Lauren Millman Wellness

Lauren Millman Wellness Big impact. Welcome! I'm so glad you're here. After 20 years in private practice, my experience is wide and my toolbox deep. We will get you there, together.

Marriage and Relationship Strategist
Anger Management | Conflict Resolution
Stress Reduction
Nervous System Repair
Parenting | ADHD | Cassandra Syndrome
Weight Loss | Nutrition | Menopause
Overwhelm | Exhaustion
Small shifts. Boundary UP Coaching is the page name associated with my Private Practice, Thrive Relationship and Divorce Consulting, offering transformative and life-changing support,

mentoring, coaching and guidance to men and women who want and need better, and who want to transform their lives. I'm Lauren Millman, and since 2004, I've been helping people in difficult relationships, or who are devastated by separation or divorce, reconnect, rebuild and restore, and get their lives back. I work based on a hybrid model, both online and in-person, using several modalities including Psychotherapeutic Methodologies, Neuroscience, Psychology, Mindset, and Perception-Based Belief Systems Paradigm.

7 easy daily actions you can start today to improve your life, reset mental health, reduce stress, and jumpstart weight ...
09/01/2026

7 easy daily actions you can start today to improve your life, reset mental health, reduce stress, and jumpstart weight loss.

1. Stop drinking pop and juice. Drink more water.

2. Move. Take a walk. Take the stairs. Go two-by-two’s. Movement is momentum. It wakes up your brain. Releases happy hormones. Builds resilience.

3. Eat more protein. Protein keeps muscles working well, and giving you energy.

4. Connect with people who are living purposefully, and drama free.

5. Remember, every choice you make, what to do, how to act, what you think, believe, feel…

…contributes to shaping who you are and how you see things.

Practice positively how and what you think.
It becomes you.

6. Repeat 1 through 5

XO, Lauren

The invitation? Disappointment. The uncomfortable situation you’ve been tolerating too long is taking a toll, and you fe...
08/26/2026

The invitation? Disappointment.

The uncomfortable situation you’ve been tolerating too long is taking a toll, and you feel you need to do something, but don’t know what.

What you’ve been quietly tolerating, you can’t any longer. You’re unhappy and miserable, and can’t seem to snap out of it.

It’s been too emotional, and too emotionally taxing, and now, you’ve just accepted it.

It’s too big to do anything about it now, and you feel like you’ve tried everything, and nothing has worked anyway, so why bother; it is what it is.

No. It’s not.

I help women (and men) speak up, and show up for themselves.

Because if you’re suffering in any way, you deserve more.

And you certainly don’t deserve to suffer, and not have your peace and happiness.

Getting comfortable in the discomfort of the uncomfortable, and tolerating it

is not the answer.

And won’t bring you peace or happiness.

Where does it end. When does it end.

Asking isn’t working.
Demanding isn’t working.
Boundaries are being broken….

No more.

It can change, and you can change it.

You can change it all.

You don’t have to live in this quiet discomfort and tolerate anything anymore.

That’s it.

Let’s figure this out. DM me to chat, and see if we’re a good fit to work together.

Lauren xo
Whole Body Wellness

Great opportunity!If you’re experiencing a power player, any kind of ‘power play’, here are three things you should know...
08/17/2026

Great opportunity!

If you’re experiencing a power player, any kind of ‘power play’, here are three things you should know, and how to handle it.

1. It’s coming from a place of insecurity.

2. It’s probably become habit, and predictable.

3. There’s opportunity in this for you when you feel it;

Make it meaningless. And mean less.

How and what you think will always always take you where go.

When you release your attachment to whatever meaning you’re putting on it,

your feeling will get less hurt.

That’s a huge opportunity for you to step into the control and power you have.

And if this power player is you (it’s been each and every single one of us at one time or another),

here’s something for you too:

You will catch more butterflies with honey than a trap.

Because the only one you’re really trapping, is you.

PS… Insecurities can be worked on, without loosing face, feeling humiliated, or embarrassed.

They stem from whatever’s unresolved, and the anger and resentment you’re carting around.

You just need to find a better place for it.

You’re not reacting only because you’re angry at them. You’re responding in anger because your nervous system is hearing...
08/16/2026

You’re not reacting only because you’re angry at them.

You’re responding in anger because your nervous system is hearing them, and reacting on your behalf.

You’re triggered, extra protective, and your hyper vigilant switch is on.

Anger is not the enemy of your overcoming it, your healing from it, or your forgiveness for it.

It’s the fuel for it. It’s what’s feeding it.

It’s what’s keeping you angry, resentful, triggered, and yes, deep down, unhappy.

