Mattatall - Varner Funeral Home

Mattatall - Varner Funeral Home Mattatall Varner provides a full range of funeral products and services to residents of Truro and su

06/02/2026

Please note that the funeral service has been changed to 3 p.m., Saturday, June 6, 2026. Visitation remains the same from 4-6 p.m., Thursday, June 4, 2026. Karen ...

06/01/2026

Eric Bruce Chapman – 78, Debert. It is with heavy hearts we announce the sudden passing of Eric Bruce Chapman, of Debert, on Friday, May 29, 2026, at ...

Sometimes Grief Needs to be SelfishHow can you even say that? I am not a selfish person. What I am feeling since they ...
06/01/2026

Sometimes Grief Needs to be Selfish

How can you even say that? I am not a selfish person. What I am feeling since they died is an ambush of feelings and thoughts that confuse me. I don’t recognize who I am at times.

Grief is a human experience natural to all who have loved and lost someone close. For some, the unfamiliar raw emotions of a broken heart are best met by accepting a state of selfishness. The Oxford Dictionary defines selfishness as lacking consideration for others; chiefly concerned with one’s own personal profit or pleasure, (personal well-being). Individuals who experience grief, especially for the first time, need to realize it requires their complete attention. This may seem counter-intuitive to someone, especially if they are typically a person primarily concerned with the well-being of others.

It is important that those who grieve consider themselves first, regardless of how many people depend on them. Feelings need to be acknowledged and expressed in order to begin the process towards recovery. Allowing time to grieve, to scream or to withdraw to one’s own space, whatever it takes, will allow the bereft to interact with others in an honest space.

So, listen to your inner voice. Think selfish. Be selfish. Allow the focus to be on you until your journey of healing begins. Know that the difficult feelings you are experiencing will subside.

Bertha Brannen
Grief Recovery Specialist

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05/30/2026

Writing is intimidating for most people. Even those who write regularly get writer's block, lose motivation and procrastinate. It can be even harder to write when announcing the death of a loved...

05/29/2026

A Final Word from Cathy Lynn Buchanan If you’re reading this, it means I’ve finally traded my garden for a set ...

05/29/2026

Marlene Langille-Bates – 78, Brule Point. They will have to make room for one more at the card table. Marlene left her final earthly bridge game ...

05/29/2026

Martena Erma Hendsbee – 82, Truro, passed away peacefully on Wednesday, May 27, 2026, at Colchester East Hants Health Centre, Truro. Born in Truro, she was a daughter ...

05/28/2026

Ross Kent Sturdy – 90, Truro, passed away on Thursday, May 21, 2026, in Halifax, Nova Scotia, with his beloved wife, Marge, by his side. Ross, Dad, Papa ...

05/28/2026

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New Canadian Toonie Honours 25th Anniversary of Unknown Soldier RepatriationTake a look in your coin jar or change walle...
05/28/2026

New Canadian Toonie Honours 25th Anniversary of Unknown Soldier Repatriation

Take a look in your coin jar or change wallet, as you may be in possession of a unique Canadian toonie. Designed by artist Mary-Ann Liu, this commemorative $2 coin honours Canada’s Unknown Soldier and calls all Canadians to remembrance. The design features the image of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, backed by silhouettes of four sentries representing all Canadians who have served, above a red poppy of remembrance.

Few Canadian monuments are more sacred than the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, and none more eloquently express the enduring consequences of war. The tomb is sacred ground, and every Remembrance Day, it becomes a site for collective remembrance, grief and gratitude for Canada’s service members.

The coin marks the 25th anniversary of the unknown soldier’s repatriation from a French cemetery in 2000. The unidentified Canadian First World War soldier symbolizes the sacrifice of all Canadian Armed Forces personnel who have died in service to Canada, including those who are missing or who have never been identified.

As a lasting legacy, the coin will continue a tradition of remembrance, encouraging all Canadians to honour the sacrifices on which our freedoms were built.

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