06/09/2026
Forgiveness = given Access = earned.
Someone who hurts and crosses a boundary or violates an expectation can say sorry and you can forgive them and have love and wish them all the best.
However, don't ignore what they taught you about your relationship and give them that place... that standing back in your world as if nothing happened. That is what they want, and that is a hurt part of you that tells you that if you don't succumb, you won't be okay.
When you stop people pleasing, and you enforce expectations & boundaries, different people will react in different ways... some worse than others. If someone does you wrong and doesn't respect your boundaries, they can say sorry and you can forgive.
This will bring you peace, but this doesn't mean they get the same access to you as they did before.
That has to be earned.
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