there is truth in that.
Someone important is gone.

But over time, grief is not only about the missing piece.
It is also about the piece that remains.

Us.

When someone we love dies, we change.
Not all at once.
Not intentionally.
But inevitably.

The person we were before the loss no longer exists in quite the same way.

We now move through the world carrying experiences, insights, wounds, and wisdom we did not have before. Yet many of us spend months or years trying to force ourselves back into the shape we used to be.
We try to return to normal.
We try to fit into the life we once had.
We try to become the person we were before grief arrived.

But the puzzle won't piece.

Not because we are failing.
Not because we are broken.
But because the picture has changed.
And so have we.

Maybe the goal was never to find the missing piece.
Maybe the goal was to become acquainted with the piece that remains...
To pick it up gently.
To turn it over in our hands.
To notice the rough edges and the places where loss reshaped it.

To stop comparing it to the piece it used to be.
And instead ask:
Who am I now?
What matters to me now?
What brings me comfort now?
What do I need now?

These questions require something many grieving people rarely give themselves:
Permission.
Permission to be different.
Permission to think differently, feel differently, and live differently.
Permission to stop forcing ourselves into spaces that no longer fit.
Permission to let go of expectations that belonged to a version of us that no longer exists.

Grief changes the shape of us...
That is not a flaw.
That is not a failure.
That is what love does when it loses its physical place to land.

Healing does not mean finishing the old puzzle.
It means accepting that the picture has changed...
Piece by piece, we gather what remains.
Piece by piece, we discover who we are becoming.
Piece by piece, we create a life that makes room for sorrow and joy, and memory and possibility.

The puzzle won't piece.

But that doesn't mean there can never be another picture.
It simply means we must give ourselves permission to create a new one.

xo
Gabby

You can find this blog here: https://www.thehospiceheart.net/post/the-puzzle-won-t-piece

Thank you for your kind words. It truly was an honour to be there for your family - from the first contact, to the out o...
06/02/2026

Thank you for your kind words. It truly was an honour to be there for your family - from the first contact, to the out of town burial. Thank you for entrusting us with the care of your mom.

The 80’s called… they want their hairstyle back! Happy Birthday to the leader of our pack!
06/01/2026

The 80’s called… they want their hairstyle back! Happy Birthday to the leader of our pack!

We took advantage of the Funeral Service Association of Canada - ASFC national summit being held in Saskatchewan this ye...
05/28/2026

We took advantage of the Funeral Service Association of Canada - ASFC national summit being held in Saskatchewan this year. It was great to be able to connect with colleagues from across the country, in sunny Saskatoon.

CTV News article on the FSAC Summit in partnership with the Saskatchewan Funeral Service Association.

Deathcare professionals from across the country gathered at Saskatoon’s TCU Place for the annual Funeral Service Association of Canada (FSAC) National Summit and Exhibitors Showcase.

“There’s something powerful about being in a room with like-minded people, with people that just get it. So these are people that day in and day out, they are serving families across the country... during their darkest days. And so they are people in this profession that are filled with compassion,” Pam Moss, executive director of the FSAC, said.

The annual gathering changes location each year, and Saskatchewan hasn’t hosted the event since 2012 in Regina. In those 14 years since Saskatchewan last hosted the event, a lot has changed in the profession. “Funeral service, like so many other professions, there’s been a lot of changes over the years. I think especially since [the] COVID [19 pandemic]...there’s been etiquette changes. Society is changing, the demographics in Canada are changing. And so our profession is one that constantly has to adapt to the needs of the families that we’re serving,” Moss said.

The executive director shared that one of the most prominent changes is the addition of live streaming memorial services. “COVID really shone a bright light on the fact that not everyone can be present during a celebration of life or a funeral or a gathering to honour someone’s life. So one of the things that really became important during COVID and has remained is just live streaming,” Moss said.

In addition to live streaming services, many other aspects of the profession have also gone digital. Matthieu Pepin is the chief technological officer of FuneraWeb, a company that offers a variety of services, including the videoing of memorial services. “People can’t always attend physically, they can’t always express their emotions and their condolences to the families. So using virtual technology, they can watch the webcast, can view the ceremony, but they can also testify and leave condolences messages virtually using technology,” Pepin said.

Pepin added that the ability to livestream funerals comes along with the ability to watch the service back at a later date. He shared that this option often ends up being a very impactful one. “When you’re in grief, you cannot really process everything. Everything goes so fast, you can’t really enjoy the testimony of the person who spoke at the ceremony. So a month later or maybe two months, when things have settled down, you can watch the ceremony at home....really process everything, it really helps,” Pepin said.

The increase in options regarding a memorial service extends far beyond the service itself. The exhibitors showcase featured a number of unique things that can be done with cremated remains, which include being made into a diamond or stone.

President of the FSAC, Simon Dubé, shared that while the expansion of the profession is promising, it can make the need for conversations among loved ones about postmortem wishes even greater. “There’s so many different options that we’re offering to families, even meeting with the family to make arrangements, it’s much longer now than it was before because of all the different options...Because there’s so many options, it’s even more important now to rearrange and reflect on what we wanted so our children don’t have to make those difficult decisions on [our] behalf,” Dubé said.

Dubé added that in his line of work, it’s very common to sit down with families who had never discussed postmortem wishes with a late loved one. “It comes by nature, we don’t want to think about it. But when you’re in the situation where you’re sitting down and you need to make some decisions for your dad, and you never have the conversation with them, it’s even harder, to make those decisions,” Dubé said.

Moss echoed these sentiments, sharing that while the topic of death is often an unpleasant one, it can be well worth it to discuss. “Some would say it’s a bit of a death-denying society. I think some generations are a little more comfortable talking about it than others,” Moss said.

Moss added that much of what deathcare and funeral service providers do revolves around offering comfort to people during difficult times. “A lot of people will say, ‘I don’t want anything, I don’t want to put my family through that.’ And I think it’s so important to realize that the gathering after someone has died is for those that remain, it’s not for the person who has gone,” Moss said.

Loss cannot take away love
05/20/2026

Loss cannot take away love

Well the weather is doing it’s typical May long-weekend shenanigans and even throwing some snow into the forecast… but w...
05/15/2026

Well the weather is doing it’s typical May long-weekend shenanigans and even throwing some snow into the forecast… but we hope you have a great weekend regardless! It just might not be a lake day quite yet!

We will not be open on Monday, May 18th, in lieu of the holiday, however we are ALWAYS AVAILABLE to assist you at any time. We are reachable 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. ⏰🗓️ (306)359-7776

We will resume regular office hours on Tuesday, May 19th. Have a safe and happy long weekend!

05/15/2026

Locally owned and operated - Baba's Dough Box is a few blocks east of us, at the corner of Vic Ave and Park Street. Make a habit of stopping in on your way home from work (or whatever time of day works best), especially today! Grab some goodies for the long weekend!

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Regina, SK
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