08/10/2026
What would happen if you pushed yourself 1% out of your comfort zone?
Have you been playing small?
I go through seasons when I do, and it can feel restful and rejuvenating, until it doesn’t. I start to feel compressed, stagnant, and stuck. Life gets monotonous. I seek joy from TV and food; things that don’t fill me up like putting myself out there does.
This year has been about pushing past my self-perceived limits.
It started with ukulele lessons last spring. Then TWO burlesque dance numbers at the Cake Cabaret. A Bollywood number with the Pink Studio. And most recently, committing to the Menopause Society’s certification exam — something I announced publicly BEFORE I even wrote it.
(Update: I passed and did better than I thought!)
Just this weekend, I went to a social event alone: Unbounded’s Sunset Social at Evergreen Brick Works.
I connected with amazing, like-minded people who were also there solo. But the most important thing I got out of it was reconnecting with myself. Listening in. Navigating flying solo, even through awkward moments. Doing what I wanted. And realizing I can do things without feeling alone.
So…what’s next?
I applied to perform a silk fans or silk scarves number at The Rivoli in October. I want to perform a ukulele number at an open mic. And I want to get the ball rolling on a TEDx talk.
All three terrify me, yet I feel a pull towards all of them.
I’m also trying to model this for my son, Stuart. This was his first year of overnight camp. He also went to Island day camp when his cousin wasn’t going.
I’m showing him that we can do things that aren’t always easy, that scare us, and that put us out there. We can do things that help us grow that might surprise us in a good way.
Because playing small might feel safe for a while, but eventually, it starts to feel like a cage.
Maybe the discomfort of putting yourself out there is actually the price of feeling more alive.
What’s your 1%?
If you’re ready to get clear on who you are NOW, what you want to move toward and what you’re ready to let go of, join me for BeyondBold2026 on September 13 at Guild Inn Estates.
A one-day in-person experience to help you move beyond your limits.