Anger gets buried so deep, and cloaks everything; how you see things, how you are around others, and how you are when you’re with yourself.

Anger isn’t your foe. It’s your friend.

It’s telling you something.

It’s information for the betterment and health of your soul, and reminds you that something is unresolved, still triggering you.

Anger knows something important.

It knows exactly what was said or not said, what was done or not done, what was taken, what feels uncomfortable

And it knows exactly what you didn’t get.

When you feel it trigger or rise up, before you try and quiet it, or allow it to explode

sit with it for a few minutes before you let it speak.

Your nervous system needs you to handle and manage it in a way that isn’t any more disruptive that it already is.

You don’t need to be triggered or in that angry hot.

You need to be calm and aware, before you’re able to address it with clarity, it a meaningful and purposeful way.

Now you’re in control. And have power.

Over it, over the approach of the conversation to come, and in control of your nervous system, which you’re running now.

Here’s a tool on how to get an upper hand on  . This one works well for narcissistic behaviors too. What behaviors do yo...
08/15/2026

Here’s a tool on how to get an upper hand on .

This one works well for narcissistic behaviors too.

What behaviors do you need to stop?

What do you need in your toolbox?

Ok….I hear you. I’m listening and I want you to know the struggle is real. I’ve struggled too. That extra weight you’re ...
07/28/2026

Ok….I hear you. I’m listening and I want you to know the struggle is real. I’ve struggled too.

That extra weight you’re carrying thot just doesn’t seem to come off

and you either can’t seem to stick to a plan, or you feel like you’ve tried everything and you’re fed up and tired of trying,

just remember that your body, physiology, lifestyle and habits are unique specifically just to you.

Your body, and how it works, isn’t like everybody else’s, so the tips and shifts below need to be in the right amounts for your body and lifestyle, habits, and goals.

So, I’m going to share with you 7 habits
I teach clients to help them learn how to lose fat and reduce weight gain

that you can start with too.

Here we go…

1. Sequence your food

Vegetables first, protein next, carbohydrate last.

Eating protein and vegetables before carbohydrate can blunt the glucose and insulin rise after a meal.

2. Build a consistent eating window

You do not need an extreme fast.

Ten hours of eating and fourteen overnight without calories is enough for many people, and time-restricted eating has shown modest improvements in glycemic control in metabolic syndrome.

3. Stop drinking sugar

Pop, juice, sweetened teas and energy drinks undo a clean day of eating in minutes.

Drink your water and
chew your calories.

4. Walk after meals

Ten to fifteen minutes of walking after eating helps muscle take up glucose from the bloodstream, and trials show it improves glycaemic control. You need shoes, not Lycra. Aerobic exercise more broadly can reduce visceral and liver fat.

5. Protect your sleep

You cannot sleep five hours a night and expect a metabolism that behaves like it had eight. Sleep-restriction studies show increased calorie intake, weight gain and greater abdominal and visceral fat.

6. Build muscle without a gym

Chair squats, glute bridges, resistance bands and wall push-ups build the progressive resistance that improves body composition and helps reduce visceral fat. Muscle is metabolic infrastructure.

7. Rebuild breakfasts around protein

Pastries, sweet coffee, toast and jam or sugary cereals are a dessert of extra fat and weight waiting to clothe you. They’re a breakfast costume, and they leave you hungry by mid-morning.

Greek yoghurt, eggs, tofu, avocado, nuts and seeds, and cottage cheese improve satiety and the glycaemic response for the rest of the day.

Most people try to exercise fat away. Or reduce what they’re eating altogether.

The better approach is to start shifting and changing your environment, sleep better, eat, yes, eat, sequence your food, move after meals, and start easing into building and improving muscle mass.

No gym required.

But there’s more. It’s not necessarily you.
It’s not that you don’t have the willpower.

Your body is signalling you to eat, and your brain is signally your body to hold onto that fat or extra weight.

Why? Because your nervous system may be out of whack.

We can fix that so you lose the weight.

If you’re dealing with low energy, exhaustion, hunger, frustration, high cortisol, stress or chronic stress,

and you just can’t seem to lose the weight,

I’ll support you alongside your efforts, at your pace, with your goals.

I’ll do a Food Audit to start. We’ll go over what you’re eating, what you’re doing, your current lifestyle, and your weight loss goals.

The next step is the first step to take, and we’ll take it together.

We’ll see where you can start making successful and sustainable shifts

to lose that weight, get your energy back, and feel better, stronger, more empowered and healthier.

