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08/04/2024

Relationships are an endless dance of harmony, disharmony, and repair.

Knowing the skills to repair is the difference between a good relationship and a great one.

08/04/2024

When your trauma wounds are triggered, the past overtakes the present. You're in fight-or-flight, and a primal part of you takes over.

This part of you has no interest in intimacy – all it cares about is survival.

In my book “Us”, I share a Trauma Grid to help you understand more about your wounds.

➡️ Read it now: https://a.co/d/55oH8oa

08/04/2024

If you want more kindness, be kind. More laughter, be funny. Experiment with new moves and see what they bring you. 💙

08/04/2024

Be mindfully intentional, small gestures make all the difference.

12/01/2021

Very helpful!

Very true. If you experience any of this, please get support.

04/18/2021

If you betrayed your spouse your first goal must be to help them heal. If you hope to be able to save your relationship, you have to do the work to win her back.

If you hope to get the chance to save your relationship, you must:
a) have a clear and precise vision of your goal;
b) be willing to take risks;
c) be able to tolerate pushback;
d) have a "desire" that is defined and absolute; and
e) not waiver from your purpose of want to help your
partner/spouse heal.

David Feder, MSW, RSW, CSAT

04/18/2021

A call to action from the work of Charles Swindoll (Pastor)

The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, or say, or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.
It will make or break a company, a church, a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice, every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have and that is our attitude.

I am convinced that life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes, our choices, our decisions.

04/18/2021

Don't waste energy feeling bad or sorry for yourself.

Keep your eye on your destination and always keep moving in that
direction.

Spend time with people who bring out the best in you.

Have faith and trust in whatever is happening now, will ultimately
be for the good. Faith is the antidote for fear.

Love your self and believe in your intrinsic value and worth.

David Feder, MSW, RSW, CSAT

03/24/2021

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.

~ Buddha ~