10/16/2026
You Can’t Do It All by Yourself
When we lose someone and as we begin a new life following their death, sometimes there is a tendency towards self reliance. We don’t want to be an imposition or burden on others; they have their own lives to live and adding to the responsibilities they already have doesn’t seem right. So, we forge on with our own life independently as we grieve and live in a new world without our beloved.
Initially this may seem to work, but the feelings we have need to be shared. Holding thoughts in may mean they are not processed and long term this may lead to an inability share in healthy relationships. If everything is left ‘bottled up’ at some point cracks will appear.
It’s important to recognize that others are willing to help when and in the way you may need them to. Sometimes it’s just a simple matter of talking with them so they can witness if you are having difficulties, which will subsequently lead to them being there for you if and when needed. It may be as simple of getting together for a regular coffee at a local coffee shop, sharing experiences and challenges that are being faced.
In some instances, especially with the elderly when a spouse has died, the effects of this loss is much more than just an emotional loss. It may mean adjusting to an entirely different lifestyle which includes many responsibilities that will need to be learned and taken care of. Family and friends need to be available to help as required, as grief and a new life are experienced.
And those who have experienced loss need to understand that though they think they may be strong, they can’t do it all by themselves.
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