L. xo

So yesterday I ran an online workshop for 10 women who are having trouble loosing weight, or finding it challenging to s...
07/24/2026

So yesterday I ran an online workshop for 10 women who are having trouble loosing weight, or finding it challenging to start, and stick to it, and the one word that kept coming up, was diet.

We don’t diet.

I don’t put any of my clients on a diet.

Because they don’t work.

And it’s old thinking.

We talk about making a few easy, subtle changes that you can introduce into your unique lifestyle, your current lifestyle situation, and your meals, and we make doable alterations or changes that YOU feel are sustainable, that you can manage.

And, we begin by looking at patterns, what you’re currently eating, and what you’re not eating or getting enough of.

Dieting is all or nothing. Changing everything, completely.

If that’s what your goal, I can help you make that happen, but we’re going to do it slowly and sustainably, so that you’re not deprived, starving, and giving up after 2 weeks.

And it’s all backed by science. I take you through a basic understanding of how our bodies work and help you understand your own body and your own physiology, and why

it’s actually not your fault you’re not loosing the weight.

It’s your brain.

So no, it’s not willpower.

You’ve got that already.

Keep that word diet out of your mouth.

You won’t loose weight on a diet.

L. xo

06/30/2026

Menopause itself isn’t the only cause of weight gain.

By working with, and supporting certain hormones, you can loose weight, feel less hungry, eat less, increase satiety, and…. boost your energy.

Your body is an amazing machine, and with certain tweaks, shifts, and balances, you can feel better, and loose the weight.

04/30/2026

Weightloss, Nutrition & Menopause support for women 35+ using a science-backed holistic approach as a whole, strong & confidenct woman.

No dieting. No heavy workouts.

Small shifts. Big impact.

⬇️ DM to Book a Complimentary Health and Nutrition Audit ⬇️

01/28/2026

Doing this will change your life. It’s an easy step by step process you can follow, starting today. Right now.

This one change can do more for your life
than any clever reply ever could, or any upping the ante ever would.

If you stopped trying to win arguments,
and started choosing to be calm instead, this is what would happen…

When emotions spike, the goal is simple.
Protect your peace.

Most reactions feel urgent.
Very few, are.

Here is the reframe that can change everything for you.

🧠 Slow yourself down in the moment
-- Pause before you speak.
-- Ask what you are really reacting to.
-- Space weakens the story.

This is power. With this power, they actually have none. You’re not trying to win; You’re attempting to gain control, direction, and calm, for a better outcome for both of you. This kind of power is also helpful, because you’re it only de-escalating the situation and keeping yourself out of emotional deregulation, you’re helping them de-escalate towards a space to converse calmly and effectively.

That’s power.

🎯 Wait. Breathe. Choose your response
-- You do not owe speed.
-- Silence is not weakness.
-- Energy is expensive. Spend it wisely.

🔄 Become an effective leader. Shift the frame, and lead by example
- -Acknowledge and validate.
- -Ask why they feel this way.
-- Offer to explore other issues.
- -Things aren’t often just as as they’re presented.
-- Heat and hot tempers fade.
- -Logic lasts.

🌿 Mind yourself
-- Breathe in calm.
-- Mirror what you heard.
-- Slow your pace.
-- Hold one calm thought.
-- Let the wave pass.

❌ Stop yourself from
-- Over-defending.
-- Blaming yourself.
-- Replaying the moment.
-- Trying to win.

✅ Start
-- Pausing on purpose.
-- Responding with care.
-- Protecting your peace.
- -Getting control FOR them, and you.
-- Moving forward.

💬 Responses to keep ready
-- “Ok, I need a moment to collect my thoughts.”
-- “Let’s pause here for a minute.”
-- “I’m not quite ready yet. Give me 10 minutes.”
-- “I want to hear how you’re feeling.”
-- “I want to solve this.”

Try this today 👇

•Choose calm. Everything else is off the table.
•Breathe, practice waiting, and not reacting.
•Become aware of when you’re triggered, and then ask yourself why.
•Let a nasty comment pass. You can address after or later, kindly and with kindness, in an understanding they were hurtful and to not do it again. (It’s easier to catch bees with honey than poison)
•Don’t proceed until you’ve gotten your own emotions under control.
• Acknowledging and validating them is your best way to also being heard and validated.
• Ask one clarifying question about the outcome or goal they need.
• If this triggers you, go back to the beginning ( breathe, practice waiting, don’t react) and start again.
•You’re in control. you have the ability to control yourself.
•You have the leadership power.
•Empowered is your ally.

Reactions and responses. There is a difference. And they matter.

You can’t control others.

You can always control yourself, and how you respond.

That, is real power.

Your, real power.

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