Tara McKee, Registered Psychotherapist and Sex Educator

08/22/2026

08/04/2026

Glad that the research indicated the it’s the relationship with the therapist that seems to be most important, not the modality. The relationship heals. It’s my vibe 😉

07/27/2026

I like these visuals. (Not trying o promote purchases!)

07/26/2026

Quieting the mind with the body doing so the mind can find peace. Trevor Noah and

07/15/2026

Via Kristy Forbes - Autism & ND Support

😳😳😳

07/05/2026

I’ve lived a life of compliance.

Many autistic kids learn from a very young age that the point of it all is to please those around you- at any cost.

Many of us give away our comfort, our safety, our authenticity, our self-esteem, and our mental wellbeing. Some of us give away even more.

Teaching any child to disconnect from their internal body signals is, in my opinion, one of the most harmful things that compliance training can do. Because it leaves us without any internal alarm system. We learn to distrust our own intuition. Before too long, our internal voice that is there to keep us safe- goes quiet. And we have to rely on others deciding what IS and ISN’T ok for us.

And when someone, ANYONE, tells us that something is ok- even if it doesn’t FEEL ok for us- we take their word for it. We don’t question it any further.

We just do it. Because that’s what we have been trained to do.
It’s not about our comfort. It’s not about whether something feels right for us. It’s literally about pleasing everyone else.

That is the outcome of compliance training.

And yes, having a kid who does whatever you tell them might make life easier. Especially when they just do the things quickly without question.

Consider. What other things might they be asked to do in this world? As a kid, as a teen, and as an adult?

It is important that they question things.
It’s so important that they critically analyse the situation.
And it’s so important that they tune into their body’s danger signals.

How else will they keep themselves safe?

Em

06/19/2026

Therapists give their time and care.

We find ways to support ourselves and our role.

Sharing for fellow therapists, and perhaps in clients are curious what we reflect on (and hold, as we accept this and clients are not responsible for us.)

The hidden weight of being a therapist isn't something our clients are responsible for carrying, fixing, or worrying about.

Our clients don't owe us reassurance.
They don't need to manage our emotions.
And they certainly aren't responsible for our self-care.

But that doesn't mean these experiences don't exist.

Many therapists know what it's like to wonder about former clients, carry difficult stories in their hearts, question whether they've done enough, or feel the loneliness that can come with being the one who holds space for everyone else.

These feelings aren't signs that you're doing therapy wrong. They're often part of being a human who cares deeply about other humans.

The goal isn't to eliminate every hard feeling. It's to acknowledge them, seek support when needed, and remember that therapists deserve spaces to be held, too.

If any of these resonated with you, you're not alone. 🤍

02/20/2026