06/23/2026
Many people assume that strong attraction is always a sign of compatibility.
In therapy, we often explore another possibility: that what feels powerful may actually feel familiar.
When early relationships involved inconsistency, criticism, emotional distance, or unpredictability, similar dynamics can feel compelling in adulthood—not because they're healthy, but because they're known.
This doesn't mean you're choosing unhealthy relationships on purpose.
It means your nervous system may be responding to what it learned long ago.
Healing often involves learning to tolerate relationships that feel safe, steady, and mutual, even when they don't create the same emotional intensity.